wvalady1968: I was working with a small group of women this morning, and one of them shared a joke re oral sex. We laughed, all but one. She's mid thirties, seemingly happily married for 12 years or so, two kids, attractive. She said she finds it a turn off, either way. No cun, no fel. Stunned silence reigned long enough for us to become very aware of it; then someone cracked wise to break the tension. But the subject wasn't mentioned again. Now, I want to know: how prevalent is that attitude? Should I try to clue her in to what they are missing? She's a close friend at work, but we don't really socialize much beyond that.