Penetration advice

irudesan

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Hello everyone, I just wanted to seek for some advice when penetrating. Im gay, 38 yrs old, Ive considered myself to be verse/bottom, because most of my sexual life I used to bttm, with some few experiences being a top, that went so so, but I never quite felt good bc it gave me some sort of anxiety.

The thing is lately Ive been working out some mental issues and now I feel more comfortable topping, but Ive had some difficulties at the beginning of the penetration. Ive never considered myself to be "hung", just average since it 6.7 in, and 5.5 in circumference, but apparently it "is" kinda big at least according to the bttms ive been with lately. I have some pics on my profile. I get frustrated at the beginning bc they say it hurts, then i lose my erection and it gives me anxiety and you get the idea. How do you deal with the start of penetration, or how to deal with anxiety or the fear of hurting him, specially those on the bigger side, thanks in advice.
 

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^^ yes to the above plus:

This is where having a regular FWB/companion/BF helps - especially one who is understanding and not putting any pressure on you. When you are used to each other, not in rush and there are no demands to do a certain thing you can relax and the anxiety is reduced/eliminated - then things work better.

Short of that - if you can get some viagara or cialis (maybe even a cock ring) - even if you don't need the help physically having even a low dose on board can help mentally since you know the drugs will help maintain the erection so you can focus on, fingering and lubing to get him ready.
 
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I think you can watch videos for this kind of advice, too, to get a feel for how to do it. There are quite a lot of such videos on the Internet today. If you want, you can watch them at . I think you can find what you need there. At least I found a video there for me.