A Small Dick I Must Hide
The conventional answers on the web to this anxiety is three fold: 1) nobody is paying attention to your dick in the locker room; 2) you are not as small as you think you are, and 3) flaccid does not correlate to erect size. I think these observations are true but not too helpful.
Observation one: True it is your dick is not going to be the center of attention and your fixation on it is not shared by others who have their own to focus on. But of course your dick will be seen. That is what naked means -- dick is out of his underwear. Seen and paid attention to are not the same. I shower with lots of men over and over, week after week and I generally don't remember anything about their individual penises. But if you asked me who is really big, yep one dude pops into my mind. And when I think smallest, I have to think longer but can think of a couple. Everyone else whose face I can recall I remember nothing about their dicks.
Assertion two is totally true. Men who are decidedly average or even above think they are comparatively smaller than they are.
It is also true some guys grow more than others upon erection, and there is locker room puff where some men's dicks get a little semi so they have a locker room size that's bigger than their softest.
But none of this matters in my view. You think your dick is small, so let's accept that as fact even if it might not be true and even if you would enjoy a bit of puff that would equalize you. And let's assume everyone will see and remember your cock (even though they truly won't).
To begin, full disclosure: My flaccid dick is objectively small. And my erect dick if it tries really hard (pun intended) just makes six inches.
If your reason for not wanting to undress in the locker room is perceived small dick, you have a ton to gain by doing this. Why? No man should have dick shame. It messes up a lot of stuff in life. We are all better off when we are honestly comfortable and accepting (not necessarily fully satisfied) with ourselves.
While being naked in a locker room is a simple utilitarian matter of getting changed and cleaning up, psychologically much more is happening.
When you are naked in a locker room you make a profession of gender (I belong and am allowed here only because I identify as a man). You are trusting and identifying with other men and they trust you (he just dropped his drawers with you in the room because you're 'just' another man like him and you accept him as such).
The psychology is never expressed, and for dudes for whom the locker room shower was always really easy, there is nothing seemingly profound about it. Even though, what it means is accepting yourself, trusting others, expressing your gender identity and by mere presence validating his.
Men who have a locker room anxiety hang up want to shower with the guys, crave doing it but have a wall of anxiety and fear that prevents them from doing it.
If that is you, you can work on being okay with your dick (he's tired of you being ashamed of him what with all the good he does for you) and work up to taking that liberating shower.
How to? I shared some generic thoughts earlier.
Any small dick anxiety dudes want to tell how they managed to get past it?
