Peeping-Tom Network?

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  1. AlteredEgo

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    How do they do it? I get an unusual amount of bedroom spies caught in my radar. The first one I busted last summer, He inspired me to install motion sensors. But he wasn't looking into my bedroom windows, he was looking into my side door, which lies between my bedroom windows, and my batroom windows. My mother converted the basement into a bedroom when I was born, and when she died, I turned it into a studio. I stay down here most of the time, and most of that time, I'm naked. I'm a nudist. I don't mind being seen naked. I mind the breech of my expectation of privacy. Anyway, I was walking (fully dressed) up the stairs, and I stopped at the side door. Since it was dark out, I pressed my face against the glass in order to look out. I cupped my eyes, to block what I thought was a reflection of my own eyes, and realized I was staring into a completely different pair! I screeched and picked up the 2x4 we leave next to the door, but he was running away.

    Since then, most off the people looking "in" my window were really not peeping into the house, but visiting my cat. In fact, the neighborhood boys have come to my window and called her (futile- she only really answers me). Two little girls scared the crap out of me. I have bars over the basement windows, so I never lock them, and I leave them open even when I'm not home, because the cat likes the breeze and the sounds. One day, two little girls opened my screen and tried to take the cat. Unfortunately, she hates children now. The neighborhood crackhead/handyman tried to sell me a $10 Metrocard through my bathroom window, but I'm not sure he knows that's the bathroom, and I don't think he saw me, or knew I was topless.

    But occasionally, I catch a real peeper. Tonight, for example. I noticed recently that someone had changed the settings on my motion sensor. I had it set to stay on for three minutes, they set it for thirty seconds. I had it angled to turn on the lights as soon as you were by the farthest window. They changed the angle, and I can't seem to get it right again. I fixed the time. I assumed it was kids who wanted a place to smoke weed. Of course, now I'm not so sure. My cat is very friendly, and she likes to sniff strangers, and get to know them. I've only ever seen her hiss when I trim her nails, or when she sees the vet. (Ever since he spayed her she will have no parts of him- unless she bites those parts off!) But for some reason, she woke up suddenly, and stood at the foot of my bed, hissing in the direction of one of my windows. I called to her, and she responded by arching her back and raising her tail. So I immediately turned out the lights and picked up the crowbar. Sure enough, three seconds later, the lights in my driveway came on, and I ran to the door to see who I busted. It was a brand new spy, someone I didn't even recognize.

    I feel insecure. I wonder what every noise is. I can't relax. I may not define privacy the same way most people do, but what I define as private is very special to me. I feel kind of violated when this happens.

    The thing is, it's a basement. The windows do face an easement, but it's a driveway, not a street. The windows are close to the ground. I have curtains. You can see in if I have enough light on, but you have to try very hard. I do not think my neighbors know I'm always nude or in undies at home, but it's not a secret that I'm up all night, or what time I go for my jog in the morning. I leave the house several times a night, between 2AM and 5AM. I get a snack. I walk the cat. I sit on the porch and watch the strays and ferals chase rats. In fact, this is how the very first peeper I caught found me. He saw me go down into my driveway. Ten minutes later my neighbor caught him looking into her window. My lights were out. I was asleep. Subsequently we caught him snooping around our cars, and finally, he was scared from my window twice that I know of. My neighbor's boyfriend chased him off once.

    But it's hard to accidentally find this place. So I wonder if peepers tell each other what they found and where. Do they have a community where they trade information on women they've spied on? Do they say, "Oh yeah, between these hours, at this address, plus size nudie-petudie sits around naked, and if you're lucky, you'll hear her talking dirty or catch her masturbating." I just wonder if they have a network.
     
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    Wow, Bronxy. That is a creepy story. I am sorry that you have been feeling less that totally at ease in your own home.

    The settings on the motion sensors can be changed from the outside, I take it?

    I suppose that these folk may be somehow communicating with each other. UGH.
     
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    Creepy, indeed. Maybe you'll scare some of them off if you sit yourself in full display, and carefully clean a .45 ACP. I could help you out with one.

    No, in earnest. It's highly probable that peeping toms exchange addresses, and places where interesting observations can be made. To make sure, I'd do some research, I bet there are some forums online where adresses are being exchanged, and look if you're public already. If not, I'd wait for the next one, and push him some to tell me how he learned of that opportunity. The problem is if your address has become public, maybe you should talk to the police about that then. If nothing else, they can maybe give you more advice, and better than I can.

    I can imagine that's a creepy feeling, but with some action, I think you can remedy it. Surely the situation won't improve if you do nothing.
     
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    Sorry BB for these experiences and do everything possible to protect and defend yourself. I do understand how you may feel.

    In my experiences there are different kinds of these 'peeping tom' and bcause the first one of them happened when i was 13 and he was living in my home for at least 3yeras as son of family friend bcause need to study in a big city..i woke up with 'presence' feeling that in the dark i 'saw' someone in the corner of my room...than he came closer think i was sleeping and i knew he was looking at me and masturbating...than afraid and my heart in my trout i move ...the he went away. I run to my mom's bedroom and we locked ourselves there until morning (my dad and brother were away travelling)

    The other time my parents cought the male security from my 'village' looking from the AC crack of my bedroom...i lived there for at least 2years and must be something going on...

    The other time the old neighboor of my grandma looking at my cousins and me at her guestroom, and than we discover that he try to grab housekeeprs working on his house while wife was not there and etc...

    What i carry from this experiences is a preocupation in having my windows close and curtains when it face others peoples windows plus observing males behaviour around pre-adolescents and teens. Plus bcause of unapropriated touching (from someone suppose to be family trust person) on me when i was 4 to 5 years old Im extra protective of kids too.
     
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    Sorry to hear that! Make sure all windows and doors are locked Mabye carry mase when you go for walks Look into getting a gun? But make sure nobody can gain entry
     
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    I hate it when people can't feel completely secure and comfortable in their own home. That feeling is even worse when that is taken away by some loser who feels its ok to violate someone's personal/private space. Just an idea, you should setup a Web cam and record each night, you can just skip through the night and see if anyone makes an apperance, if they do you can start building a collection to help prosecute them in court. Sad thing is they'll probably only get a fine, hopefully some much needed counselling too.
     
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    Well, it is sad but you did give a little hint. You said people can see through the drapes if you have enough light on. Get some blinds. If lights are on inside, you can see from a long way off at night. I don't know if I'd be doing the morning runs or taking the cat out unless I had some form of protection.
     
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    All slime have networks from which they receive information, and much of it is internet-based. Men share information with each other constantly, and in ALL areas of their lives. It's part of the boys club. If only women would smarten up and do the same.
     
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    Even aside from the peepers, it sounds like your neighbourhood has some issues (crackhead, cat thieves, kids smoking weed). I'd just move. But of course, I don't know about the reasons that you stay (other than that this was your mother's home).

    In any event - I'm sorry to hear you're having hassles with assholes*. I think a variant on the .45 ACP idea is worth looking into.
     
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    It is incredibly creepy.

    Perhaps you should get a dog? Or maybe some curtains?:rolleyes:
     
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    BB, I'm sorry to hear that you are being harrassed by these peeping toms.

    The kids during the day trying to get the cats attention irritating as it may be, is understandable. Trying to steal the cat? So not cool.

    The nightly visits are nothing to scoff at. It could just be peeping toms or it could be reconnoissance for more. I don't want to alarm you unnessecarily, but it is worth notifying the police if just to step up patrols in your area.

    Being observed cleaning a shotgun is an interesting idea. Simpler maybe to just leave an empty box of ammo sitting on the window ledge where you know they'll see it at any time day or night.

    If you prefer a less subtle route you could draw a chalk outline where they like to lurk strategically coloured with ketchup. Perhaps a little crime scene tape for effect.

    Please keep us posted. Hope things improve.
     
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    I've never had a situation which warranted calling the emergency hotline, so I'm trying not to call it. I've been trying to get someone to answer the phone at my local precinct, but the automated switchboard keeps disconnecting me, the desk sargeant does't answer, and neither does the human switchboard op. I want a bigger tax rebate this year. It's raining. I'll go in person tomorrow after jury duty. Now I see why people abuse the 911 system. How else do you get someone to talk to you?

    Gillette, when the rain lets up, I might draw the outline just for fun. Next to it, the outline of a severed penis.

    Jeff: I'm not responsible enough to care for a dog, and Medley, my cat, is all the dog I need. She is, after all, the one who alerted me to the presence of someone at my window. I have curtains. Very pretty ones. I'm ordering some blinds soon. It is very important to have fresh air coming in here in the warm months. I have the furnace and hot water heaters in the other room, and they make it quite stuffy. The windows are odd sizes, and shades and blinds must be custom made. I have selected some nice mini blinds. I'm just waiting for the approval of the "landlady" (my grandmother) because she is very peculiar. Also, she may have a different company she wants me to use.

    Rob: You live next to a few crackheads too, you just think they're cokeheads. Crackheads do not all fit neat little stereotypes, just like no one else does. I know two crackheads. One lives here, with her mother, and turns tricks for drugs and food. She is very pleasant to talk to and has amazing moments of wit and clarity. Thye other is everyone's handyman. You don't let him fix anything inside, because he will steal. But he does very good work with hedgeclippers, a rake, a shovel, and he beats going to the carwash and waiting on those lines, breathing all that exhaust. Move because of kids smoking weed? Are you kidding me? Find me a town where kids don't smoke weed, and I'll pinch you 'til you wake up. It's a middle class neighborhood. Most of the neighbors are professionals and skilled tradesmen. And cabbies. Everyone drives a cab on the side. Where am I going to move that is perfect? And you may not have noticed this, but I generally do not let fear dictate my actionsat any rate.

    Bette and Claire: I've been trying for days to find such a network on the internet. There must be some secret pervo lingo I need to know to put into my parameters.

    Hootie: I'm definitely getting blinds. However, my lights cannot be seen from a distance at night. The windows face a driveway, and on the other side of the driveway is another house. The lights can be seen from as far away as the top of the driveway. They can't even be seen from accross the street.

    Porterhouse: I'm actually shopping for a new ac adapter for my camera so I can do just that. My camera takes crystal clear video. But the battery lasts only 1 hour, and it doesn't accept current from the computer, only

    uncut and Claire: The house itself is quite secure against a person actually getting himself into the house. Someone could put their arm in the window though during the summer. I'm planning to take some firearm safety courses, after which I'll apply for a gun permit. I don't know if I'll get a gun. I'm thinking more about it now. It was always something I planned on thinking about "later".

    Gissella: Wow! I can't imagine your horror. How awful! And a trusted friend of the family too. Shame on him.

    Lex: Yeah, the angle, the hours, and the amount of time the light stays on can all be changed from the fixture itself. Okay in most applications, but the light can be reached from my doorway, by anyone my height or taller.
     
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    Thank you for reminding me of the hidden perk of living in a city as notoriously aloof as Toronto - I don't know which of my neighbours are crackheads. And the neighbourhood kids don't smoke up in my condo hallways, thankfully.

    Anyways. I stand by my .45 advice. Although a shotgun loaded with rock salt would do just fine.
     
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    Rocksalt? Damn'. You have a mean streak, don't you?
     
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    A wise decision, Bronx. I don't like guns myself, but having one at home and knowing how to use it will above all make you feel more secure and safe from people for who watching isn't enough. Good idea also to take courses, a gun alone won't help you much if you don't know how to use it correctly. However, to get back at some ideas that originated on this thread, you could also go to a toy store and buy a mock-up gun, which you take out and handle visibly when someone's peeping again.

    Heads up, I guess 99% of those peeping toms become peeing toms at the sight of a gun, and will wheel off.
     
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