Moving on...
Heh. Thanks for your replies, gang.
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I suppose it uplifts me a bit to know that grown men who still have a number of years than me are, in some ways, grappling with the very same issue. Never mind that most of you, even the ones who haven't responded yet, have still gotten over a few of those Eriksonian identity contests like marriage and fertility and generativity and stuff like that. I'm in awe.
It's just tiring, I guess.
It's up to the guys like you and me and us to become educators. We've got to wake people up, snap people out of those judgments, get others to think a little bit differently. And wouldn't you know just how tiring that task can be?
The easy part is being myself, sure. I can't help it. And I'm not gonna change for anyone. And hell -- "not changing" isn't all that difficult either. It's being able to do that
and weather the storm of the judgmental
and teach the judgmental who want to come around -- all that put together -- is tiring.
And I suppose it's only human to admit that people, especially openminded people, have to derive some sort of pleasure out of waking up people from their unconscious hate and loathing (just like I get a kick
helping people through their problems). People appreciate others who appreciate themselves, like their qualities, find joy in their companionship. And certainly people want that validation from the very others whom they hold close and care about the most.
It's easy to disregard. It's easy to act like nothing's wrong. It's easy to stiffen your lip. I guess I just needed to feel okay with, you know, after putting up with enough crap and realizing that I
am weathered in some ways. Will I come around? Of course. First and foremost, I have to be okay with experiencing a "trough" in my emotions. Can't be sunny and happy all the time, can't be carefree all the time. And who the fuck is really happy and up and sunny and all that shit 24-7, anyway?
Lex: You remind me of a passage I read in
The Zen of Oz about how there are some folks who are so mired in guilt and hatred that they just want to drag everyone else down with 'em.
All in all, if Jacinto can make a (not even funny, witty, or useful) wisecrack and I can respond with an :evilgrin: then I guess I'm on the right track -- at least around here.
I suppose I need to recharge and maybe talk this out some more. Or maybe I should just do what I
really want to do and call people out and confront them immediately if they've got unpleasantries to share behind my back.
One thing I readily admit, no matter how small of frame I may be, my mouth and wit really intimidate the hell out of people. Most tend to back down and stop the gossip altogether if I just make it known, and perhaps I'll feel better if I am more reluctant to let things slide. Not every little thing. Just the important ones. Just the important issues.
In Unrelated News:
Ok, so I'm watching the E! True Hollywood Story on Paula Abdul. Why does she sound drunk on camera, anyway?