Penis size and mentality

[Crowe]

Eh. There's about a thousand ways to please a woman or spice up your sex life and the size of the penis doesn't matter. If you really have troubles with this I suggest asking for help somewhere else. This whole forum is based on people craving large penises, you're not gonna feel better being here.

 

[CRAIGROBBO]

You make a good point but the good and bad of small v big, even if it looks similar, is not the same at all. There is one EXTREMELY important point that you're missing and that's the male ego, which is tied directly to our members probably more than anything else and that's what I believe Craig is struggling with. It's the reason we gather on sites like this one just to talk about and show off our wangs. That ego aspect is why big guys can just shrug off negatives and say to themselves "I'm just too big for her" which is a +1 ego boost, not to mention, there will probably be just as many moments in their life when a big guy drops his pants for the first time and gets that look of awe, which is going to be a +2 ego boost every time. Small guys don't get those vanity moments, just a build up of negatives on something they feel like they can't change. It's very reasonable for Craig to feel the way he does. I've seen a number of big guys on here mention how their wives/partners wouldn't mind them being smaller yet most of us still wish to be bigger. Now why is that? It's because big guys can switch that 'negative' into a positive the way that small guys can't. If a woman says she wouldn't mind you being bigger, that's translated in our heads as her wishing for something that we cannot provide. Craig is obviously highly skilled in the bedroom so it is understandable how it can be demoralizing when a highly skilled individual feels like they will never fully please their mate based on something they have no control over. Now if you flip that same situation to big guys when a woman says they wouldn't mind a guy being smaller. It's translated totally different. We see it as, she would be happy with a smaller size, but we have surpassed her expectations. Again, flipped into a positive, and we all know the truth that bigger does feel better to women. Only the huge guys who have no skills and hurt women with their members are undesirable, but that still puts all of the control in your own hands if you're big, unlike small guys.

I know I typed a lot out here but just wanted to get across that it's not that simple or unreasonable for our friend Craig here to feel the way that he does. I imagine most guys in his position would feel the same way, especially with those examples he posted. Pretty brutal and would stick with any guy mentally if he experienced those situations first hand.

My advice for Craig personally I think you have a few options and the posters above gave some decent suggestions. Cock sleeve would probably help some. Would spice up things with your lady but not sure it would do much for your damaged psyche. Surgery is also a decent option if you're comfortable with it, but definitely would cost a pretty penny. Professional help like itsall4kim posted I think could help some with just accepting yourself but those thoughts will always be in the back of your mind as long as you're small. I think the best thing to do is to get into PE and be serious and committed with it. The reason is because I think it would help you two fold. Not only would you be bigger and thus please your lady more, and trust me, your lady will notice very quickly once you start to gain. You will also help your psyche. We always appreciate what we worked hard for so what do you think would happen if you worked your ass off and got bigger. Even if you didn't get huge i'm pretty sure you'd be a lot more confident if you knew no one could ever call you pencil dick ever again. Well that's all I got for you bud, really hope this connected with you and you got something out of it.

I struggle sometimes explaining things, but honestly you really could not have hit the nail on the head any more perfectly with what you have said, and you are genuinly the first person to truly understand my issue 100% down to a tee.

Thank you for this.

I would consider durgery but the issue is I have never heard of anything thats truely reliable, longterm and safe. Unlike breast enlargement which is fairly common practise and modern techniques are quite safe too.

I am Doing PE to try and help but so far very little effect (and I have tried many techniques)

Again thank you for being so understanding

 

[Vinsanity]

I struggle sometimes explaining things, but honestly you really could not have hit the nail on the head any more perfectly with what you have said, and you are genuinly the first person to truly understand my issue 100% down to a tee.

Thank you for this.

I would consider durgery but the issue is I have never heard of anything thats truely reliable, longterm and safe. Unlike breast enlargement which is fairly common practise and modern techniques are quite safe too.

I am Doing PE to try and help but so far very little effect (and I have tried many techniques)

Again thank you for being so understanding

No problem man, and i'm not even small (not trying to brag or anything). I'm a little bit above average but pretty much count myself as being in the middle of small and impressively large, which I think allows me to see both sides of the scale fairly well. And I just understand people (or at least I think I do lol).

Yea PE can be hard. I haven't had an personal success, but only tried it once a long time ago and didn't stick with it. Looking to give it another go. Just purchased 4X extender which has really good reviews from guys here on the forum and waiting for it to arrive. Try to add some well reviewed devices to your PE regime and just stick with it bro. Although I haven't done much PE i've seen enough reviews from guys to believe that it works. Seems like the biggest thing is just the time and commitment sticking with it

 

[CRAIGROBBO]

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No problem man, and i'm not even small (not trying to brag or anything). I'm a little bit above average but pretty much count myself as being in the middle of small and impressively large, which I think allows me to see both sides of the scale fairly well. And I just understand people (or at least I think I do lol).

Yea PE can be hard. I haven't had an personal success, but only tried it once a long time ago and didn't stick with it. Looking to give it another go. Just purchased 4X extender which has really good reviews from guys here on the forum and waiting for it to arrive. Try to add some well reviewed devices to your PE regime and just stick with it bro. Although I haven't done much PE i've seen enough reviews from guys to believe that it works. Seems like the biggest thing is just the time and commitment sticking with it

Thanks, at the moment I'm sticking with pumping, it does give a noticeable tempory increase which I'm hoping will eventually take, the issue for me with work is lack of time to do much pe.

I spend approx 1 hour pumping per day and 1 rest day.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

But you don't resent your size even with the rejections and the few sexual drawbacks that come with being big. You are saying it's because you are confident and content in your own skin. I 100% agree with that. I'm saying that certain circumstances and situations make that confidence and accepting of yourself harder to obtain. You're right about dysmorphic disorders but we live in a society that breeds that kind of thinking. We are incredibly social beings, which means we look outward for affirmation on almost everything about ourselves. That is why perceived flaws have such a deep affect on us mentally. Even if you are rejected for being big there is almost no one who will perceive largeness as a flaw after that. You will more likely than not even still get a compliment on your member from the girl who rejected you, which is a positive affirmation to lessen the rejection. A small guy already has that perceived flaw because that's what society feeds us so when he's rejected it's all negative. Those negatives add up and they come more frequent for small guys from outward, which then turns inward and it's a snowball effect. That's why the rejection is not the same. We don't live in a vacuum, we are in a living, breathing world where we give different value to everything based on whatever reason, and for the most part, as a whole we respect those values. Nothing is perfect but the scale for bigger guys is tilted more on the positive side.

I don't resent my size because I'm not dysmorphic. I fully grasp that other people can and will have varying desires and opinions, which I may or may not meet or satisfy. People with unhealthy opinions of themselves and/or their bodies aren't capable of this. It's an emotional problem or in more extreme cases a disorder. It requires counseling to solve.

 

[CRAIGROBBO]

I don't resent my size because I'm not dysmorphic. I fully grasp that other people can and will have varying desires and opinions, which I may or may not meet or satisfy. People with unhealthy opinions of themselves and/or their bodies aren't capable of this. It's an emotional problem or in more extreme cases a disorder. It requires counseling to solve.

For me the only way I can approach this is this, you may resent being large but know this, there are women out there thst love huge and are size Queens some thst are less bothered but I'm yet to know, meet or hear of a woman thst "lives /preferred a tiny penis (aside from sph)

 

[CRAIGROBBO]

Eh. There's about a thousand ways to please a woman or spice up your sex life and the size of the penis doesn't matter. If you really have troubles with this I suggest asking for help somewhere else. This whole forum is based on people craving large penises, you're not gonna feel better being here.

I don't think you read my whole post, the pleasuring isnt the issue vinsantiy summed it up on the page prior

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

For me the only way I can approach this is this, you may resent being large but know this, there are women out there thst love huge and are size Queens some thst are less bothered but I'm yet to know, meet or hear of a woman thst "lives /preferred a tiny penis (aside from sph)

There are also women who do prefer average, and those who prefer small. Some are members here.

The indoctrination by the porn industry is amazingly effective at making guys think no woman wants anything less than 8 inches, and that "big" starts at 9.

 

[CRAIGROBBO]

There are also women who do prefer average, and those who prefer small. Some are members here.

The indoctrination by the porn industry is amazingly effective at making guys think no woman wants anything less than 8 inches, and that "big" starts at 9.

Ive only been with about 12 women in my life but spoke to many im yet to meet someone who activly prefers smaller

 

[scallylad85]

I've never met a woman or a man who didnt want me to produce a bigger cock than I have from my pants.

Ends

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

Check some peer reviewed studies regarding size preferences. Most prefer average, and less prefer larger or smaller. And most are happy with their current guy...and the distribution of size is heavily weighted around the average.

 

[Serpentlike]

I have only met one woman who could take my whole cock without serious discomfort, and she still had take it slow at first. Most want average to high average. There is a such thing as too big.

 

[deleted1138933]

No worries, but you do get that this is a mental problem, not at all a physical problem. You asked how to cope. Nobody here can tell you based on a few posts. Good therapy can definitely help. An actual psychiatrist, not a psychologist, can help you get out of your head and back to simply enjoying being intimate with your partner.

The notion that this is a mental problem and not physical unfortunately it’s totally erroneous. What is therapy going to do or what can you fix, nothing. At the end of the day the situation remains the same, Still not long enough and thick enough to reach and feel of the place or spots that she ultimately would prefer and no I’m out of therapy or happy pills it’s going to change that

 

[deleted1138933]

You're repeating what you already wrote...that somehow a big dick is a win even if you get rejected. It isn't. Trust me. And it isn't simply fear. Actual pain is a real problem. Being told, "get that thing out of me" by someone in pain is no ego boost. Ever. Unless you're a sadist, and I am definitely not.

A lot of you need to understand the realities of rejection. I see this here a lot...the assumption that big cocks are never a problem, or can't be as much of a problem as small or average cocks. EVERY size has a perfect match, and really bad matches.

How is that a bad thing you can always control how much you put in how fast and how much pressure but you will always have enough to satisfy and never be short or less than. It doesn’t work the other way around

 

[deleted1138933]

No, because that can't happen and my penis doesn't define me. I don't care about size... I neither want to be larger or smaller. Be who you are. There's someone for everyone, and I guessed wrong and assumed wrong a few times. People with dysmorphic disorders will never understand that their obsession only matters to them. I've been successful and have been rejected. The point of experiences is to learn from all of them and grow, not be paralyzed by failures and allow them to ruin our lives. I was rejected because of my size. It hurt a lot, but rejection is supposed to hurt. I realized a big dick wasn't the be-all end-all of being a guy. I grew up.

Typical answer of someone born gifted and lucky

 

[deleted1138933]

Check some peer reviewed studies regarding size preferences. Most prefer average, and less prefer larger or smaller. And most are happy with their current guy...and the distribution of size is heavily weighted around the average.

I think there is a misconception between confusing average with medium. Average has nothing to do with large and medium. And when women say they prefer average you’re actually talking about medium not small.

 

[SoaringSpirit]

Thank you

Well to start proberbly from te beginning, one girl that I had been with (and kinda where it all started from) was when she pulled my pants down and lookd a bit suprsied...I said whats up she said " you have a pencil dick"...I said so its small...she said "its good for anal so it doesn't hurt"....as you can imagine that was an instant turn off...


The next occasion was when me, my current and a friend had a three way...when all was done the third girl sat on the end of the bed with my mrs (while im still there bear in mind) and said...oh you knmow ste craigs mate he has a much bigger dick...my responce was "Im fucking sat right here" she said " i didnt think youd be bothered" but my mrs seemed very interested in this "bigger dick" literally that was depression and anxiety formed right there.

now yes me and my mrs have spoke about it and she basically says" you cock is fine it makes me cum" which yes i get that but ultimatly i know fine well she wishes its bigger.

Thats not the issue though...the issue now is me...My self loathing, my own anxiety i cant get out of...the fact i struggle to get turned on because i hate to look at it.

Some ppl have no class at all. Again your partner is with YOU, she has told you that you satisfy her PERIOD. Its so unfortunate that everything we do in our society, is comparison....I get it ...human nature. But LOVE yourself & take pride in the fact that you & your, wonderful penis/cock/equipment does the job it was made for. Don't allow others " opinions" put you down on yourself.

I know the feeling. Like oh my boobs aren't as big/perky etc...as this woman or that...but you know what ? At this stage in my life, I value ME & quite frankly....I could care less....I'm not here to impress anyone.

Neither are you. Stay far away from the negative ppl. Some ppl lack a brain & mentality. Use everything you have & stand tall !!!

Remember that you are unlike everyone else ! So therefore no comparison is needed.

Just my humble thoughts & outlook -

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

I think there is a misconception between confusing average with medium. Average has nothing to do with large and medium. And when women say they prefer average you’re actually talking about medium not small.

I never said anything remotely similar to what you're talking about here, so why did you quote me?

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

Typical answer of someone born gifted and lucky

Luck is what you make of any situation. Your negativity is part of the emotional/mental state problems I've been talking about. As for being "gifted", I have no more of a gfit than any other man. Your obsession with penis size is the problem.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

How is that a bad thing you can always control how much you put in how fast and how much pressure but you will always have enough to satisfy and never be short or less than. It doesn’t work the other way around

I can't control how much penis I put into a woman's ass who refuses anal sex....or into her pussy if she refuses ANY sex with me because my size frightens her.

You just don't get it.