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Was with my new gal last night. We were at her family gathering and like teenagers we found a side room and we couldn’t keep our hands off of each other. Everything was hurried except the lead up. We whispered naughty things to each other for about an hour leading up to sex. It was a whisper here and there naughty texts. Once in the room there was a lot of teasing kissing and she was dripping wet (nice drools spots on my pants too). We had difficulty before having sex. Always hurried and without lube. Well I finally entered her from behind and only getting the head in (which is the biggest part of my dick) she said it hurt. I left it in her not moving but it still hurt her. I pulled out and drive her crazy with my sex talk. Tried again no different. I ended it there and we got dressed. She’s still sore this morning. I promised next time we try it will be in a room with plenty of time (tough both of us have tough schedules) and lots of lube.
 
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Hurrying rarely makes for a good sexual experience. Lube is definitely your friend. Has she had trouble in the past with intercourse being painful, or is it just her first time with a well-endowed partner? Some gentle fingering before inserting can also help relax things.
 
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My strategy is long, languid, lingering foreplay (which I love) until she's dying to get on it. Even then it doesn't always work. If she's ready sooner that works too. :cool:
 
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Hurrying rarely makes for a good sexual experience. Lube is definitely your friend. Has she had trouble in the past with intercourse being painful, or is it just her first time with a well-endowed partner? Some gentle fingering before inserting can also help relax things.
First time with someone as fat as mine. Her last partner (who had been her biggest) was long but skinny. I definitely need to get as much foreplay in as possible. Thanks!
 
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My strategy is long, languid, lingering foreplay (which I love) until she's dying to get on it. Even then it doesn't always work. If she's ready sooner that works too. :cool:
It was hurried which didn’t help. I love foreplay, talking dirty too. Have to change the setting too. Thanks!
 

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Is she unwilling to just let you enter and her deal with the pain and hopefully it decreases over time? She could also take some pain reliever before hand to assist, but honestly... maybe she just needs to feel the experience of having you take her.
 
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Is she unwilling to just let you enter and her deal with the pain and hopefully it decreases over time? She could also take some pain reliever before hand to assist, but honestly... maybe she just needs to feel the experience of having you take her.

What the fuck? Just take some pain relievers and "deal with the pain"? Cool. With that kind of "logic" lemme just shove my whole fist and forearm up your ass or down your throat. You can take some pain relievers and just deal with it.
 
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Is she unwilling to just let you enter and her deal with the pain and hopefully it decreases over time? She could also take some pain reliever before hand to assist, but honestly... maybe she just needs to feel the experience of having you take her.
Oh no she is asking me over just for sex. She’s even ask her gynecologist what can be done. I am not into giving a woman pain. I had a previous gal who was tall but young and regular sex was painful and it took three to four days before it stopped hurting. We engaged in a lot of oral sex.
 
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Lube is your friend. I had difficulty with my large partner until we began having sex frequently. If we didn’t, it’s like starting over again. It’s like I had to get used to him all over again. You’ll have to start slowly at first with lots of lube, lots of foreplay. For me, it’s like my vagina needed to get used to his size over time before we could indulge in quickies. But if we took a break from sex for more than a few days - back to the beginning again. It hurt badly.

He wasn’t the most considerate person. Put me off large men to this day.
 
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Lube is your friend. I had difficulty with my large partner until we began having sex frequently. If we didn’t, it’s like starting over again. It’s like I had to get used to him all over again. You’ll have to start slowly at first with lots of lube, lots of foreplay. For me, it’s like my vagina needed to get used to his size over time before we could indulge in quickies. But if we took a break from sex for more than a few days - back to the beginning again. It hurt badly.

He wasn’t the most considerate person. Put me off large men to this day.
Thank you! It’s tough with teenagers to find that large junk of time to use foreplay likes it’s suppose to. I think it is back to square one for us. Sex years ago seemed to be fine (maybe alcohol had something to do with it) but since we’ve back together it’s tough with regular sex. I promised her a day off when the kids go back to school (she’s working at home I commute long distances) so we can have a day at a motel with a spa and lots of lube. I hear you.
 

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Thank you! It’s tough with teenagers to find that large junk of time to use foreplay likes it’s suppose to. I think it is back to square one for us. Sex years ago seemed to be fine (maybe alcohol had something to do with it) but since we’ve back together it’s tough with regular sex. I promised her a day off when the kids go back to school (she’s working at home I commute long distances) so we can have a day at a motel with a spa and lots of lube. I hear you.
A glass of wine doesn’t hurt. Not too much alcohol, though. If you truly care about each other’s pleasure, it can work. It’s a pity the sex can’t be regular. That really helped me accommodate my partner. Some of us just aren’t really built for larger men, so it takes time. It’s not for lack of desire, either. Another suggestion, is that she buy a dildo that’s approximately your size and use it while you’re apart. It will help dilate her so that she is more accommodating to you when you meet up.
 
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A glass of wine doesn’t hurt. Not too much alcohol, though. If you truly care about each other’s pleasure, it can work. It’s a pity the sex can’t be regular. That really helped me accommodate my partner. Some of us just aren’t really built for larger men, so it takes time. It’s not for lack of desire, either. Another suggestion, is that she buy a dildo that’s approximately your size and use it while you’re apart. It will help dilate her so that she is more accommodating to you when you meet up.
She’s thinking of buying the Clone a Willie for practicing and keeping in shape. I made one for out of chocolate and a candle for another gal a coupe years back. Maybe that might work. Thanks again for the advice. Much appreciated! :)
 
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Depending on where I am with hormone cycles, I may want or need to use lube more sometimes than other times. I've never yet encountered a man whose endowment caused me physical pain on the regular, just some positions they may be overly long for the kind of sex I prefer.

The larger toys I've used though, time + lube. I never used them often enough to have my body get used to that kind of stretch, so I bow to @LaFemme and other's experiences for that.
 
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Every single partner that I've ever had has been tight, this is the drawback of being really large. Always keep plenty of lube around and I often have to tell them to relax as their first reaction is to tighten up during entry...

Was with my new gal last night. We were at her family gathering and like teenagers we found a side room and we couldn’t keep our hands off of each other. Everything was hurried except the lead up. We whispered naughty things to each other for about an hour leading up to sex. It was a whisper here and there naughty texts. Once in the room there was a lot of teasing kissing and she was dripping wet (nice drools spots on my pants too). We had difficulty before having sex. Always hurried and without lube. Well I finally entered her from behind and only getting the head in (which is the biggest part of my dick) she said it hurt. I left it in her not moving but it still hurt her. I pulled out and drive her crazy with my sex talk. Tried again no different. I ended it there and we got dressed. She’s still sore this morning. I promised next time we try it will be in a room with plenty of time (tough both of us have tough schedules) and lots of lube.
 
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Depending on where I am with hormone cycles, I may want or need to use lube more sometimes than other times. I've never yet encountered a man whose endowment caused me physical pain on the regular, just some positions they may be overly long for the kind of sex I prefer.

The larger toys I've used though, time + lube. I never used them often enough to have my body get used to that kind of stretch, so I bow to @LaFemme and other's experiences for that.
Only one other woman I’ve been with had pain after intercourse. She was a tall younger gal bit almost in the same situation. We saw each other once a week and sex was usually in the car or a two or so meeting in a motel. She was sore for a couple of days afterwards. Really bummed me out as I am the nurturer and I like my partner to really enjoy sex,!what I cook for her, massages etc. but I had so little time for a drawn out day with her. My other partners there is a little difficulty at first but doesn’t cause pain.
 
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