B_Jennuine73
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What are your opinions of BDSM and the people who practice it?
I think there is a fine line between BDSM and abuse. There are a lot of hurt people who are involved in this lifestyle. Notice I did not say all have been hurt.
On the other side, there are many dominants who were abused as well and are "taking out" their anger and hate on "weaker" people (male or female).
Another view, is that adults who enjoy being submissive are, in a sense, re-enacting their abuse in order to come to grips with it sub-consciously. Because if they enjoy it, want it, they are the ones in control.
What most don't realize, is that in any safe BDSM interaction, it is always the sub who is in control. There are safe words established before play, and the dom/domme knows what the limits are, and if they are a good dominant, respect those limits. What you will hear a lot of dominants say is they enjoy "pushing the limits" of the sub, and promise a sub how wonderful and fulfilling that can be. Yet, it is always the sub who decides how far it will go, in a truly "consenting adult" way.
I think there is a fine line between BDSM and abuse. There are a lot of hurt people who are involved in this lifestyle. Notice I did not say all have been hurt.
- I have been in the lifestyle for over 11yrs.
- I think some people participate in BDSM because the thought of having control over another's sexual activities/thoughts is extremely sexually gratifying. On the flip side, having your control taken from you by a person you know is safe can satisfy deep desires.
- The lines I do not cross are: no shit, blood, scaring, bruising and extreme degradation.
- I think the key is consenting adults.
On the other side, there are many dominants who were abused as well and are "taking out" their anger and hate on "weaker" people (male or female).
Another view, is that adults who enjoy being submissive are, in a sense, re-enacting their abuse in order to come to grips with it sub-consciously. Because if they enjoy it, want it, they are the ones in control.
What most don't realize, is that in any safe BDSM interaction, it is always the sub who is in control. There are safe words established before play, and the dom/domme knows what the limits are, and if they are a good dominant, respect those limits. What you will hear a lot of dominants say is they enjoy "pushing the limits" of the sub, and promise a sub how wonderful and fulfilling that can be. Yet, it is always the sub who decides how far it will go, in a truly "consenting adult" way.