Orgy- Considered Gay?

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  1. D_Theobald Knutsak

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    Hello, i was just searching these forums and a lot of them are about saying "is this gay?". This just came to me. Is an Orgy with two guys one girl gay? Or even bi?

    Just a thought....


    Have a good one.
     
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    This is just my opinion:

    Two guys, one girl is a three-way. Not an orgy.

    Straight men can engage in sexual activity that is considered "gay" without being gay.

    Two men and one woman can engage in sexual relationships with nothing "gay" going on between the men.

    Any of the people involved could be bi.

    To me the question isn't clear. If someone were asking something like: "This guy and I had sex with the same girl. I don't like guys and nothing happened with the other guy and me. Would this make me gay or bi?" To which the answer would be "no".

    Or maybe one of the guys performed oral on the other and liked it but isn't really attracted to guys. In which case, the answer would be "I dunno".

    A lot depends on context and what was going on. Also, I default to how someone self-identifies. If a guy is sucking my dick and says he's straight, that's how he defines himself. And the best thing to do is respect how other people view themselves.
     
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    opinion seconded
     
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    I'm from the upper midwest... give me a break :smile:

    three-way then whatever you want to call it...

    Have a better day than yesterday...
     
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    My favorite is when the guys tag the girl for awhile, then one of the guys tags the other guy while he is tagging the girl. I like to imagine that I'm the guy in the middle.
     
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    If the guys start fucking each other and forgetting the girl, then I think it's become something more than a hetero three-some. ;-)
     
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    And for some reason in porn they often end up that way.
     
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    :confused:

    Wasn't trying to be rude or condescending.

    Just stating my opinion of what I considered it to be. No need to get defensive about what I was saying.
     
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    My bad dude! I didn't mean for it to sound like that at all! Im sorry. Thats why i dont like text conversations theres no room for sarcasm or anything like that its all about how one reads it at first...

    But once again sorry man
     
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    It's called a managed'3.
     
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    I don't think so. If both males are straight and the contact is accidental or non sexual then your all good!
     
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    Got it. Very nice of you to clarify. :biggthumpup2:

    Much appreciated.
     
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    I wanna go threesome with you, Jon !!!
     
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    Back in the late 70's when I was a total "he-whore" 95% of what I went to with regards to "group sex" was heterosexual. An "orgy" per se does not state gender of the participants. An "orgy" is an "orgy" and one can specify the orientation separately.
     
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    Ménage à trois ;)

    I've had sex with a woman. Does that make me straight? I don't feel very straight. :rolleyes:
     
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    There's specific terminology for determining whether a three-way involving two men and a woman crosses the line from hetero into something else.

    MFM refers to an encounter where both men focus on the woman but do not interact with each other other than logistical issues of coordination: no sexualized touching, kissing, etc.

    MMF refers to an encounter where the two men interact with each other in a sexualized manner: oral/anal penetration, mutual JO, etc.

    If anyone is uncomfortable with using the term bisexual to describe an MMF, perhaps "pansexual" would be preferable; an an anarchist it's one that appeals to me personally. It suggests more of an out-of-the-box, label-free way of thinking.

    IMO, the term "orgy" has a dated quality similar to "pot party" or "wife-swapping": relics of a different age. The current expression is "group sex", which can mean anything from a three-way to an encounter involving a houseful of people with no implication of gender at all.
     
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    It strikes me that we spend far too much time trying to categorize our behavior as "straight" "gay" "lez" or "bisex" when (at least in my experience) it can be a moving target. I think it's valid to query whether, when I'm desperate to pump a load, I'm going to care about which gender a hungry mouth or talented tongue is associated with. Sure, I'm more attracted to women than men - a loose or momentum filled blouse will stop me in my tracks every time. I'm clearly a hetero-motivated dude. But sometimes I need to watch a nice hard cock doing what it was meant to do, and I feel hungry for one. Guess that means I'm bisexual, or bi-curious, if it means anything. And perhaps that's the point. I'm not certain it really has a meaning, other than I am seriously horny and have a true appreciation and attraction to well-tended genetalia. I think that's part of what makes me human.
     
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    For myself I don't see how that is possible when two dicks are rubbing each other within the female's orifices. I always thought that would be part of the appeal.
     
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    I certainly know that being inside a woman with another guy would be the only scenario under which I would ever be inside a woman at all..... :smile:
     
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    Agree - It is a pleasureable act being shared between like-minded guys
     
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