Oral outside of marriage

[Xry777]

My wife never enjoyed it and only did it for me.
I found a married man my age that loves sucking and swallowing. Great oral skills and it turns me on that he likes it and wants my load.

You say “enjoyed” so I assume you and your wife aren’t still together..?

 

[malakos]

I do enjoy his performance, yes. I still do.

Well, here's my idea: start laying it on how skilled he is at sucking you and how much you enjoy it, and that you're often thinking of it. I suspect that approach should be encouraging.

 

[Itsmeandyou]

If you two are frank with each other, I'd recommend bringing it up again, but with more assertiveness about it being something you're really missing and craving. But if you don't have a frank line of communication that approach could come across as heavy-handed.

I have another idea... back when the sex was more regular, did you enjoy your spouse's performance?

Even more important, when she was sucking your cock did you tell ya you loved how she sucked it?

 

[long_uncut]

That is a very nice cock and a real shame to have it unappreciated. I hope you find a solution to your problem!

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

Yes it has. He’s NOT interested. I did catch him on Grindr before and he said it was just because he’s bored. I believe him. Monogamy has never been a problem but here we are 6 years later. I’ve had plenty opportunities to do this but I can never make myself do it, so that’s a good thing. I’m not gonna lie, I could do more to initiate in this department so I’ll have to do that.

Bored? Bored how, by what, etc.? Maybe there's a lot more to his simple explanation.

You guys really need to focus and talk.

You seem to get that infidelity is a dead-end street you can't back out of, but I can't emphasize this too much. If you have even the slightest twinge of guilt *thinking* about it, you won't enjoy the afterglow at all.....

 

[japetty]

He's 100% gay, I think "wife" is a little off, lol



I'm afraid you are heading for more problems than you're already having. Cheating never ends good. Has the subject of opening the relationship been brought up?

Yes, he does state he is gay but in todays world a mate is a mate be it male or female. Just because his mate is a male does not make it not cheating?

 

[twoton]

If you're worried that you'd feel super guilty, that's your conscience telling you that you'll feel super guilty if you do it.

If you think cheating is o.k.--in other words, if you'd be o.k. with your spouse giving blow jobs to someone else but not you--then go for it. If it would upset you to know that your spouse gets off on giving head to someone else but not to you, then don't cheat.

 

[Countryguy63]

Yes, he does state he is gay but in todays world a mate is a mate be it male or female. Just because his mate is a male does not make it not cheating?

Has nothing to do with pointing out the obvious mistake.

You must not read before responding, since I too classified it as cheating in that same post, so your question is null and void.

 

[ronin001]

Rule 8, of the Guy Hand Book. Get as much VJ and Oral sex before you get married and the kids come along.
At least you will have a fond memory or two, in your old age , to look back on