That’s vague? Obviously, it means the guy can get you off, even if not in a way that would be the most exciting, given his “handicap.”
Obviously? Dude, you put the word efficient in quotes. As if he's maybe only purported to be efficient, or is efficient only by some definitions. The fact that your word-choice and grammar make your question vague is your problem, not mine. So don't cop an attitude with me about it when I've been nothing but nice and tried to answer your question even though many other threads here already address it. Okay?
Now handicap is in quotes. I don't believe a small penis is necessarily a hindrance to a man. If he is capable of being fun and sexy with his clothes on, and he is attentive and truly efficient (which to me and your dictionary would mean doing exactly the right thing at exactly the right time without passion, and without teasing or games, but which to you seems only to mean that he has a small dick and is therefore automatically boring), if he lacks passion but has the technical skills to bring about a great climax, he can get laid, and he can get callbacks. If a guy is obnoxious and annoying a woman has to have very little value for her own time, very little self worth to have sex with him. How does she find out that he is sexually aggressive or has a big dick if he's been annoying her since she met him? Personally, if it's me, I'm calling the small-dicked guy on that horny night since I already know he can get me off. Or I'll masturbate if I think he's boring. I would have thrown out the obnoxious guy's contact info ages ago. And to be fair, I don't think I've ever only had two men from which to choose.
To repeat, the question was not at all vague—as demonstrated by the fact that you understood it perfectly. I like your answer, and I appreciate your honesty.
You only feel that way because she gave you the answer you wanted. I asked you for clarification of the word you put in quotes because I could see how it could be interpreted in multiple ways. I even answered your question based on my understanding of it. But because my answer didn't fit into your neat little box, it isn't honest. Because I don't have sexual preferences based on penis size, I'm not honest. If that's how you feel, why bother even asking questions? Why not just tell us what our opinions are and have us repeat them for you?
You only give your phone number to men who are potential sex partners, and only after you check out their equipment? That’s the only thing that could possibly motivate you to get to know someone of the opposite sex? Fascinating.
Wait a minute. Context. You put your question is a specific context, and she answered in that context. NJQT would ask a potential sex partner how big his meat is before getting too involved with him. She would ask a potential boyfriend too. This is because size is a deal-breaker issue for her, which is not the case with most women. NJQT is a so-called size queen. She needs them big, and knows she doesn't need to settle for anything that won't meet her needs.
Maybe you didn’t know him all that well when you went to bed with him the first time. It happens all the time.
Okay, but now that I know he's obnoxious we've probably had it out, and I've definitely lost his number. I can't speak for NJQT.
The fact that someone may be obnoxious should not threaten another person’s self-esteem. Obnoxious does not necessarily mean insulting or demeaning to others. It may just mean overbearing or insensitive to other’s wishes or feelings.
If I spend time with a man who is overbearing and/or insensitive to my feelings I am sacrificing my self esteem. Esteem means high regard. If I spend time with a person who treats me poorly, I clearly have ceased to hold myself in high regard. "Obviously."
njqt said:
I think it's meant to be one of those 'trick' questions meant to get women to admit they don't really want or need a large penis.
No it's a trick question the other way. He wants us to admit that we all want a big dick and would rather be treated poorly and get one than be treated adequately and get a small one. Also note he doesn't give us the choice of being treated well by an exceptional lover. Our choices are: be treated adequately by an adequate lover, or be treated poorly by someone with a large penis who is aggressive in bed. The question automatically assumes that all women like and prefer sexually aggressive men, that only largely-endowed men exhibit that behavior, that smally-endowed men lack passion, and is worded therefore in a leading way.
Not at all. The question was posed in an effort to assess the relative value of penis size to women. I think some women definitely do need a large penis. I’m wondering how important it is, not trying to trick anyone into saying anything. What would be the point of that? My intent is to understand women, not play games.
If this is true, I recommend you start another thread, and before you post it, be sure to remove all of your biases from the question. This question, as it is asked, is not very objective at all, and you only thank those participants who give exactly the answer you want. Fuck that.