I came across these forums looking for a little help...after looking around a bit, this is a pretty basic, but needed question! I have a new boyfriend and I realized right away he was pretty big - mostly just long, but normal girth I would say. I was thinking "wow, great!" But we had sex for the first time and it really hurt...I don't know his size, but I have been with many partners (40+) and I've never had pain like that. I would say he's at least a couple inches longer than I've experienced before. He was pounding hard and it felt like he was hitting my cervix. This normally feels good but this felt both good and painful. We had sex twice that night and he wanted to again in the morning and I couldn't do it...too sore. I didn't want him to feel bad that it hurt me, yet I can't just pretend it didn't hurt. He hasn't had many partners and just said, yeah I guess they mentioned they were sore but felt better by the next day. But no one has said it hurt. He is a little embarassed I think that he is bigger. I've dealt with a lot of sex issues, but this is new and I'm not sure what to do. Obviously, I'd like a full sex life where neither of us have to miss out on the full experience. I don't think it's a lube issue, but a length issue. I'm still sore two days later. I guess I figure we'll have to start slow and take it easy and see what works. If you have any advice, I'd greatly appreciate it.