earllogjam
Expert Member
Just a bit of a ramble, feel free to ignore me here, I've got nothing overly important to say.
I've always found it hard to accept my sexuality. I've done the whole, 'I'm not gay, I'm Bi' thing but have matured enough now, i think, to know I'm gay, all be it not actively gay.
I've found it increasingly difficult of late because more and more people I know are getting married, buying houses and planning for kids, you know, the good old ordinary life everyone expects you to want, have and live.
So here I am, on the verge of 30 and still frightened over my first kiss, if I should ever actually meet anyone. Sigh.
I guess i was kinda brought up to expect to have the live that everyone else around me is living, but then bang, you realise you're gay and that ultimately means, that the 'ordinary' life isn't ever really going to be yours.
I feel like I'm grieving for a life i didn't actually ever have anyways.
I try my up most to be happy for other people on their big days and such but really, deep down inside, it really hurts to know it will never be me. No marriage, no kids, no mile stones that everyone else is always bloody singing about.
Do all gay guys just get old and die in a corner somewhere? Perhaps we do.
Thats all folks, I'll go and be sad somewhere else. Sorry if i've bummed anyone out.
Pup. x
Pup, what are you afraid of?
I think you really need to ask yourself and find out what really makes YOU happy. If you don't know you'll need to find out. Once you discover that you won't be as lost as you are.
I think you wrap too much of your identity in your sexuality when in reality you are much more than what you to do in bed.
True, you're not gonna get married, have kids and live a traditional married life of a straight man because that's just not who you are. That is the model of happiness that was sold to everyone in our society. That's what we are all led to believe but in reality there are many paths to happiness. As a gay man it is essential that you realize this.
You WILL die alone in a corner somewhere and wallow in misery all your life but it's not because you are gay, it's because you bought into the belief of others that being gay is a miserable lot.