OK, so now for some helpful advice
I have written in another thread about this, but the search function is a crap shoot with this place.
Here is what may be happening:
Anatomy 101: We are all familiar with the external and internal sphincter of the ass, and how we have awesome control for the most part over the one while the other is more of the involuntary nature, blah blah blah.Well, ya know how ya had to learn to take some teensy bit of voluntary control over that involuntary internal sphincter? How ya needed to be teased and relaxed before someone got in there? Well if you go about 4-6 or so inches in you aregoing to encounter the PR muscle.
We all have heard about the PC muscle (pubococcygeus muscle), that on that you work with kegal exercises to get bladder control, stronger erections gain some control to make anal better, that one. Ok We are not talking bout that one, we are going to discuss the PR muscle (Puborectalis muscle) which everyone is so fod of calling the second sphincter. Everyone is wrong. It's not a true sphincter but a sling of muscle in the lower abdomen that separates the sigmoid colon form the rectum. Good thing, that, otherwise we'd be running to the crapper a whole hell of a lot more!
Thing is, this muscle is even more resistant to being opened up for no other reason than a long cock fucking us. Dammit! Can't it just deal with it and let the joystick pass? Well it can, but you have ta coax it. Remember how you got the internal sphincter of your ass o relax and be teased open? Same thing. If you don't,, well, yeah its gonna hurt. Th PR muscle will want to snap back shut, and stay that way, all clenched like. So when he pushes past, you gt an OWCH!, then he withdraws and the pain subsides and it says "Fuck that shit! I am clamping down harder! That fucker ain't getting by twice!" Only of course he does, and th pain returns.
Good News:
This will keep happening. Your body isn't relaxed in there, it hurts, it expects pain, and does the one thing guaranteed to cause more: Clamp down harder.
Buuuuuuuuttttttttt....if you go about it slowly, with you setting the pace, and he listening, you can slowly beginning to tease it ope. Try different positions (knees up to chest on your side will relax your leg muscles from supporting you as well as having your knees up will encourage the PR muscle to loosen up and enjoy life).
Once he i passed it, have him hold it there. If it becomes uncomfy, back off, give you a small breather, then tease and nudge it slowly back open. Have him balls deep for as long as you can take it. Your body will start registering it as, if not pleasure just yet, than as not pain. It will open up a bit more, and stay in a more relaxed mode. Slow fucking in and out of the PR muscle will get the old boy rained so that when you are ready a hard gut pounding balls bouncing off your ass fuck romp will be a thing of joy. And not one of ouchie pain-ness.
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woww thx for your time to reply.
I think problem is that first 90 degree turn. I still cant understand how a hard penis can pass that turn??????/