Penis size and mentality

[Ggftl]

I do agree but as you mentioned in the first part, its easier said than it is done. Especailly with it now being so deeply embeded mentally.

I know it's easier said than done. I also know you've gone to see a therapist and being a therapist in training, I know that the specificity of this topic is something many counselors have very little discussion about simply because I think this kind of anxiety does not present itself very often in the therapy room. But I think you are doing a lot to take steps to addressing this kind of dissatisfaction. If anything your therapist will be prompted to do more research and better understand this type of body anxiety.

I really commend you for speaking out about it, especially against a society that not only glorifies largeness, but also shames smallness or even average-ness tbh. I believe that you taking those steps will lead to something, keep at it, I believe in you.

 

[BiManUK4FatCocks]

The problem is that one the one hand you want to aggressively dominate a woman and fuck her into submission, but you end up treating her very careful like a nice guy would and instead respect through submission you get fear through physically damaging her insides. With most women you end up with unsatisfying sex and end up gaining most satisfaction from first reaction awe and cock worship.

 

[Anton565]

I think Vinsanity makes a great point about the distinction between individual experiences and the power of society's impact on our perceptions of self. I think it's important to just acknowledge the fact that CRAIGROBBO is feeling really shitty because of the way society devalues men who in whatever way do not uphold these toxic masculine ideals. In the same way that straight men hate gay men for their femininity, men who are not large are looked down on by a society that is clearly obsessed with size. It's also the reason why stereotypes about Asian men's size are negative stereotypes.

What I think he needs first and foremost isn't problem solving, but acknowledgement that that shit does suck, not a situation where people with more "valued" appendages state that all's not greener on the other side, while still being on the other side and unwilling to switch places lmao.

I've been dealing with a much less severe situation that has a VERY similar dynamic. What's helped me sort some of it out is labelling the different pieces of the situation. First off, separate in your mind which pieces are the situation and which pieces are your response.
Then, for each piece, ask yourself:
My perception or outside fact?
Can I change it? YES/NO
Am/was I a participant? yes/no
If I change my attitude, will that affect the pieces that are outside my mind? yes/no
Are there venues/occasions/social groups where the situation does not come up?

My skeletal shape is NOT valued by society. I do NOT measure up. My body is NOT acceptable. These are society's judgements. I have zero influence over them. Given that I'm not into receiving looks of disgust and hearing people's negative comments, society's judgements DO dictate where I can take my shirt off. Again, I have zero influence.

I can hate my body, stay inside, and hate my body tomorrow ..... OR .... I can hate my body, go out and get laid, and hate my body tomorrow.

Your dick is small. That is NOT ok. I think it's extremely aggressive toward you for anyone to suggest that an attitude change on your part would make the "not ok-ness" somehow change.

This is getting long and it's late...... sorry for rambling.
- You mentioned your lady has an orgasm almost every time you have sex. I sgree with the guy above who suggested you subtly shift the center to performance/outcomes and not equipment used.
- The next time you overhear a size discussion pose this question: So you're suggesting a 20% increase of dick size automatically brings a 20% increase in the ratio of orgasms to intercourse? No matter what the response, you can shoot it down.
- If your lady has an orgasm almost every time you have sex, remind yourself that you're producing superior results with substandard equipment.

Two last things:

- You don't have to solve everything at once. You can start changing the parts of your body you can change while you're still trying to figure out what to do (if anything) about your dick.
- Get a physical to make sure there isn't a health problem making everything worse. be sure to have your thyroid checked.

Hope this helps.

 

[Anton565]

Hate to say it but... don't watch porn or believe that lpsg is reality. Many guys that "think" they are small are actually average size my friend...

That reminds me of those "small cock" blogs I see on Tumblr. More than half the cocks there are average size. Calling them "small" is like calling a guy who's 5'8" a midget.

 

[love2compare]

I don't know really know if average/small can do this to a woman...

@stax 68 Guess what: yes we can!

However, me and my wife cannot (and dont want to) scream like that tiny girl in the movie as we have children at home hehe...

this is porn man, made by actors to make guys like you drool, believe what they play and cum.... welcome back to reality where couples need to work with what they actually got. Average forever!