Penis size and mentality

[ItsAll4Kim]

The notion that this is a mental problem and not physical unfortunately it’s totally erroneous. What is therapy going to do or what can you fix, nothing. At the end of the day the situation remains the same, Still not long enough and thick enough to reach and feel of the place or spots that she ultimately would prefer and no I’m out of therapy or happy pills it’s going to change that

If how you feel about your body isn't mental, then nothing is.

What you can fix is the notion that penis size is the be-all end-all of sex. That you can't please a woman without a big penis.

You can learn that the places women get pleasure aren't eight inches in...they're at the first few inches. You can learn to be a great lover regardless of penis size or even having or using a penis.

At the end of the day, keep being miserable, negative and unhappy with yourself. Don't listen to a guy with a big cock who tells you, from a life's worth of experiences, that it means nothing. Keep hoping for what won't happen because it can't, instead of living to the best of your current potential. It's YOUR life, not mine, so live it or be miserable, your choice.

 

[CRAIGROBBO]

If how you feel about your body isn't mental, then nothing is.

What you can fix is the notion that penis size is the be-all end-all of sex. That you can't please a woman without a big penis.

You can learn that the places women get pleasure aren't eight inches in...they're at the first few inches. You can learn to be a great lover regardless of penis size or even having or using a penis.

At the end of the day, keep being miserable, negative and unhappy with yourself. Don't listen to a guy with a big cock who tells you, from a life's worth of experiences, that it means nothing. Keep hoping for what won't happen because it can't, instead of living to the best of your current potential. It's YOUR life, not mine, so live it or be miserable, your choice.

I dont think you understand my issue.

My issue isn'tt he pleasuring of her because I know i do that, she comes 99% of the times we have sex...

please read my posts and more so Vansanity as well as he hit the nail on the head for me and he is 100% accurate.

 

[CRAIGROBBO]

Some ppl have no class at all. Again your partner is with YOU, she has told you that you satisfy her PERIOD. Its so unfortunate that everything we do in our society, is comparison....I get it ...human nature. But LOVE yourself & take pride in the fact that you & your, wonderful penis/cock/equipment does the job it was made for. Don't allow others " opinions" put you down on yourself.

I know the feeling. Like oh my boobs aren't as big/perky etc...as this woman or that...but you know what ? At this stage in my life, I value ME & quite frankly....I could care less....I'm not here to impress anyone.

Neither are you. Stay far away from the negative ppl. Some ppl lack a brain & mentality. Use everything you have & stand tall !!!

Remember that you are unlike everyone else ! So therefore no comparison is needed.

Just my humble thoughts & outlook -

I genuinly appreciate your support, pleasuring her isnt the issue though the issue is how i veiw myself.

 

[SoaringSpirit]

I genuinly appreciate your support, pleasuring her isnt the issue though the issue is how i veiw myself.

I know that. Self Love is everything. Have you tried to listen to self help videos on you tube ? Try Michael Sealey. He is AWESOME. I had issues that ive worked on & he is great. One small step at a ti e can help. Its like a broken tape repeating itself over & over. You need to reprogram yourself. Feel free to PM me if you need to chat -))

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

I dont think you understand my issue.

My issue isn'tt he pleasuring of her because I know i do that, she comes 99% of the times we have sex...

please read my posts and more so Vansanity as well as he hit the nail on the head for me and he is 100% accurate.

I wasn't addressing the post you quoted here to you. I've already responded to you. You don't have a physical problem...your cock and your technique is enough to give your partner orgasms. Why that isn't enough for YOU is a head problem. If you wish to expend time, money and emotional energy trying to make your cock bigger, that's up to you...even guys with huge cocks get obsessed and do this. Again, it's a head game, not physical. When someone has fully working genitals that satisfy their partner but they are still unhappy, that's an unreasonable obsession and could be a dysmorphic condition. You can't make your cock much if at all larger. It's far less frustrating to find ways to be happy with what you have. Your partner is happy with you. Why isn't that enough?

 

[CRAIGROBBO]

I wasn't addressing the post you quoted here to you. I've already responded to you. You don't have a physical problem...your cock and your technique is enough to give your partner orgasms. Why that isn't enough for YOU is a head problem. If you wish to expend time, money and emotional energy trying to make your cock bigger, that's up to you...even guys with huge cocks get obsessed and do this. Again, it's a head game, not physical. When someone has fully working genitals that satisfy their partner but they are still unhappy, that's an unreasonable obsession and could be a dysmorphic condition. You can't make your cock much if at all larger. It's far less frustrating to find ways to be happy with what you have. Your partner is happy with you. Why isn't that enough?

Why isn't it enough...


The issue runs deeper than just my cock...I can't stand to look at my self, I hate every aspect of myself and its not by choice.

When enough people in your life tell you things over and over and over...you start to beleive there is some truth in it....the things im told over and over and over is that 1) I have a small cock 2) I am ugly and look like a rat 3) i am a short scrawny ass even for a man 4) I have the personality of a patato.

This is a penis group so I only brought one of those topics up but it defiantly runs deeper.

 

[stax 68]

..Your partner is happy with you. Why isn't that enough?...

Cause it's not about his partner's happiness...it's about his happiness.

 

[mako shark]

Hate to say it but... don't watch porn or believe that lpsg is reality. Many guys that "think" they are small are actually average size my friend...

 

[stax 68]

..Hate to say it but... don't watch porn or believe that lpsg is reality...

I don't know really know if average/small can do this to a woman...

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

Why isn't it enough...


The issue runs deeper than just my cock...I can't stand to look at my self, I hate every aspect of myself and its not by choice.

When enough people in your life tell you things over and over and over...you start to beleive there is some truth in it....the things im told over and over and over is that 1) I have a small cock 2) I am ugly and look like a rat 3) i am a short scrawny ass even for a man 4) I have the personality of a patato.

This is a penis group so I only brought one of those topics up but it defiantly runs deeper.

Is there any doubt that you need professional counseling?

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

Cause it's not about his partner's happiness...it's about his happiness.

And he needs help. His last post is all the proof needed. He has deep-rooted issues with self esteem and image. A bigger penis (which is not possible) won't fix this, but professional help can.

 

[ronin001]

One of the first rules of Psychological recover, is to admit there is a problem. No matter if this problem is real or imaginary. The next step is, what do you do with the knowledge you have gathered from step one ?

<<<< Not a psychiatrist, psychologist; or an annalist. I just watch a lot of TV

 

[CRAIGROBBO]

Sorry saidI should've said before, but I have been to mental health clinics, cbt, phycology, counselling (12 in total) non have worked, if anything made it worse. ..

As for marko it's not porn thst does it, its real life...

 

[Crowe]

I don't think you read my whole post, the pleasuring isnt the issue vinsantiy summed it up on the page prior

Maybe you didn't read what I said. I know I said pleasing her bla bla because that's the only thing you should care about. Then I said, that you should get help elsewhere such as a psychologist, this website really isn't gonna help you at all.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

Sorry saidI should've said before, but I have been to mental health clinics, cbt, phycology, counselling (12 in total) non have worked, if anything made it worse. ..

As for marko it's not porn thst does it, its real life...

Have you had long-term care by an actual licensed psychiatrist? Not a psychologist, or other semi-pro counselor, but an actual MD who specializes in BDD? That's what you should seek. Good psychiatrists are NOT easy to find...it often takes quite a bit of trial and error. But your problems are psychological, not physical, and that's the type of care you need. This site won't help you beyond recommending professional care.

 

[Vinsanity]

Luck is what you make of any situation. Your negativity is part of the emotional/mental state problems I've been talking about. As for being "gifted", I have no more of a gfit than any other man. Your obsession with penis size is the problem.

Dude that's like saying LeBron James is no more gifted than any other ball player. Ridiculous

 

[Vinsanity]

I can't control how much penis I put into a woman's ass who refuses anal sex....or into her pussy if she refuses ANY sex with me because my size frightens her.

You just don't get it.

Harrypalms is right. What I think you're not understanding is the feeling of being 'small', not good enough or inadequate. It's one of the most powerful negative feelings a human can feel because you can't escape the feeling with any kind of mental gymnastics. No matter how many negative experiences you have as a big guy, which less face it, that number will be minute because most girls will probably be willing to at least attempt to have sex even if they are frightened by your size, being big NEVER connects you mentally with the feeling of inadequacy.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

Dude that's like saying LeBron James is no more gifted than any other ball player. Ridiculous

Harrypalms is right. What I think you're not understanding is the feeling of being 'small', not good enough or inadequate. It's one of the most powerful negative feelings a human can feel because you can't escape the feeling with any kind of mental gymnastics. No matter how many negative experiences you have as a big guy, which less face it, that number will be minute because most girls will probably be willing to at least attempt to have sex even if they are frightened by your size, being big NEVER connects you mentally with the feeling of inadequacy.

You really aren't listening at all. Being rejected for size, whether for fear, for pain, or from past bad experiences...none of that is charming, reassuring, an ego boost...there is no bright side, no silver lining in that cloud. It still means no sex, no relationship, do not pass Go, do not collect $200. Things sucking when you have a big dick suck just as much as they do for anyone else.

Being "too big", not right, or too much is no different than being "too small, not good enough, or inadequate. It's still bad, it's still rejection. Saying it's okay because at least my dick is big is fucking dumb.

If your sex life sucks it isn't because of your penis size.

 

[ItsAll4Kim]

Additionally, the facts support me far more than anyone who assumes a big cock is necessary to satisfy a woman. Survey after survey shows that the overwhelming majority of women are satisfied with the size of their partner's penis. The overwhelming majority of men have average penises. Only the extreme ends of the bell curve have small and large....we're both outliers statistically. And in the same satisfaction surveys, it's the guys who are the ones thinking they aren't big enough. The women say they are fine, the guys disagree. But no, that's not an emotional/mental problem.....nope, no way.....

 

[CRAIGROBBO]

You really aren't listening at all. Being rejected for size, whether for fear, for pain, or from past bad experiences...none of that is charming, reassuring, an ego boost...there is no bright side, no silver lining in that cloud. It still means no sex, no relationship, do not pass Go, do not collect $200. Things sucking when you have a big dick suck just as much as they do for anyone else.

Being "too big", not right, or too much is no different than being "too small, not good enough, or inadequate. It's still bad, it's still rejection. Saying it's okay because at least my dick is big is fucking dumb.

If your sex life sucks it isn't because of your penis size.

I get your saying but my initial discussion was nothing about being "too big" just about being a nice big.

The thing is, there's a considerably higher number of women who'd prefer a larger penis (not monster painful ) than that would prefer an unsatisfying small one.

If you took an operating range I can guarantee regardless of person attached most women would air on the larger side.

My experience proved this perfectly.

And yes I'm away size isn't always key but here we are talking only about too big vs too small. I'm talking about big and small in realms of comfort