Okay, so this is one of the best problems to have in the bedroom. My girlfriend craves my cock, and over time, cunningilus has gone from being something in-and-of-itself in to just a precursor to penetration. If I go down on her before or during sex, she's craving cock. After sex, she's sore and sensitive and isn't aroused by cunningilus. During cunningilus, she'll invariably pull herself around and start sucking me rather than getting in to the mood. I can make her orgasm through oral when she's in the mood, but I can't make her come through penetration. I'm having to choose between pressuring her to talk more about her orgasm -- so I can learn what works for her, and just letting go and accepting that she's happy with orgasm-free sex. I have talked to her about it but each time we get down to it, she just wants to fuck. Other people in this situation, what have you done? Is she deluding herself if she thinks her orgasm isn't a big deal, or should I just keep ensuring she enjoys penetration as it is?