Penis Size And Sexual Roles In Male-to-male Sex

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I originally posted this in the "General Discussion forum. I'm putting it here in hopes it gets more attention. I've also posted it in the Gay Man forum.

https://publisher.medfak.ni.ac.rs/AFMN_1/2018/4-2018/full text/33Milan Bjekic.pdf


A key finding as stated in the results section:

"In comparison with men with an average penis, men with below average penis more frequently took the passive sexual role. On the other hand, those with an above average penis more frequently took the active sexual role."


.....................................................Below Average..........Average..........Above Average

Always/Mostly ACTIVE........................4.8%....................29.4%..................47.2%
Active & Passive.................................47.6%....................44.7%..................41.4%
Always/Mostly PASSIVE....................47.6%....................25.8%..................11.4%


There are other interesting findings about satisfaction with penis, number of partners, steady partnerships, and occurrence of venereal disease.


If you're bisexual, where do you fit on the chart? And why?
 

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I'm not gay or bi but based upon these findings, the size of my cock (small), and my own experience, I'd say if I were gay I'd probably fall in the passive category, even though I'm "active" in sex with women and "dominant" IRL with men. In MFM threesomes, I almost always took the more passive role in regards to penetrative sex, i.e., the other guy did most of the fucking.

However, another similar study took into consideration such "masculine" characteristics as hairiness and physical build. The more masculine trended similarly to the actives ("tops") in this study and the less "masculine" trended with the passives ("bottoms"); however, not as strongly. In this aspect, I'd definitely fall into the "masculine" bucket, so maybe I'd be in the middle "Active and Passive" group (versatile) -- although I doubt it. Penis size is destiny!
 

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All I can say is that I definitely take the more passive role in my M2M bisexual encouters. I consider my dick to be "smallish" due to its lack of girth. I seek out guys with bigger dicks and simply want to offer up my body for their pleasure. I don't even expect or care if I get any reciprocity.

As another poster said, body size and type plays a role in it too in that i am a thin built, smallish guy overall. I feel more submissive to bigger built, well hung guys.

I am a bottom for sure. I have guys want me to fuck them and I retreat from taking on that role.
 

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I am slightly above average in penis size and haven't had sex with another man. When I do fantasize about it I am the active one at least 85% of the time. I'm not against being passive but it doesn't appeal to me near as much as being the one in charge.
 
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I don’t think penis size has much to do with position preference unless a guy is really small. I had two fuckbuds who have microdicks and are total bottoms because they have little choice. The opposite, however, is not true and I’ve known total bottoms that had massive dicks.
 

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I know bottoms with big dicks, there's nothing like a man shoving his hard cock inside of you. Wrapping his arms around you as he pumps faster and faster, then releasing everything he has inside of you. The most amazing feeling in the world. If I wasn't married and happy....I'd be 1000% gay. Maybe I'm just saying that because I haven't been with a man in a VERY long time!
 

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I am well above average in length (8.6 inches) and girth (6.6 inches). I am not what you would call a big man in stature (5'8.5"). I generally assume the dominant position bith with men and women. I have served as bull in three cuckold situations. There have been times when I desired to assume the passive position
 

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I fall in the "above average" column, and I'm 50/50 active/passive depending on who I'm playing with. If there are more tops in a group setting, I'll bottom but usually I top or flip. With women I'm more aggressive, especially if her old man is with us lol.

I know it's purely anecdotal, but I run into a LOT of big-dicked total bottoms.
 

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I am in the "above average" column and Im 100% passive and a "feminine" bottom.

For me, I was introduced to male to male sex when I was much younger with an older neighbour and was guided into a bottom role and was also "feminized" during the process. I enjoyed the role playing and pleasing my partner so it was just a position/role that gave me pleasure and a few years later was able to continue that with another partner.

With women, I take up dominant/masculine role that takes charge and control of the time I spend with them.

For me being bi, I get the pleasures and benefits of being with both sexes.
 
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I'm always active (top), with a normal lenght but large girth penis, always have trouble in penetration, gotta use a lot of lube or saliva to dilate my partner's butthole, its difficult but just the beggining
 

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I don’t know if passive is the word for me. I’m definitely more likely to be submissive to a man with a bigger dick than mine …which is most guys lol
Always been submissive, its what I enjoy and what my male partners enjoy me being. Surrendering complete control is a turn on for me.
 

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I can't speak for all men, but I have a thought as to why smaller dicks are far more passive. It's sort of the same thing with straight sex -- availability. There are far less receivers (bottoms, passive) than givers (tops, active).

So what that means is, if there are far less dudes that want to get fucked, that means there are far more dudes that want to fuck them. As a receiver myself (though I only prefer oral, but I heavily fantasize about taking it but it has never been enjoyable when trying), I prefer the dick I am servicing to be noticeably bigger than mine. Makes me feel more "effeminate" and less powerful, which I absolutely love.

The parallel with straight sex is that every straight dude from here to the moon wants pussy, but there is far less of it easily available, just like there are far less bi and gay dudes willing to take it instead of give it. And those of that are willing to take it, may prefer a bigger cock and because there are so few of us receivers compared to givers, we can be picky and filter out the smaller guys.

As for bottoms/passive men being average or smaller than average -- that's simple. Average is the norm, big dick is not. Of course the majority of us are not going to be hung, there is already a lack of receivers out there compared to givers/tops, so by virtue of numbers statistically we are going to have a smaller dick, especially when you factor in that many of us may only want a bigger one to fuck us to begin with and size for a bottom is a non factor, where as size for a top can be the deciding factor.

Not citing anything here as fact, just my thoughts on why this may be.
 
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Makes me feel more "effeminate" and less powerful, which I absolutely love.
As a passive bottom myself, definitely agree with this. The more I feel more efeminate and less powerful with men, they more I enjoy the sexual encounter. While I have been bigger than all my partner's in terms of dicks size, this has been compensated by them being much older, larger/heavier and very aggressive and dominant in the way they treat and manhandle me.
 

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I disagree with they saying there are far more tops than bottoms. If you read the ads where I live, it's almost ALL bottoms and people wanting to suck... about 8 to 1.
BINGO. Sniffies, A4A, and Silverdaddies... Bottoms, bottoms, and more bottoms!
 
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I agree with what has been in reference to bottoms out numbering tops. I have met men from Growlrs, Adam4Adam, and Grindr. My observation is that there are many more bottoms than tops. I might add that because of my size I have been very popular.