My last relationship (going on 2 years of celibacy now) broke up partly because I grew tired of 10 years of not getting sexual pleasure while he always did. He was ok with me never having orgasms nor of ever changing our routine. According to him the majority of women are incapable of having orgasms during sex - why should I think I would or could be any different.
Yeah, but I doubt he ever told any guy friends that he couldn't give you an orgasm.
I've lost those 10 years but I guess it taught me a lesson. A friend of mine says ultimately in any relationship you get precisely what you tolerate. I think I'm the Poster Child of her saying. After we split up I vowed never again to settle for a man who was ok with me having orgasm-less sex.
Don't feel bad. I think a lot of us have wasted time either having bad sex or no sex in a relationship or not even being in a relationship. At least you
only wasted 10 years. Some people go their whole life without sex or good sex.
The problem is women are physically much more complex than men.
Some truth there, but I don't agree entirely. Sex experts write that it's all about stimulating the guy's cock. I disagree. Guys aren't comfortable letting women explore their bodies because they feel like it's not manly or something. But I think sex would be more enjoyable for them if they let women try more things. I'm thinking anal stimulation, for example.
If we're talking about just having an orgasm, then yes, generally guys can do that pretty easily, but there are some women that can also.
Once many guys cum they think they've done their job and are annoyed if the woman doesn't cum, even if they've only been pumping for 5 minutes or less. WTF?!?
That's when you're supposed to jump up, sit on his face and say, "Start licking beeach!"
Also men are encouraged to masturbate from a very early age. Most women are not.
Who encourages boys to masturbate? Everyone seemed to make fun of boys that masturbated and no one I knew ever admitted that they masturbated when I was a teenager.
Now, as far as who's responsible, I agree with what others have said. You need to communicate and tell your partner what you like. If you stay with someone that doesn't listen to you, then it becomes your own fault.
For me, I just gaze deeply into her eyes and she tells me what she wants without saying a word. Then I get busy like a good boy should. When she is completely satisfied I ask for her permission to have an orgasm. And if she says yes, I'm forever thankful.
