Openmindedness And Interpersonal Drama

[madame_zora]

Yeah, it's true that I don't enjoy noobs I don't know PMing me about how they'd like to titty fuck me. What's your point? I put it in my sig, so no one should be surprised. Try to find a newbie who PMmed me something nice that I blasted- you won't. I don't usually respond until I know them better, but that's my decision.

I wasn't making you my stalker by proxy, I don't have mental issues in regard to an online loser like that, I was just pointed out that you did the same thing a mentally derranged person did, and it's not cool. You made me (and a lot of people) feel vulnerable in the sense that if anyone HERE decides they don't like us, they obviously feel free to launch an investigation into our personal lives, and that's stepping outside the boundaries of a support group, which this is supposed to be.

I hope you like who you are, we all should. That doesn't mean you are above self-examination, nor does it nullify the possibility that you could have acted wrongly.
When I asked you directly the reason for your attack, you said only that you just don't like him and it felt good to you to bring him down. If that's not sick, I don't know what is. At least I'm not going on hearsay, I'm using your own words. If that's behavior you continue to be proud of, you are not the therapist I'd want to see.

Finally (and it will be), when you have PMmed me about things like my issue with rude PMs, I have listened to your points. While I do not agree with them all, I have paid you the respect of taking your opinion into consideration, and have augmented a few things, like my sig. Try it sometime. What I resent about you is your unwillingness to look at yourself as possibly having been wrong. It's childish. The problem here is the likelihood of repetition, if you learn nothing from mistakes, you'll continue to make them. While I don't presume to be the one to teach you anything, look at examples of how MANY of us have been willing to look at our posts and say "Okay, maybe I was wrong about that, What I really meant was...." or just a simple "I'm sorry". If you ask (or rather demand) an apology from someone, the burden is on YOU then to accept it. You did not. Didn't apologise, continued to harass him AFTER he apologised, and continued to brag about your own superiority. I have nothing to learn from that kind of behavior.

 

[D_Bud_Hurt]

Well, atleast the topic is staying right on target??? Wow, can't we all just get along? Haven't I heard that before?

Rodney King... ?

A 'Forgive me' if I've offended you has never hurt me, ever. It actually gives more power to the person asking it, rather thay wielding profanities and bitterness, which will only allow us to reap what we've sown. Certainly I claim no perfection of my own in this life, far from it for that matter.

I have never been afraid to go to someone and ask their forgiveness. I may not feel I owe them an apology, however, when I have asked them to forgive me, if they are, or have wronged me in some way, the guilt then rests upon them, and frees me. Sure I have had people talk behind my back. As long as I have one, they will talk behind it. But as long as I have a face, I can face them, and as long as I have a heart, I can and will open it for them, whether they really can accept it or not...

That's just me.

 

[Lex]

Some of us actually enjoy posting with both DMW and DB. I wish that both of you could co-exist in a thread without it turning into a pissing contest. Te subject matter of this thread is very timely (and intriguing)--let's not ruin in by arguing. This place is like a big family after all--rifts and all.

 

[Pene_Negro_Grande]

Wow, this thread has gone somewhere else since the original post....I am lucky because my friends that I hang out with are really unique and cool themselves so my style (which is very unique and stands out) does not get any negative comments for what I know....The comment I always get is - It takes a confident person to wear that or someone in a store saying - I am glad you bought that because I love it and no one else is brave enough to wear it....For some reason I pull it off....And lately my friends have been taking risk to with their individual style....But I really think it depends on the environment you are in....When I went home to visit my family which is not in a metro city like I live in, I did get comments like - those pants are weird or old looking (plaid pants)....I didn't let it bother me and I just commented that - every town has an indivual that stands out and has their own unique sense of style and I am that individual from this town and that is why I moved to a city/state that I wouldn't feel so individual....

 

[prepstudinsc]

Ok, let's get this thread back on target, only because I don't think we need to rehash all the drama from a few months back.


What is "open minded"? There are people who claim to be open minded, but the moment you have an opinion that differs from theirs, they vilify you, of which we have plenty on this board. Then there are those who are of the mindset of "anything goes." There are the people who hold fast to their opinions, but will talk to the other side. Each will claim to be open minded.

If people make snap judgements and don't get to really know you, they are the ones who lose out because they form a decision that very well may be wrong and they may choose not to get to know you for the wrong reason. You just can't let it bother you. There are plenty of people who will still want to chill with you and not care.

Who would want to live in a world where everyone is the same? (aside from Chimera? LOL) I think it would be awfully boring. I'm bougie and you're kinda hippy. PNG wears very unique clothes when he goes home and he gets comments from his family. Some of us on here are Christians and others are not. That's what makes for some good dialogue. As long as we can respect each other's differences. Just don't be a liar or a faker (or a Klansman) and I'll pretty much be able to listen to you. I won't always agree with you, but I will be able to respect your opinion as long as you respect mine.

 

[Alley Blue]

Originally posted by prepstudinsc@Aug 30 2005, 02:45 PM
What is "open minded"? There are people who claim to be open minded, but the moment you have an opinion that differs from theirs, they vilify you
If people make snap judgements and don't get to really know you, they are the ones who lose out because they form a decision that very well may be wrong and they may choose not to get to know you for the wrong reason. You just can't let it bother you. There are plenty of people who will still want to chill with you and not care.

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My head is spinning! :hangover:

Prepstudinsc you gave a *perfect* example of what "life" is for most of us. Its appears that the issue is not so much with "open mindedness" but with unconditional acceptance of others. Those who benignly differ from ourselves.

Most people claim they can easily do this when they come across new acquaintances who "dance to the beat of a different drummer" and are different then themselves. But from the cliques and gossip that ultimately ensue, you'll find there’s falsehood in there so called "open mindedness" and "acceptance".

This statement is really directed to my own personal experiences and observations in my day to day life.

Let me be the first to say that I feel, there are way more "accepting" people here at the LPSG then I've happen meet in the world outside of "the Net"..........of course i'm speaking from my own interaction and no one else's.

 

[B_Hickboy]

Originally posted by prepstudinsc@Aug 30 2005, 10:45 AM
*snip*


What is "open minded"?

*more snippage*

The simple definition is this: Everyone who thinks like me is open minded. The less like me you think, the more close-minded you are. If you think more like than me than I do, you're probably too open minded, which is a form of closed mindedness in and of itself if you think about it. I insist that you open your mind and think about it. Makes it so much easier for me to be open minded if you are, too.

To sum it up: There are two kinds of people in this world -- me and everybody else.

:dodge rotten fruit:

:tinfoilhat:

 

[B_Hickboy]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Aug 30 2005, 03:14 AM
Yeah, it's true that I don't enjoy noobs I don't know PMing me about how they'd like to titty fuck me.
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Madame Zora,

I have read your prohibition against PMs and will honor it. If I ever ask to titty fuck you it will be in front of the entire forum so I can get what's coming to me.

(Which is a slap in the face and a kick in the balls and a :spank: , in no particular order.)

 

[Pene_Negro_Grande]

That was pretty funny...I think it is easier to be open-minded...Why stress over something that doesn't concern you...Just go with the flow and you will feel so much better...

 

[madame_zora]

Originally posted by HickBoy+Aug 30 2005, 03:29 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(HickBoy &#064; Aug 30 2005, 03:29 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-madame_zora@Aug 30 2005, 03:14 AM
Yeah, it&#39;s true that I don&#39;t enjoy noobs I don&#39;t know PMing me about how they&#39;d like to titty fuck me.
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Madame Zora,

I have read your prohibition against PMs and will honor it. If I ever ask to titty fuck you it will be in front of the entire forum so I can get what&#39;s coming to me.

(Which is a slap in the face and a kick in the balls and a :spank: , in no particular order.)

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You&#39;re not a noob anymore, you&#39;ve posted in the forums&#33; I still don&#39;t want to hear your sexual fantasies in PMs but feel free to talk about a real subject with me. I had to place that tagline because every new guy on here thought I wanted to be his personal private sex partner, which I don&#39;t.

Your post before was hilarious&#33;

 

[B_Hung Muscle]

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because every new guy on here thought I wanted to be his personal private sex partner, which I don&#39;t.

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Nope, not every one.

I don&#39;t really understand what all the drama is about and how this thread got onto whether DMW should feel angry because Dee tried to see if the facts he gave on this site are accurate or not. How can you be accuse someone of spying on you if you write you&#39;re from a certain place, have a certain job, appeared in certain magazines, danced in certain clubs, know certain people, teach other posters on this board? I&#39;ve always liked DMW&#39;s and Dee&#39;s posts so I guess I don&#39;t understand the deal. But it seems to this impartial observer that looking into "facts" placed on this board by DMW hardly constitutes spying.

Look, kids, it&#39;s the internet -- people lie all the time. My experience tells me the more time someone spends on a particular website, the more likely they are to be making up a whole new persona. If we start calling it out, there will be a whole lot of people&#39;s pants on fire around here.

 

[madame_zora]

@Hungmuscle- sorry, I should have specified str8 guys&#33;

Yeah, I can see your point, so could DMW, which is why he apologised for being misleading. However, his purpose in doing so was one we can all understand, to prevent intrusion into his real life. I&#39;ve done it before myself, as we all know the weirdos that hang out online, it just seems to shut them up faster to give an answer than to have to say "I"d rather not say", which often leads to more taunting. Anyway, once someone apologises, it should be over, it wasn&#39;t. That was my beef.

 

[headbang8]

Cooled off yet, guys?

 

[D_Martin van Burden]

I think I&#39;m more pissed at how gas prices went up thirty fuckin&#39; cents a gallon from the time I went into work (noon) to the time I got back (nine-thirty). I better get my sneakers ready in case I have to pedal my car.

/throws a tomato at HickBoy :evilgrin:

 

[DC_DEEP]

Excellent posts, Prepstud and HickBoy. Hickboy&#39;s post points out exactly what seems to cause so much misinterpretation of some of my posts. It is usually in one of the Etc. threads about religion that I am so often accused of villification. However, a careful inspection of ANY of my posts will reveal that my mindset is simply this: I am perfectly happy to allow you to believe as you wish so long as it does not impact upon me; but I DEMAND that you allow me the same latitude as I give you, don&#39;t hold me accountable to your beliefs. I think that is really what "open-minded" is all about. Wear whatever clothes you prefer, but don&#39;t expect me to conform to your sense of fashion. Worship freely as you choose, but don&#39;t require me to worship or to adhere to your sense of scripture.

Some people just never give up when they try to dictate the lives of others. As long as I harm no one, my life is just exactly that - my life.

The open-minded person: "You choose to be vegetarian, that&#39;s fine, I&#39;ll still eat what I want to eat."

The narrow-minded person: "I find eating dead animals to be repugnant. Therefore, you will conform to my idea, and you will be vegetarian."

DeeB and DMW: You have both said just about all there is to say. Since you can find no common ground between you, please just simply leave one another out of your posts. There is nothing to be gained by redundantly rehashing what has been repeated over and over numerous times.

 

[Alley Blue]

Originally posted by DC_DEEP@Aug 31 2005, 12:14 PM
exactly what seems to cause so much misinterpretation of some of my posts.

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I feel this is one of the problems everyone faces in a forum such as this. I would bet ALL of our posts have been and can easily be misinterpreted at one time or another.

I call it the unavoidable problem of communicating solely by text. There&#39;s something about facial expressions and tone of voice that helps "fill in the blanks" in communicating with other humans.

 

[B_Hickboy]

Originally posted by headbang8@Aug 30 2005, 10:02 PM
Cooled off yet, guys?

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laughed so hard i hurt myself. :rofl:

my cum really is green. didn&#39;t know that was abnormal. now i&#39;m gettin a complex.

 

[Pene_Negro_Grande]

Originally posted by madame_zora@Aug 30 2005, 06:55 PM
@Hungmuscle- sorry, I should have specified str8 guys&#33;

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Maybe str8 guys who do not have anything better to do....I think that would be a bit weird and don&#39;t think I would be pming someone with lewd comments....Guess that is just not me....Sorry madame that you get some of the weird and lewd requests....Well they must think you are really hot so at least you know you got it (LOL)....

 

[madame_zora]

Originally posted by Pene_Negro_Grande+Aug 31 2005, 01:54 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(Pene_Negro_Grande &#064; Aug 31 2005, 01:54 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-madame_zora@Aug 30 2005, 06:55 PM
@Hungmuscle- sorry, I should have specified str8 guys&#33;

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Maybe str8 guys who do not have anything better to do....I think that would be a bit weird and don&#39;t think I would be pming someone with lewd comments....Guess that is just not me....Sorry madame that you get some of the weird and lewd requests....Well they must think you are really hot so at least you know you got it (LOL)....

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Aww, thanks, whatever "it" is&#33; Most guys who are intelligent and have something more to offer would write about something else as an introduction, right? I&#39;m glad you understand.

 

[B_Hickboy]

Originally posted by madame_zora+Aug 31 2005, 01:36 PM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(madame_zora &#064; Aug 31 2005, 01:36 PM)</div><div class='quotemain'>

Originally posted by Pene_Negro_Grande@Aug 31 2005, 01:54 PM
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@Aug 30 2005, 06:55 PM
@Hungmuscle- sorry, I should have specified str8 guys&#33;

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Maybe str8 guys who do not have anything better to do....I think that would be a bit weird and don&#39;t think I would be pming someone with lewd comments....Guess that is just not me....Sorry madame that you get some of the weird and lewd requests....Well they must think you are really hot so at least you know you got it (LOL)....

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Aww, thanks, whatever "it" is&#33; Most guys who are intelligent and have something more to offer would write about something else as an introduction, right? I&#39;m glad you understand.

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Something along the lines of, "You got a sister?" :dunce: