Orgasm each time for satisfying sex???

[LaFemme]

This is why there are women who fake it.

Man: Are women only satisfied if they have an orgasm?

Women: No. It is possible to be satisfied without having an orgasm, and I'm fine with not having an orgasm every time.

Man: I think I'm going to stop fucking this woman who has been satisfying me, and who has been satisfied sufficiently to keep returning, because I've arbitrarily decided her satisfaction doesn't count as mutual because it's not the path my ego needs.

No judgement, but this is why.

Exactly. Men get so mad if women fake, and it's true, we can cheat ourselves out of learning to orgasm if it's a chronic habit. But personally I've found I've done it to protect the fragile male ego. So many guys just can't accept that sometimes, it just isn't going to happen - and it's okay.

Oh, well. If it's just a sexual relationship and you don't want to invest anything in it, that's totally your prerogative.

Thanks for your input everyone. I guess it was more a shot to my ego to find out she has not cum with me, especially since she keeps coming back. At this point, I will likely end our sex arrangement. The fact that she's not getting off has me less turned on. There are enough people willing to have sex with me that I can find women who, like me, enjoy mutual satisfaction.

 

[Samantha Hopkins]

Guys seem to base the quality of sex on whether their partner has an orgasm. It seems very very important to them.

 

[GottyGat]

Guys seem to base the quality of sex on whether their partner has an orgasm. It seems very very important to them.

This is true. As, I stated in the OP, sex for men under normal circumstances, ends in an orgasm.
Is an orgasm not essential for a sex/lovemaking session to be pleasurable to you?

 

[neon_beaches]

Having sex with my partner is pleaurable for me period. Or he wouldn't be my partner.

I love orgasms. And I love having them with my partner. I basically never ever in my life have had them from penetration - but I have tons of them with my partner because I told him how to get me off and he loves seeing me come. So it's awesome.

Sex in our culture is still so heavily Phalo-centric, meaning it's all about a cock pumping and thrusting and the woman screaming and writhing in pleasure la la la blah blah blah. And sadly, as a result, a lot of guys attach way too much ego to what they can do or can't do with their penis. When in reality the word SEX is a million times bigger than just penis-into-vagina back and forth until Yahtzee time.

My advice - ask your partner how she likes to get off. What gives her awesome orgasms. Probably she loves the penetration but needs some stimulation in other ways too. And this is likely because women's bodies and sexual systems are wired totally differently from men. You can't apply the male logic of sex to women's bodies and be surprised when it doesn't work.

So communicate! Really this is the key. Talk openly and frankly about what you need, and about what she needs. This is the key to freedom and success.

 

[Samantha Hopkins]

yes and no. I do not have to orgasm to thoroughly enjoy sex. For example, I love giving blow jobs. Despite the fact that I dont orgasm from giving a guy a BJ, I really enjoy doing it. Even with regular sex, just because I dont have an orgasm doesnt mean i didnt have a great time. That said, having an orgasm or five is wonderful.

It just isnt the "everything of sex" as it is for guys. When you are with the right guy, it is simply a bonus. For me, being connected and having him inside me, and making him cum is incredible. My own orgasm is frosting on the cake.