Its a bit of a long story but ide appreciate any thoughts on this matter.... I got into the dating scene way to late trying to save myself for a girl I thought was worthwhile. Well, I eventually found that girl. We talked on and off for about 2 weeks when I sealed the deal on Valentines Day with some creative displays. At this point, I must point out that I am a virgin and nearly 21. I finally found a woman that I was willing to do anything for and to and all I got is a story to tell. Anyways, it was about 3 days until katsucon(Its one of those conventions for anime and videogames) where the trouble began. Another thing that I feel the need to point out is the person that "set" us up had been feeding me info. One of the worst things was that my girlfriend was apparently afraid we were headed for sex too quickly which really caused me to think twice about this next piece here. During these three days I kept getting invited up to her apartment. Every time it felt like sex would have been involved. The first two I had an honest reason to say no(simply that if I hadn't said no then there really would have been no chance at time together much less sex for a long time thereafter), but the third I actually went up. I was looking for the cues the entire time. All I got was a lot of confusion, I decided it was time to make my first move. It was one of those move where the guy lays the girl down and lets nature take its course. There was a problem though... as much of her was giving me a yes...it felt like something within her was screaming no. I had to back off before I gave her something she would regret. On the forth day, we all went to Katsucon. Us and 4 other friends stayed in the same hotel room. Come night time, she immediately invited me into the bed with her which was a bit of a surprise. I must of misread things. I wanted to hold her but I kept getting the cold shoulder. Well things go on and I was blissfully unaware of the thoughts in her head. Katsucon ended and during the ride back she wouldn't even touch me. She just stared out the window thinking or pretended to sleep. A day later, she IM's me with the line "We need to talk". Count the letters and ya got three four letter words in one. Here is the thing....she doesn't give me an honest answer then I asked why she was breaking up with me. Its not until a few days later that she tells me "It was great for a while but then we just seemed to stop communicating." If irony wasn't a big enough shot to the nuts, the 2 of my friends who where the most involved in all this knew that my girlfriend was gona break up with me and decided that right there and then was a great time to stop giving me advice when it could have saved everything. Here's the thing. At some point a few weeks later, something struck me. I felt as if I had sex with her when she seemed really interested during those first 3 days then I would still be with her. Mabey thats just my lombido talkiing, but honestly my lombido got me a 7.5/10 as my first girlfriend. As of now, we are friends but I haven't spoken to her in a while. I feel there is still a chance for me provided she hasn't picked up a boyfriend. I just need to make the effort. Should I go for it? and what are your thoughts on the whole matter?