In this particular instance that Jason has presented us with, there are too many variables out there we don't know the answers too.
1, The actual age of the young man. If he is 18, 16 in some localities then, it is legal. The morality of the situation is dependent on the morality of the person making the jdugement.
2. We do not know how this relationship began. Did the older man find the boy and have sex with him and then invite him to come live with him? Without knowing this piece of information, it is extremely difficult to make a judgement here.
3. Is osme of the "this is awful" also a part of not accepting homosexuality? Older men take girls as wives all the time. Very few people speak up about it though as being reprehensible and other choice words. It doesn't seem to me we use the same mroal compass with striaght as we do with gay older/younger relationships.
4. There apparently are teen and early twenties guys who want a daddy who also has a sexual relationship. It may be because that is what they have had in the past They get sex confused with love. I don't know, but as long as young gay men long for a sexual daddy, this relationship will also continue to be a one engaged in whether we like it or not.
5. Assumptions are being made that the young men are being forced into this relationship. in truth, these guys may be looking for this kind of relationship, which begs the question, are they really being abused in this situation?
I am not defending this type of relationship as being good, wholesome etc. However, if the younger man is legal in the locality he is in, that makes a difference. If the young man was having to be a prostitute and then one older man takes him in and has what appears to be true loving sexual relationship, the young man is going to believe the old man really loves him and will forever.
There is one part of this that no one has addressed that might be very telling on the part of the older guy. That is, the sexual relationship with the guys seems to end when the younger guy is completely a grown mature man. And the older guy is getting newer guys in the age group he is attracted to. This might give more reason for alarm than anything else mentioned.
I appear to be on both sides. I am not. I am trying to sort out just how this works. Can it be a true morally right thing to happen or is this relationship always wrong regardless of the circumstances?
There are all kinds of sexual attractions. The concept that some young men are indeed sexually attracted to older gentlemen and seek out a daddy/lover is a concept that is probably true. How do we we as a society deal with it may be the next big issue that we have to face as a society.