Pee shyness

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:eek:, I have this, Pee-shyness is a social anexity disorder called Paruresis...and it is ruining my life.
I told one of my friends recently...just to make me feel better. But I sooo wana get rid of it. You can get cognitive behavoir therapy to maybe cure it, only tablets that could help are anti anexiety pills...
Its all to do with you having 2 valves between your bladder and your nob, one is opened auto-matically when you try to wee and the other is opened by your sub-conscious mind, and as you get anixious in a bathroom this valve will shut down and wont open, no matter how hard you try, the long you arent peeing the more anxious you get and so its a never ending circle. sometimes (most of the time) i cant wee at all, only place i really feel "safe" is at home
Anyone who has it PM me as id like to talk to someone else who has it :redface:
 

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In common terms, it is called bashful bladder. When I was a kid, we would stand three around a toilet and all piss at the same time. Now, I have problems with bashful bladder. It doesn't always bother me but when my self-esteem is low, I can't go for anything. It has nothing to do with penis size. When you are standing their with your meat out, you are very vunerable. That may be why we have this problem. Sometimes, I can coach myself into going by telling myself, "come on man, you can do it, yours is bigger than theirs. You can do it." lol
 

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I have the shy bladder problem too. I have no idea what it means, I don't think it has anything to do with modesty.
 

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i have "stage fright" as well, i have tried and tried using urinals especialy in UK clubs where i was utterly drunk but still i coulnt manage.

also besides the visual problem i also have an audio problem :p

its very difficult for me to initiate flow if i know other people are listening, for example in a very quiet 2 stall toilet with another guy on the other stall.
if i have the option (like at my office bathroom where co-workes can hear me pee)i will run some water to mask the sound and start peeing normaly..

am i mental?
and if yes, how much?:eek:
 
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I've found that trying to recall something fairly mundane such as the national anthem's later verses or something else equally as vexing is useful
 

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alex8 said:
For what it's worth, I've never managed to start peeing in front of strangers in my life. I'm always the one shuffling my feet as I wait for the stall to become free. Life goes on, and as for "occasional glances at the urinal", personally I prefer cocks in a more sexual scenario, so that's never been an issue.

That's me too. Furthermore, It would be too awkward a situation for me (espicially in high school). I'm a stall guy 100%.
 

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alex8 said:
For going to the wrong toilet to pee, ffs.

For fuck's sake is right. At age eight I suppose they thought you were going in there to molest a seven year old.

Adults do the weirdest punitive things to kids, especially where sexuality is even peripherally involved.

In the Army I was a parachute rigger. Because they don't want people who pack parachutes to puff, we had piss tests about ever other month. Because people figured out so many ways to beat the piss tests, the sergeant would be right there in the stall with you watching you put your dick in the cup. This got rid of any remaining piss shyness that I had, but I suppose it could have easily went the other way.
 

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Interesting topic. It’s amazing how many men have experienced this at some stage or other. Like many others, I experienced it as a teenager and eventually grew out of it, though rather late.

I remember one incident when I was about 20. I was driving with two friends and announced that I would have to have a piss pretty urgently. We got out and the two friends must have decided that they needed one too, so we were all standing beside the car, the two friends pissed away… and I could not. I was almost as surprised as embarrassed, and I can’t remember how the situation was eventually resolved, but I think it was the last time this happened to me.

I’ve been in a swimming club for many years, and before each workout we all line up for a piss before going in the water, and I’ve been doing this three times a week for years without a second thought.
 

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Inter Ested said:
pissing at the urinals with other guys around is not really a problem for me, i always choose the urinals and not a stall when i have to piss. but, on the other hand, it takes me longer to start pissing, when there are others in the same room, than when i'm alone. so perhaps i'm a little bit pee-shy without knowing it...
same with me. and i always try to sneak a peak if there is somebody beside me:tongue:
 

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alex8 said:
For what it's worth, I've never managed to start peeing in front of strangers in my life. I'm always the one shuffling my feet as I wait for the stall to become free. Life goes on, and as for "occasional glances at the urinal", personally I prefer cocks in a more sexual scenario, so that's never been an issue.

But I have no idea how to commence the flow when others are around either.. if they come in and I'm mid-flow, all is well and good..(like the time a toilet door opened on a train so that everyone in the carriage could watch me pissing --- oh, that was a fun day)... but otherwise, there's no way to "initiate start-up" in their presence whatsoever that I've ever found effective.
Ithink your feelings are right because peeing is a personal function we do in private most of the time And then when we have to do it in public its like someones intruding I feel the same way sometimes
 

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I have that too, to some extent. my favorite trick is just to drink so much that there is almost no stopping. Of course that´s a rather expensive trick ;o)

Many urinals have these little separators in between, for me thats enough to get things going. But i HATE those small club toilets with three urinals or one metal sheet in a one meter wall with two guys aready to the left and right and 40cm for me left. On those occassions, I mutate into a stall-dasher (except if have practiced trick no. one)

On second thought: even when I couldn´t start it and people next to me noticed, I have never heard any slighting remark on that. I think thats one of the few things that many men share, so most abstain from stupid jokes.
 

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Gah what an issue. I dont believe in using toilets unless it's #2 but I always get the shyness when people are around. I usually have to take some deep breaths and shake it a little. Most of the time it seems like I'm taking a long piss when Im not. The worse is when I have to actually just zip up and leave then end up having to pee lol. The thing is though when i REALLY have to go I can go with no problem, or like many have said when drunk I'll take it out anywhere and let it flow. I guess I'll have to try out the math thing.



Oh one more thing, At work there is this bathroom and it's a urinal and a handicapped stall. So I'm always afraid to go in there in case somebody is in there, I just hate having another person in a small bathroom like that especially if they start talking to me, ugh. So I usually make sure I have to piss, I dont think it helps either that the urinal is a bit lower than my cock so its all out to be seen, but there's a partition so its not bad.
 

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i sometimes have that problem so i think of hot sexy cocks and imagine blowing a load in a guys face and it works!
 

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It never used to be a problem for me. However in recent years I've occasionally had difficulty when getting started whilst using crowded, busy, public toilets. Perhaps it's something to do with becoming a bit self conscious in my middle age. Knowing that the problem's psychological rather than physical (I can pee fine in private or even a quiet public loo) doesn't seem to help much either. Anyone who suffers from it certainly has my sympathy. I think there's a technical name for it - avoidant paurieses - sorry if the spelling's not quite right. :smile:
 

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Busy restrooms give me a problem too. Once i can't start there's no hope and it drops into an spiraling cycle. One thing that seems to be working is conditioning myself to a verse of a song to associate it with relaxing and start pissing.