Partnered, How often do you have sex?
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Married to my husband for 10 years. Last time we had sex/made love was 9 years ago! 
Oh onthetown wish you were mine. Had two long term relationships and both were as different as night and day. One had almost no interest at all even tho we met that way ( a sex site). Then the other just could not get enough and too much can be a bad thing too. Depends on what your looking for and how you find it.
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I think once a week is perfectly fine. If it isn't for you, tell your partner.
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When I was in an LTR, much of the time we did not have intercourse all that often, perhaps every other week, but we did have oral sex rather often. Maybe every other day.
I have been in two long term relationships. One, for over 20 years. We never had sex that often, even in the beginning. It dwindled down to once every month, then every year, then every two years, and stopped. All the while, I was asking for more. I figured it was because he wasnt interested. Then, I found out. . . . He was having sex and BDSM experiences with other men for years. I ended the relationship. Now, for 4 years, I have been with a younger man who likes sex with me as much as I like sex with him. It does vary, how often we have sex. . . sometimes daily. Sometimes we wait two or three days because of schedules/desire/life. . . BUT. . It is always good, and it is always discussed if one of us is 'wanting' and the other isn't. We make deals a lot
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I'm in a 15+ year relationship. I would say the average for us is once or twice a week. Sometimes more, sometimes less, depending.
I'm 42 my partner of 5 years is 55. For the first 3 years we had sex 2-3 times a week. Over the last 2 years it's faded off to once or twice a month not by my choice. If it was up to me I would still be twice a week.
In the back of my mind I worry he's cheating but he is a very loyal person so I just put it down to age and the honeymoon period being over.
When I bring up the topic there's always an excuse. It just seems he has no interest. If I don't initiate, we'd probably never have sex.
In the back of my mind I worry he's cheating but he is a very loyal person so I just put it down to age and the honeymoon period being over.
When I bring up the topic there's always an excuse. It just seems he has no interest. If I don't initiate, we'd probably never have sex.
This sounds like me and my partner, but the decline happened because he had cancer, then the treatment. Which I can totally understand, but he no longer seems interested. I wonder if he is getting sex elsewhere, but he says not and just not interested.
So me hand is my best friend, I hope things will return, we used to have sex 2 to 3 times a week
I have to agree with other posters about it tapering off to finally stopping. The truth is that we discussed the importance of sex in a relationship at the outset and both agreed that it wasn't that important in the long term (versus trust, companionship, mutual life goals, etc.). We also agreed that if at any point one of us wanted to have an "open relationship" we would call the whole thing off. 25 years later...
Ebbs and flows. Sometimes 2-3 times per week, sometimes not for a week or two. Depends what is going on for us and how open our communication is around anything bothering us or bringing us down.
Usually, 2-3 times per week, unless my partner is not in call at the hospital. He is a doctor and his schedule can be hectic. But for those weeks when the juices are not flowing out frequently, we make up for it with some wonderful passionate sex. I don’t think the frequency is as always important as the connection two (or more) people have when they are together. Then throughout the rest of the week, you feel that connection and see signs that you have a supportive caring partner.
Me and my boyfriend have sex most mornings
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No. What's got you so interested in cheating all of a sudden? This is like the 4th or 5th thread you've either started or posted in today about cheating?!? What's up?
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When I was with my ex 2.5 years it was usually 1-2 times a week. As a bottom, I need prep time and sometimes I’m just too busy to do it more than twice a week. Have you spoken to him about that? Beside I give a much better blowjob
Been with my partner 4 years, and as a lot of people say it varies, some weeks we’re at it like bunnies, others we have a quick fumble and that’s it lol. But there’s a lot more to sex than top/bottom, and in lots of ways I find the ‘foreplay’ side of it more enjoyable and in some ways more intimate as you spend the time getting to know each other’s likes/dislikes! Be honest with your partner, see what you both want when it comes to sex...no point in second guessing yourself or thinking there’s a problem when the chances are there’s not
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