Thanks in advance for being open to a thread that aims to support the gays out there dealing with envy issues.
I've grown up with a penis that, in all reasonableness, is a good one. However, for what ever reason, big penis envy has always been an issue with me. I'm also gay, and the combination makes a unique problem.
Homosexuals, and our heterosexual friends, can both mistake lust for love. This alone is a problem. But uniquely, homosexuals, being attracted to genitals similar to their own, can take it one step further, and mistake envy for lust, or worse, envy for love.
It's a mixed bag when a gay man pulls a big one out of his partner's pants. Where a woman can just be exhilarated by the find, the gay man can be struck with both excitement, and envy, for not having one himself.
Sexuality has enough pitfalls as it is. We gays do not need the added anxiety of turning our sexuality into a "envy game." Taken too far, an envious man can inflate the worth of all men with a big member. Leaving us in our own "untouchables" category, under them, and subordinate. For gays, it is then just a matter of time before a guy with a big cock, and even bigger ego, uses this against us.
It is typical for men, gay or straight, to be concerned with the size of their penis. And the solutions for straight men are the same for gays. However, for gays, special caution should be taken to protect our mental health.
I've grown up with a penis that, in all reasonableness, is a good one. However, for what ever reason, big penis envy has always been an issue with me. I'm also gay, and the combination makes a unique problem.
Homosexuals, and our heterosexual friends, can both mistake lust for love. This alone is a problem. But uniquely, homosexuals, being attracted to genitals similar to their own, can take it one step further, and mistake envy for lust, or worse, envy for love.
It's a mixed bag when a gay man pulls a big one out of his partner's pants. Where a woman can just be exhilarated by the find, the gay man can be struck with both excitement, and envy, for not having one himself.
Sexuality has enough pitfalls as it is. We gays do not need the added anxiety of turning our sexuality into a "envy game." Taken too far, an envious man can inflate the worth of all men with a big member. Leaving us in our own "untouchables" category, under them, and subordinate. For gays, it is then just a matter of time before a guy with a big cock, and even bigger ego, uses this against us.
It is typical for men, gay or straight, to be concerned with the size of their penis. And the solutions for straight men are the same for gays. However, for gays, special caution should be taken to protect our mental health.
- Watch less porn
If you feel you have penis envy, get away from porn sites for a while. You don't have to swear them off, just stop investing so much time to them. Bombarding yourself with images of guys bigger than you will keep you fixated on negative feelings, or tendencies that you have. This alone won't solve the problem, but you need a break from environments that keep you caught up in your own envy before you can take the next step. - Get off male dating sites
Gay dating sites are usually tooled around the guys body type and penis size. Their browser can usually search for men by penis size, and no other criteria, if you choose. Boys, please admit it to yourself: this is pathetic, and certainly not helpful in starting lasting relationships. - Commit to a "don't ask, don't tell" policy about penis size
Don't ask him how big he is. Don't tell him how big you are. This goes for pic-swaps as well, or cams, or any other loophole you little devils might try. Just don't do it. We all love a big dick. It's fun, and it's OK to be happy when you find one, but its even more fun when you find it attached to someone you've already developed more substantial feelings for. Taking size-talk out of the equation allows you to explore the depths of your romantic self, and position your romantic life in a direction that is better built to last. - Make more non-sexual friends
Share life with friends who care for you. Sex is a great ice-breaker, and can lead to friendships, but it bars you from having certain kinds of relationships that can be unique and healthy. Surrounding yourself with non-sexual friends can help you reevaluate your fixation on your own cock, and the cocks among you. - Go play
The world is huge. It's bigger than any cock. Go out and experience it. Live life in your way, and be grateful for the cuts and scrapes mistakes give you. Envy narrows our world. Go have fun and stop obsessing about what's between my...ehm...our legs!
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