Orgasm from deep

[weeone]

My girlfriend always orgasms from penetration but only if I am in as far as I can go (7 inches). I can feel the tip of my penis flick over something and she goes crazy and normally orgasms within a minute from the deep stimulation. Anyway, I feel that if I was just a tiny bit longer I could really get the spot so I was thinking to try with a sex toy maybe 8 inches. Are there any women who also orgasm like this who could advise me the best way to stimulate the spot? Curved dildo, straight, vibrator etc. I would discuss it with her but she seems to feel awkward about having a detailed discussion about sex. The spot is up towards the front it would seem. I know I should try and approach her about it but I thought I would try and get womans perspective before I maybe suggest something to try together.

 

[AlteredEgo]

See, we won't really be able to help. All we can do is give you the same general information about anatomy as Google. The problem with that is what you're flicking past is her cervix, and we don't know anything about how it is positioned. She may not know either, though she can certainly find out. Cervices are not all the same size, and vaginae are not all the same length. Her cervix may be further in, or more shallowly located than mine. It may point forward, back, straight down. It may occupy more space in her vagina than mine. She could move to a new phase in her menstrual cycle and THAT could reposition her cervix.

Now, for the same stuff Google will tell you. Warning: I'm going to write in almost purely clinical terms. You may or may not require a dictionary as some familiar words do not carry the same meaning in a clinical context.

This spot is the posterior fornix. It is located on the superior cervix, which itself is located on the anterior vagina. To reach, she must be very aroused so that the cervix will move out of the way. At this point, the superior vagina will change shape and size like an expanding balloon. With more length, more pressure could be applied. This is key, because that part of the vagina is generally far more sensitive to pressure than to temperature or friction.

For me, long and upwardly curved reaches most easily in missionary. For me, a partner must initially aim toward my backside, brush past my cervix, and then arch slightly forward. What I like best is to feel the glans pop back and forth gently past my cervix and then apply extremely firm pressure to the posterior fornix. Shay enjoy directing you herself by climbing atop and doing to herself what feels best, an act from which you can learn plenty for when it becomes your turn to ride.

 

[weeone]

Thanks for your help. I realize women are very different. I suppose that makes them even more appealing, a journey of discovery. I did figure it was the cervix, although I was unsure whether it was the anterior or posterior fornix. I have also noticed that I can feel the area more prominant during certain times during her cycle, just as you say. Interestingly my girlfriend says size does not matter but if I was shorter then I would not hit the aforementioned spot. She does not convince me. I think she may be simillar to you as she likes short deep thrusts just flicking the spot once I get right in. I may try a long curved sex toy. If I can find one that is not like a baseball bat in terms of thickness.

 

[AlteredEgo]

For me, if the head is too narrow, I don't like deep penetration. Feels pokey.

Size doesn't matter to me, and I love posterior fornix orgasms best of all, so I don't see why your wife can't be telling the truth. I don't think my current dude can reach, but I do love the way his erection fits. I can't explain it well, but just the way it is seated when it's all the way in, is somehow magical. Just the way it feels to be jammed against his pelvis afyer having felt the friction against my g-spot, and the jolt of his glans slamming into my anterior fornix is so incredible. I never have to have another posterior fornix orgasm if I keep getting to feel that.

What you are forgetting in YOUR NEED to believe that size is important to all women, including your wife, is that as a person without a vagina, you are in no position to form an informed opinion. There are so many vaginal places with sensitivity that are never written or spoken about because female orgasm is hardly ever studied, there are no real landmarks to easily describe the locations, and many people are not interested in being extremely clinical in their analysis of sensations they enjoyed during sex. At least, that's true for me, and those are the reasons I project.

I'm just saying, keep an open mind. You're basically saying your wife is either a liar, or too stupid to know what she wants. You're a nice guy. I bet you don't believe that at all, so just believe your wife. She may not place the same values on certain experiences that you do.

 

[weeone]

Thanks again. You are quite correct that is probably my need to believe that size important. I suppose men brainwash each other into believing that, due to growing up hearing that women desire large penises, from other men. Porn does not help either. I suppose it is mostly made by men for men and the women desire big penises is perpetuated. Of course, there are women who do I am sure, just like some men like large ladies or different breast sizes for example. I think I have realised it is my insecurity about pleasuring my partner that brought to ask for advice in the first place.

 

[Scarletbegonia]

Thanks again. You are quite correct that is probably my need to believe that size important. I suppose men brainwash each other into believing that, due to growing up hearing that women desire large penises, from other men. Porn does not help either. I suppose it is mostly made by men for men and the women desire big penises is perpetuated. Of course, there are women who do I am sure, just like some men like large ladies or different breast sizes for example. I think I have realised it is my insecurity about pleasuring my partner that brought to ask for advice in the first place.

And all of those fallacies do naught but mess up relationships.
Let it all go and do the best you you can do.

 

[Tattooed Goddess]

If she's already having orgasms that quickly, why change it up? My vagina couldn't easily add an inch extra in length to accommodate a larger dildo. I'm not a fan of the idea for obvious reasons. Your penis is getting the job done. More of something doesn't always equate better or more pleasurable.

 

[EllieP]

If she's already having orgasms that quickly, why change it up? My vagina couldn't easily add an inch extra in length to accommodate a larger dildo. I'm not a fan of the idea for obvious reasons. Your penis is getting the job done. More of something doesn't always equate better or more pleasurable.

Your last sentence needs to be engraved on a gold plaque and hung at the log on screen. Perfection.

More of something doesn't always equate better or more pleasurable.

- T. Goddess​

 

[AlteredEgo]

More of something doesn't always equate better or more pleasurable.

Believe this. And then, as you indicated you would in your first post, if you are interested in the novelty of a toy, talk about it with her. She may already know the answers to your questions. Lastly, please don't get in the way of your own fun. Go enjoy your woman. Let her enjoy you too!

 

[AlteredEgo]

Your last sentence needs to be engraved on a gold plaque and hung at the log on screen. Perfection.

More of something doesn't always equate better or more pleasurable.

- T. Goddess​

Unless it is chocolate, money, or legroom on a long flight. Mo' chocolate is ALWAYS mo' better.