Overcoming gym shower fear

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Would you use a naked-only hot tub in men's locker room? Have you?
Yes; I wish my current gym had one. I have gone to gyms in the past with them. I don't remember specifically seeing a "naked only" sign, but nudity was the norm. I would take a few trips back and forth between it and the open shower...no towel needed. If the water is extra hot, guys would often spend part of the time sitting on the edge with just my lower legs in the water. I loved doing this...felt awesome to have my legs in the hot water and penis fully exposed in the air.
 

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Three Scenarios

Okay, shoot.

1. The shower room has four open shower heads on one wall, no dividers or curtains. And four stalls on the opposite wall with dividers and curtains. There is one naked guy using the open showers, first head as you enter. And one stall is in use, curtain drawn closed directly opposite him. There are towel hooks at each stall. Hooks for open showers are in adjacent drying area. Which would you use today?

Depending upon how shy I'm feeling today, or what sort of vibe I got from the gym / locker room / guy showering, I'd either use one of the open shower heads, at least one apart from the guy currently showering, or one of the stalls. (Seriously, I've belonged to gyms that I was comfortable in, and gyms that were known to be 'meat markets' where they guys were always checking each other out and either primping or obviously judging. In the latter, I'd be more inclined to use the stalls. Especially these days.)

2. You are visiting a new gym. You just had a tough workout and discover on the way to showers this locker room has a large whirl pool. It seats eight. It looks clean. Naked use only. There is one old guy using it presently. You have time. Would you shower and go in?

Hell, nowadays I'm probably the old guy who is sitting in it. In my younger days, it'd depend, again, upon the vibe I got from the guy in the whirlpool and the gym / locker room itself. Speaking from the old guy's perspective: I don't give a damn whether you come in or not. If you do, I'm probably going to give your body the once-over look, and think that I wish I still had the body I had when I was twenty (not that I'd ever want to be twenty again.) After that? Well, if you're the talkative type, I'm happy for good conversation, assuming you're not an idiot. Else, I've no problems just sitting quietly and enjoying the whirlpool.

(Yeah, I'm bisexual. It doesn't mean that I slobber, slaver, and drool over every guy in the locker room. There's this thing called manners, for chrissake....)

3. You need to piss and shower. The bank of urinals is near showers directly opposite wall with towel hooks. Do you pee first then return to locker get undressed and head to showers, or do you strip for showers, put towel on hook and take a naked pit stop to piss befote entering showers?

If the urinals are between the door and the lockers, I piss, then strip, then shower. If they're on the way to the showers, I strip, then piss, then shower. Given that I'm not the well-built, good-looking young man I used to be, anymore, I'll probably keep the towel wrapped around me, unless I'm pissing or actually in the shower. Nobody said you have to strut through all the rooms naked with said towel over your shoulder.

When first going naked in a public setting, like a locker room, it's easy to feel as if all eyes are upon you. Thing is, you quickly get to understand that they aren't. Very few, if any, people in the locker room, showers, or head are at all interested in your dick or ass, and those who are...well, if they can't show manners and common courtesy and respect, (un)fuck 'em. They're hardly going to assault you, in the first place, and it's easy enough to make sure they know that their leering and/or creepy behavior isn't at all welcome.
 

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i almost never change or shower at the gym and i go a few times a week. I'll wear the gym clothes and then go home and shower. I never saw the point of doing it there simply because then id have to take a padlock/tower/flip flops/ change of clothes etc. Its just a bunch of extra stuff. It seems that only really old guys do it (at least at my gym).

though today was the first time i did actually take a shower at the gym. I was trying to take my underpants off under my towel but then just said "fuck it" and walked around with my dick hanging out. its no big deal really. Just nothing i feel is necessary
 
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i almost never change or shower at the gym and i go a few times a week. I'll wear the gym clothes and then go home and shower. I never saw the point of doing it there simply because then id have to take a padlock/tower/flip flops/ change of clothes etc. Its just a bunch of extra stuff. It seems that only really old guys do it (at least at my gym).

though today was the first time i did actually take a shower at the gym. I was trying to take my underpants off under my towel but then just said "fuck it" and walked around with my dick hanging out. its no big deal really. Just nothing i feel is necessary
Love it, all that time going home hot and sweaty and then suddenly "fuck it" and there you are parading round flopping cock for all to see - good on yer, a sign of maturity and really no big deal
 

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locker room nudity phobia: fear of getting an erection is probably #1. Some people are just uncomfortable with nudity in general, feel uncomfortable seeing penises or whatever. I do wonder if the cruising aspect does turn some people off; for example, you may be totally comfortable with nudity and even erections, but dislike being cruised. I'm totally comfortable being nude in the showers etc, but I get tired of being stared at by men I'm not interested in (i.e 40 years older than I am and out of shape), so I often wear a towel around the locker room etc.
 
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Love it, all that time going home hot and sweaty and then suddenly "fuck it" and there you are parading round flopping cock for all to see - good on yer, a sign of maturity and really no big deal

haha yea it wasn't as weird as I thought it would be. The gym has individual stalls so its not that big of a deal anyway. I got out of the shower and drying off and this guy in his underpants comes up and is looking around for a shower. I told him I was all done and could use mine. was completely comfortable talking to the guy as I was completely nude with a towel over my shoulder haha. I thought I'd be really uncomfortable with the situation but it felt completely normal. Still I probably won't take too many showers there as I only live a few minutes away anyway.
 

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haha yea it wasn't as weird as I thought it would be. The gym has individual stalls so its not that big of a deal anyway. I got out of the shower and drying off and this guy in his underpants comes up and is looking around for a shower. I told him I was all done and could use mine. was completely comfortable talking to the guy as I was completely nude with a towel over my shoulder haha. I thought I'd be really uncomfortable with the situation but it felt completely normal. Still I probably won't take too many showers there as I only live a few minutes away anyway.
its the being able to shower that's important and feeling comfortable being looked at and looking
 
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locker room nudity phobia: fear of getting an erection is probably #1. Some people are just uncomfortable with nudity in general, feel uncomfortable seeing penises or whatever. I do wonder if the cruising aspect does turn some people off; for example, you may be totally comfortable with nudity and even erections, but dislike being cruised. I'm totally comfortable being nude in the showers etc, but I get tired of being stared at by men I'm not interested in (i.e 40 years older than I am and out of shape), so I often wear a towel around the locker room etc.
An interesting phenomenon to me is how people tend to freak out over people who aren't ''attractive". When you're old an unattractive then you're just a perv. I mean, even among straight guys they tend to mention they are uncomfortable in the gym because of those old fat men standing there all day. Just something I've observed.
 

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i was part of the last generation that had to shower after gym class in HS & after football & rugby practice & games. I've always been okay with being naked around other guys and showering before going to class or home. it had been a while since those days to recently when I got back to the gym and I was using my gym near my house and one at my office. it is out of necessity i can't go through my day smelling like a soggy gym sock. plus its nice to get fresh after a hard workout. I'm also a huge Sauna user its my treat after a hard morning at the gym and I'm usually drenched after the 20-30 minutes sitting in the heat. so the shower is almost therapeutic.
 

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2 3 and 4 for me, but as part of army selction there was communal showers, but we didnt have time to even think about it we had to be up 05:30 and washed dressed and beds ready for inspection by 06:00. im sure it will be the same when i am actually in, but its all in your head, people dont care
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and yes, up early and standing to attention for inspection in almost double time, as for the communal showers at that time in the morning it was get wet/dry and dash.....but still time to look! Know that, been there, done that and ....
 
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I started taking gym showers when I was 18. My friend that I worked out with took them so I started too as well. Was nervous at first but so many guys showered I got over it quick. Funny thing was first time we took a shower together he had a giant scrotum hernia.

Years later, I had a friend that I would see at the gym we both went to. He would never take showers there. But one time he told me that he'd get a rash after working out. I told him it was because he wasn't showering afterwards. That convinced him to start taking showers there. He was always uncomfortable being naked but got used to it. He told me later taking a shower immediately got rid of the rash.
 

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When I first stripped naked in a locker room to take a shower -- many years ago -- there is no doubt that space was culturally assumed to be a totally heterosexual space. I assumed every guy I showered with -- many hundreds if not thousands over many years -- was straight. The internal dialog was "I am a man, you are a man. We are not interested in each other sexually, see our dicks are soft." Guys that hid their dicks were thought maybe gay. (Both stupid assumptions.)

Fast forward a generation and attitudes have changed -- for the better. And the stupid assumption everyone naked in the gym locker room is straight cannot even pass the laugh test.

The men's Locker room is for all men. But the dialog has only changed a little for me. "I am a man. You are a man. We need to get naked here. Our limp dicks mean we accept this is not a place for sex." Towel dancers I assume are just not open or comfortable with their masculine identity. In other words they are just modest for some reason.
 

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One of my friends is trans. I think if he can overcome his fears of showering at the gym, all us cis guys can too.

I count myself VERY lucky. When I was about 11 my parents put in a pool. I was already old enough to be afraid/ashamed of getting naked in front of my peers. I was fat, uncoordinated, nerdy, sick all the time, and hitting puberty early in a particularly ugly fashion. I didn't know I was gay then (that challenge would be overcome much later). I was definitely on the standard American track of being thoroughly uncomfortable with nudity, but then something happened.

When my parents pool was finally completed my sister and i had a pool party. Since my sister's friends were using all the bathrooms for privacy my best friend N and his little brother C were forced to change in my room. Had it just been N and I, we probably would have waited. Taking turns changing in my bedroom. However, C was around 7, and he hadn't yet gotten to the age where guilt/fear/inhibition sets in, so he immediately stripped off his clothes in front of us.

N and I were faced with a dilemma, either we would demure and tacitly admit that we were afraid of getting naked, or pretend that we were unafraid and follow his little brother's lead. We were both totally uncomfortable with our bodies, but for whatever reason admitting we were ashamed of them was also a kind of shame. And so rather than admit our discomfort we both just went for it.

We saw each other naked both then and later when we got out of the pool. And guess what? It totally cemented our friendship together even deeper. We grew to become very comfortable naked in each other's presence. Sometimes we were practically nudists. In high school we frequently spent all day naked together in his oven of an attic bedroom. And we definitely went skinny dipping in my parents pool at every opportunity. It still took me AGES to become comfortable in gym locker rooms, but I totally owe my friend and his little brother for putting me down the path of acceptance of my body.

Anyway, I guess if there's a moral to this story, it's have friends to get naked with. People who won't judge you or shun you. Go with them to the gym (or spa, or camping, or wherever)! Maybe strangers would be easier for you, but for me, having a buddy to go through that process with was a big help.
 

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never had any problems at all, at school it was one big tiled room with shower heads, and the guys got naked and went under the water, soaked and horsed about, some guys got erections - and also big laughs - but in the main a good introduction to the various bodies cocks and balls guys have. Changing for sports, seeing guys getting into jocks, tucking tackle in that pouch, hairy asses and firm butts made undressing like eating ice cream - easy, no probs.
Later in life in the services different shower but no privacy so more naked guys to look at and be seen by, guys 18 plus full of spunk, got horny under the hot water, horsed about like at school and even on odd occasions simulated sex acts in a circle of naked hand clapping friends. Likewise changing to go out, no curtained sections just a row of beds and lockers, you bared your ass and changed your undies totally naked, a way of life, and also a way of appreciating how wonderful the grown male body is in all its glory, the full bush in all its colours, the circumcised cock and the finely shaped uncut.
Nowadays guys are all private, PC to the enth degree and some cannot handle seeing other guys naked so what they gonna do when presented with a big hairy cunt and pendulous tits and invited to fuck of go down on.... or perhaps I was the cosseted one being aware from a very early age what all naked bodies looked like!
My experience is very similar. I understand that some people are more shy than others, but it just seems like some people are over-thinking this. No one really cares what you look like or how you act---they are there to take a shower and get clean. They probably won't even notice if you get a hard-on. Relax, it really isn't that big a deal....at least in my opinion......Peace.
 

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I got out of the shower at the gym and their was a cleaning lady taking out the trash. I was pretty surprised, not expecting a woman int the men;s locker room. I guess they put a sign up but I didn't even notice it. She didn't seem to care. I am surprised that the gym would have a woman cleaning the men's room but I think they are short handed seeing as no one seems to clean the place during slow hours.
I was hoping that it would turn into a porno...but she didn't even look up when i walked out naked hahaha. too bad
 
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Strange--been showering with other guys since 7th grade gym class . . . was it not a requirement where you all grew up?
Yes but I know for myself and most of my mates, confidence in the showers grew after losing virginity. In some cases you could see them alter almost immediately after they had done the deed and you just knew that they had done IT.
 

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when I was in PE, we all dropped our shorts at the beginning of class to show we had a jock on, and after we showered naked, no clothing, no exceptions. chuck that fear shit out the window. my teacher told us that we all had the same equipment more or less and he didn't want to hear any comments made about someone's cock/body or punishment would follow. but comments were still made, not by me. I felt sorry for the fat guys, the "small" guys. the gay guys were super timid almost shaking in fear, trying to undress and dress inside their little bitty locker. I kept my mouth shut. MYOB was key and those that didn't paid. I was lucky, on the skinny side with an athletic build, and hung. I won the cock lottery. I still got verbal abuse about being skinny, but no cock comments, good or bad.
 

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I got out of the shower at the gym and their was a cleaning lady taking out the trash. I was pretty surprised, not expecting a woman int the men;s locker room. I guess they put a sign up but I didn't even notice it. She didn't seem to care. I am surprised that the gym would have a woman cleaning the men's room but I think they are short handed seeing as no one seems to clean the place during slow hours.
I was hoping that it would turn into a porno...but she didn't even look up when i walked out naked hahaha. too bad
LOL....maybe she wasn't that impressed??? Only kidding my friend...I could not resist.....