partner orgasms too soon

[Beppe82]

Hi all,


Firstly I would just like to say this forum has been a wealth of information for me and I have gained some great knowledge but I would like to post a personal problem me and my partner have while having sex.
OK the major problem is that I take some time to ejaculate while having sex (sometimes as long as an hour or more) I feel the reason for this is because a few positions do not offer me much or any penis sensitivity, and the positions I enjoy (from behind and reverse cg) my partner finds 'full' penetration quite painful.
She enjoys the missionary position best for clitoral stimulation, especially if I am slightly above her, but this position offers me very little feeling. We do both enjoy the 'spoons' position but my penetration needs to be quite slow as again anything faster causes her pain. The other problem is that she achieves orgasm very quickly, sometimes less than 3 minutes!

To put this into perspective I only achieve ejaculation possibly 20% of the time and usually need to finish off in the bathroom :frown1:
My partner knows my problem only too well and we have spoken about it numerous times.

Has anybody else ever suffered with this problem as it really gets me frustrated.

thanks
beppe.

 

[JetID]

Have her go down on you until you are close, then she gets the dick.

And only then!

 

[JohnDoeXXXm]

i agree- sounds like she needs to get your engine revving a bit faster before she takes it out on the racetrack. Fortunately this is not the other way around- because as long as she's up for making sure you get your orgasm too- she's got plenty of opportunities for multi-orgasms along the way.

 

[Robert53]

Hey, man. join the club. it takes me a long time to climax. And i need a lot of stimulation, too, to get over the hump. i owe this to a lot of jacking off as a teen! well, anyway, others have the minute man syndrome. aren't you glad you aren't in that group! sex should be enjoyed for a long time, or it is just getting off. Let her know that you could use a helping hand, and to join in the fun with you. A nice slow wank wiht her hand and you'll be in heaven!

 

[redbear52]

My experience with women has not been vast, but such as it is, I have found that the majority of women really don't want to fuck for an hour or longer, at least, not very often, and not with a guy who is significantly bigger than average.

My experience has also been that there are more women who are "done" after one or two orgasms than there are those who are truly multi-orgasmic.

My wife and I had this problem when I was taking Prozac. Sex felt good, but I just wouldn't come, and after a while either I would get tired, she would get tired, or she would get sore. A lot of times I just had to masturbate to get release to be able to go to sleep. I think the idea of her getting you close with her hands and/or mouth before you enter her is the most reasonable thing to try.

 

[D_Tam_Ponds]

Hmmm - some girls would really appreciate your "length" lol.

 

[MC1000]

My wife and I have the same issue. I don't take a long time to cum, however she cums very quickly. What we have found that works is for me to make her cum orally to start. Then we start again in about 20 minutes. She usually rides me. This way it takes us about the same time to cum. If I'm getting a little closer than her I will slide my hand down and start to stroke her clit while she grinds away. Nerver fails!