I had read a reply post in the “can straight men and gay men be friends” thread that was buried way back on page four that caught my attention. It was by SMUguy2007 and was his first post. For some reason it really hit me and I PM'd him. (part of what maybe got me is that in his profile he says he is 19. I recall the feeling of rejection at that age and I can imagine that loosing your best friend after being honest with him would be extremely hurtful and scaring.) I find that I am unable to really offer much support or relate any similar experience of loosing friends due to my orientation. Anyhow, the post was well written and very honest and I was quite shocked nobody commented. I assume that it was probably overlooked by most people on the board due to being so far back. I asked if I could repost it in the hopes that people might get to know him a little better and offer advice. (I know the most popular advice will probably be the old “he really wasn't a friend anyhow," but I get the impression he was.) Here it is: It is possible... Except my experience was very traumatizing. I had a best friend in high school (I've just graduated) and we were friends for merely 3 and a half years... basically all through high school. Senior year came around, and I came out and told him that I'm bisexual and he wasn't shocked at all. Well within weeks we were becoming very open and I was flirting and he was sometimes flirting back... which confused me a lot. Things exploded and he found out that I had a crush on him and was very attracted to him and he freaked and basically quit talking to me. We stopped talking to each other half way through senior year and that was it. We have never spoken to one another since then. I guess I thought that I could be open with him because he shared with me something extremely private... that his dad is gay. I was one of two people in his life (In terms of friends) that he told... we were extremely close. Ever since it's been hard for me to be open with straight guys and be friends with them because I'm afraid one of us will cross the line just one time and screw the whole thing up.