Through a combination of various personal issues, I've been out of dating/relationships/sex for about 5 years. Some meds I'm now off interfered with my sexual functioning. Prior to the long drought, and in the two times I did have sex during it, I didn't function well with intercourse. Suffered a double-whammy: Trouble getting hard and barely lasting. Had great stamina and no erection problems before this period.
I now fear not functioning very well at first with intercourse as Im getting out there again. Lost my confidence.
Fucking isn't everything, I know, and I love performing oral sex on a woman (every time--yes, I've received great acclaim for my skills and love of doing it), and love exploring a woman's body in all ways, so I always make an effort to be sure my partner is pleased. But major intercourse failure is embarrassing for a guy. I think I'll get back to normal eventually, but it might take a while.
Wondering if and how I should bring this up with a new female partner the first time (I'm in my, and target-age women are in their, 40s--not talking about 1-night stands).
Should I say something--lightheartedly if so--about being sexually "out-of-shape" when we get to the point of intercourse--beforehand, mention it after, or just go with it without comment? I'd prefer to bring it up somehow but don't want to disclose much about my lack of sex/relationships for so long (and how that resulted from being in a very down period in my life).
Women? Straight guys who've been in same boat with women?
Thanks.
I now fear not functioning very well at first with intercourse as Im getting out there again. Lost my confidence.
Fucking isn't everything, I know, and I love performing oral sex on a woman (every time--yes, I've received great acclaim for my skills and love of doing it), and love exploring a woman's body in all ways, so I always make an effort to be sure my partner is pleased. But major intercourse failure is embarrassing for a guy. I think I'll get back to normal eventually, but it might take a while.
Wondering if and how I should bring this up with a new female partner the first time (I'm in my, and target-age women are in their, 40s--not talking about 1-night stands).
Should I say something--lightheartedly if so--about being sexually "out-of-shape" when we get to the point of intercourse--beforehand, mention it after, or just go with it without comment? I'd prefer to bring it up somehow but don't want to disclose much about my lack of sex/relationships for so long (and how that resulted from being in a very down period in my life).
Women? Straight guys who've been in same boat with women?
Thanks.