Partner told me they were sexually assaulted at a gym recently.

[Clandestinejester999]

I was just told by my partner of 4 years that he was harassed and eventually sexually assaulted at his gym while he was in the locker room and in the shower on 3 separate occasions. 2 of them being approached in the shower forcing him to give oral sex to the other person and the last time walking in and jerking off in front of him. My partner told me he was pushing him away at first and telling him no and to leave him alone, but the predator was persistent with his approaches. I am conflicted on my feelings for I have never been in a situation like that. A part of me feels as if it could have been easy to remove yourself from the situation instead of just giving in and sucking this guys dick. Not once, but on two separate occasions. Every time I think about it, I get this lump in my stomach and can’t see my parter the same way anymore. I have no outlet or anyone to talk to about this and it’s eating me alive. I just can’t get over the fact that he would just give in so easily instead of yelling for help, fighting back or completely avoiding that gym entirely. It’s not his first time being sexually assaulted before, has happened many times. For context this is a NYC gym in Hell kitchen


I am here for anyone who has experienced something like this to explain what goes through a persons head to just go ahead and allow someone to force themselves on you with little to no resistance.

Ps. I was sexually abused as a child, so I can understand to an extent. But I can’t understand as an adult allowing someone to do that.

 

[cameronthelad]

The big question is, why ever go back to that gym after the first time? The bigger question is why ever go back after the second time???

 

[Clandestinejester999]

The big question is, why ever go back to that gym after the first time? The bigger question is why ever go back after the second time???

They went at different times and tried everything to avoid this person but they always seemed to be there oddly enough.

 

[dreamer20]

My partner <told me> he was harassed and eventually sexually assaulted at his gym on 3 occasions. 2 times being approached by <a person> in the shower forcing him to give oral sex and the last walking in and jerking off in front of him. My partner was pushing him away at first, telling him no, to leave him alone, but the predator was persistent. I am conflicted..<I could easily remove myself> from the situation instead of just giving in and sucking this guys dick. Not once, but on two separate occasions..I just can’t get over the fact that he would just give in so easily instead of yelling for help, fighting back or completely avoiding that gym entirely.<He's> been sexually assaulted before, has happened many times...I am here for anyone who has experienced something like this to explain what goes through a persons head...

The only person who can tell you what was going through his head is your partner. His sexual assault claims ring false. Ideally he should have fought off said person, escaped and got help from the gym staff. But he preferred to have consensual sex instead - as stated above.

 

[Clandestinejester999]

The only person who can tell you what was going through his head is your partner. His sexual assault claims ring false. Ideally he should have fought off said person, escaped and got help from the gym staff. But he preferred to have consensual sex instead - as stated above.

We talked extensively about it and they are most positively not false. I believe him 100%. Attacker cornered, pushed and forcefully made him do these things. Didn’t last more than a few seconds.

 

[dreamer20]

Male sexual assault survivors

Nyc / Nj Gyms

My partner doesn’t want to report or be involved with it anymore, while me being who I am, got all descriptions of this person and will be reporting and trying to find them myself at this location. I agree these types of people should be found and punished for what they’ve done and will continue to do.

Nevertheless your OP clearly casts doubt upon this issue. The victim has no evidence of assault and does not want to make any report and/or seek prosecution. Please respect his wishes as his cooperation is essential in this case if you are to seek criminal prosecution.

 

[FitOne2000]

Lol he loved it

 

[Rrrustic]

lol this ^^