Overcoming Insecurities & Initiating Contact

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just talking to people in general nowadays is a life skill that we all have to learn. people are moving so fast in this time that no one really just "talk" to each other anymore. it's always "hi-whatcha-need-thanks-bye" ordeal. this creates a lack of personal touch and with over-exposure to such day in and out, we lose that social part of ourselves and becomes very hard to learn again.

if it really is such a big issue, start small. just make small chatter and talks with anyone you meet, whether it's in a restaurant with the waiter or while standing in line at the DMV. there are many situations where you can practice and you NEED TO PRACTICE. this will make you better at it.

i remember a few times in my life when i was with my circle of guy friends and we were out having a good time, we would play the "we point and you go" game. we would all take turns sending one of our guys to go and start a chat with a girl that we all chose. it was hilarious. i've crashed and burned so many times but many times i've succeeded as well. you're not gonna hit everyone you aim at but you won't improve it you don't shoot.

as far as using your cock size as a prerequisite to meeting girls/guys, BIGGEST mistake. unless you're wearing a shirt that says "i've got a 9-incher, hit me up!", no one is going to come to you just because you have a big cock! the only people that will answer to that are the ones looking for that. if that's your thing then seek out those people. they're all over the place.

i will reiterate, live like you're dying. fear does take so much out of life. live it up. don't give a crap ass what people think.
 

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Sometimes, its in your genetics. In some cases' such as myself. I suffer from strong signs of schizophrenia and depression, and selective mutism. Unless someone talks to me first. i will not initiate contact.

Don't give up, cummins! Genetics is not all there is to you.
 

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I knew there was a reason I admire your posts!

Me, I take the siege warfare attitude. Or literally, "GO FUCK YOURSELF!" :biggrin1:

I think respect is far more important than love, all sarcasm asside.


I would recommend the 'FORGET YOU' version, Orca. Fucking is the desirable outcome and is not intrinsically punitive. Just a pet peeve of mine about that fine Anglo-Saxon expression for love.
 

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I love the saying,
The only thing to fear is fear itself or is that the fear of the unknown?:wink:
Anyway, just remember that the worst thing they can say is no and that isn't such a bad word...now is it?!?