Paradox among guys 18 to early 20s

[LGX]

The thing is though, not every guy in his early 20s/late teens is doing this. That said, you're probably seeing a guy who is already confident enough or had enough compliments to where he posts his body online. I mean, if I'm told I have a hot body...then I'm probably going to post myself online.

Look at over half the guys that post their pictures here. Many of them have incredible bodies, big dicks or both.

Also, being naked with other men is completely different than having people view it online or via sexting.

 

[701757]

I'm seeing more and more guys 18 to early 20s freely posting naked shots of themselves online showing their faces, and at the same time, I'm seeing more and more guys in the same age range seemingly terrified to be seen naked at the gym.

Seems like a very scientific study right there.

 

[deleted871301]

A simple explanation could be that being naked in front of other guys/men could be sexually arousing for them. A new experience perhaps so that's why they stay covered up.

I remember when I was in my early twenties, showering after a great workout at the gym, I would always pop a boner in the locker room and would always stay covered except for that brief moment when I dropped my towel to get dressed. Now that i'm older, being naked around other guys/men doesn't bother me.

 

[Black_Frost]

There seems to be a great deal more social anxiety among the Millennials. That's not a criticism, mind, just an observation. Posting a pic of yourself online maintains the distance between themselves and whomever's looking. There's no direct interaction, only that which is done at a remove. And, of course, one can always block unpleasant or mocking respondents.

That said, there's also no chance that some idiot is going to walk up and grope you, when you're naked in a gym. When I was that age, I wasn't an exhibitionist (no kick from it,) but I wasn't at all body-shy. I didn't mind if people liked what they were looking at, but when they started ogling, or groping...or making lewd comments they somehow thought would get me to fuck them (some wanting me to do it there, so people could walk in and "catch" us) I didn't like it, felt uncomfortable about it (as if the other person was trying to wipe sleeze off upon me) and would let them know it. (Politely the first time, firmly the second. After that, I wasn't polite about it at all.)

 

[Anton565]

If a naked man is comfortable with other naked men, he must be GAY!

I'd love to hear people who hold this view explain how it happens that in most of the rest of the world men can be naked around each other without any outbreak 'gayness'.

 

[Anton565]

I'm also kind of wondering how much sex the younger generation is having. Seriously, how do you get laid if you're afraid to take your clothes off?

 

[buzzrider7]

I just assumed that all the towel-dancer guys fuck with underwear on. Isn't that what the opening in the front of briefs is for?

 

[Black_Frost]

I'm also kind of wondering how much sex the younger generation is having. Seriously, how do you get laid if you're afraid to take your clothes off?

Given the reports of how STD infection rates are growing these days? They're probably managing to get about as much sex as previous generations did.

 

[nwtnguy1]

If a naked man is comfortable with other naked men, he must be GAY! (Oh, dear!) Or at least that's what some people think, if only subconsciously. If he's not gay, it will make him gay. We all know how contagious gayness is. People might not admit to thinking this way, but not everyone is really ready to accept reality. Some young men have been brought up this way.

I think you have to look at the two situations as being completely different animals.

As 99% of the guys on this site know, when you're sitting at home cruising porn in a high state of arousal, you are prone to things you wouldn't do otherwise. Those who have posted pics online know that the hornier you get, the more you want to show off and the pics start going out. I think they get caught up in that and get a little brave in their postings as they view this as a sexual outlet. There's something more erotic about seeing a guy's cock and his face as we all know. As it's been said earlier, the younger generation have a lessened sense of online social privacy so the face pics seem less of a deal to them (now).

As Frodo states in the quote above, showing off nude in front of other guys must mean you're gay. I remember at that age in the locker room all I could think about was not getting even the least bit aroused or face ridicule or accusation. They become very self-conscious about being naked. Counter to what porn vids portray, I have yet to see a guy pop a boner in a locker room shower and all of the other guys join in for an all-out orgy. The locker room is a non-sexual situation to them (and most other men) so they avoid all semblance of sexual activity that might cause questioning of their sexual orientation and that extends to nudity in this socially acceptable situation.

 

[Black_Frost]

I think you have to look at the two situations as being completely different animals.

As 99% of the guys on this site know, when you're sitting at home cruising porn in a high state of arousal, you are prone to things you wouldn't do otherwise. Those who have posted pics online know that the hornier you get, the more you want to show off and the pics start going out. I think they get caught up in that and get a little brave in their postings as they view this as a sexual outlet. There's something more erotic about seeing a guy's cock and his face as we all know. As it's been said earlier, the younger generation have a lessened sense of online social privacy so the face pics seem less of a deal to them (now).

As Frodo states in the quote above, showing off nude in front of other guys must mean you're gay. I remember at that age in the locker room all I could think about was not getting even the least bit aroused or face ridicule or accusation. They become very self-conscious about being naked. Counter to what porn vids portray, I have yet to see a guy pop a boner in a locker room shower and all of the other guys join in for an all-out orgy. The locker room is a non-sexual situation to them (and most other men) so they avoid all semblance of sexual activity that might cause questioning of their sexual orientation and that extends to nudity in this socially acceptable situation

This. Especially the last paragraph. When I was younger, I'd pop a hardon if the wind blew from the West. In locker-room situations, it was just considered normal, and nothing remarkable, unless the guy with the erection kept creepily staring at you. Then it'd frequently get personal, but not in a playful erotic way. (And no, while he'd likely get the shit beaten out of him for doing that, it would not end-up with hot, steamy, man-on-man sex. More like injury and hospitalization.)

 

[Anton565]

Given the reports of how STD infection rates are growing these days? They're probably managing to get about as much sex as previous generations did.

I agree that what you're saying makes sense; it's rather difficult to get most STD's without any 'S'. I'm just having a problem reconciling that with the recent aversion to nudity. I keep coming back to guys finding it easier to get naked in front of girls than in front of other guys. That strikes me as unlikely.

 

[meatal_head]

I think I posted this before, but one day I was showering at the Y and a swim team came in and showered in their suits. I was the only one naked and I could tell they thought it was funny or something. I didn't care. maybe it was my lack of flaccid size or just that I was naked and not ashamed. But they seemed to think it was something strange.

 

[wildcat16]

I think the amount of guys posting naked and facial pics on line is just part of my generations need to be given gratitude constantly. The every kid deserves a trophy mentality.
Hard work to be the best at something ,is just that tooo hard, for a lot anyway.

I don't see any guys on my team or previous team who would do that, but they work hard and are self motivating and take pride in their performance on the mat.
The guys I have known who put their pics on line with identifying assets or faces too, started with just crotch shots, then if they received good feedback, more and more to keep getting compliments, then when they were certain all the feedback was going to be good, more pics including faces, kind of a pride thing.

There is a size thing in more public showering and locker rooms, like PE classes and more public gyms. In a team locker room it isn't as prevalent, we see each other more as equals on the team with our abilities.

The "small" guys who I have seen who are very comfortable with locker room nudity have a unique ability to be ok with it, many even brag about the guys who are bigger or biggest, pointing that out before anyone could point out the guys on the small end of the spectrum. If you get the more hung guys in a comparison mode, then the majority are in the "not the biggest" group. So there is never a "not so well endowed group".

 

[Squirrel1]

Excellent thread. I also thought it was odd that a lot of younger guys seem to show no inhibitions online yet are overtly shy in locker rooms.

I assume it is a the false sense of anonymous security they get posting online.

However, the Internet never forgets. Ten years from now when you have job, and having these photos surface, Can be career stopping, especially nowadays.

 

[lgtrmusr]

Excellent thread. I also thought it was odd that a lot of younger guys seem to show no inhibitions online yet are overtly shy in locker rooms.

I assume it is a the false sense of anonymous security they get posting online.

However, the Internet never forgets. Ten years from now when you have job, and having these photos surface, Can be career stopping, especially nowadays.

True, the Internet never forgets. But 10 years from now, the view of normal past behavior may well have changed. Recall that once upon a time, a visible tattoo or visible piercings could destroy a job application - but today if companies excluded people so adorned from their candidate pool, they'd have little to select from. Same with drug use. Standards have changed. Bill Clinton was forced to the ludicrous admission that he used marijuana but "didn't inhale." Barack Obama admitted to weed and coke use. Times change. In another decade, naked shots on the internet may have lost their ability to terminate careers.

 

[ohiorod]

I agree with Wildcat16 that it could likely have to do with millennials needing constant gratification. But as a mentor to some guys who are just past teens, I encourage guys to think about the future in making decisions about posting facial photos or any photos involving nudity. I have taken some criticism from some on this site for not posting nude photos and I realize that I may take it a bit to the extreme for myself, but I have a great job, a lot of respect in my field among colleagues and bosses and I am well paid; I plan some additional career moves in my future and I just don’t want to screw it up in a horny minute. Besides that, a few years ago, someone thought it would be funny to take and post a photo of my morning wood in full in full glory as I slept. It took a lot of effort to get that photo off the internet and it could still be out there.

But I do think guys and ladies should think twice about these facial photos with their goods displayed.

 

[Squirrel1]

True, the Internet never forgets. But 10 years from now, the view of normal past behavior may well have changed. Recall that once upon a time, a visible tattoo or visible piercings could destroy a job application - but today if companies excluded people so adorned from their candidate pool, they'd have little to select from. Same with drug use. Standards have changed. Bill Clinton was forced to the ludicrous admission that he used marijuana but "didn't inhale." Barack Obama admitted to weed and coke use. Times change. In another decade, naked shots on the internet may have lost their ability to terminate careers.

I agree. Values change over time and what might be considered as risqué today might not even garner a second look ten years from now.
However, I would still be cautious. We're I work, we look at applicants social media. You wouldn't believe what some people have on their Facebook pages.

 

[lgtrmusr]

I agree. Values change over time and what might be considered as risqué today might not even garner a second look ten years from now.
However, I would still be cautious. We're I work, we look at applicants social media. You wouldn't believe what some people have on their Facebook pages.

What amazes me, @Squirrelblogger, is that some employers have asked applicants for, and been given, access to an applicant's social media accounts (passwords). At a time when it is considered potentially discriminatory and illegal to ask an applicant's age, sexual orientation, or religion (among other things), demanding access to social media accounts seems a bit unreasonable. An employer scanning publicly published social media postings, however, is a different thing altogether, and is essentially beyond the control of the candidate.

 

[Squirrel1]

What amazes me, @Squirrelblogger, is that some employers have asked applicants for, and been given, access to an applicant's social media accounts (passwords). At a time when it is considered potentially discriminatory and illegal to ask an applicant's age, sexual orientation, or religion (among other things), demanding access to social media accounts seems a bit unreasonable. An employer scanning publicly published social media postings, however, is a different thing altogether, and is essentially beyond the control of the candidate.

Only publicly published. We would never ask for someone's password. That would be illegal.