Penises in your family

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  1. rocketred

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    I NEVER saw my father's, uncles' or any family members' penises growing up and so never had any frame of reference for my own other than friends around my same age.

    Now I know my Dad isn't really hung but, up until a certain state of growth, knowing what he had would've made me feel more normal - even in the way of pubes.

    I have an older friend who's always been very open with his son about both of their penises and now his son has turned into a really nice well-adjusted lad who gets on well with girls and feels really secure about his penis.

    What do you people think? Should families, particularly fathers be more proactive in making sure their sons are OK with their penises?

    I think it should become a part of the "birds and the bees" talk. Growing up, me and my friends were obsessed with size but shyness and bragging made things worse - my Dad could've reassured me alot about that.
     
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    I would have like to know what my father had/has, cus i didnt even see him growing up, so i ended up looking at porn for "what it should look like" and that kinda messed me up for a while...
     
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    I'm secure with my penis, and I think I'm pretty well-adjusted. My father never even hints about his penis or mine, and honestly I'm glad he hasn't. Some people need that kind of attention, but others like me don't. Btw I don't know anybody that has ever had a "birds and bees" talk with their parents. (Why it's called "birds and bees" is beyond me.) We had sex education classes in middle school and high school, and we had the internet, so I guess my parents at least never felt the need to elaborate. Just another example of government and the public sphere taking on the traditional roles of the family.
     
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    Yes, I believe that most of the males in my family did, in fact, have penises/penes. :rolleyes:

    While I have seen my father's, and two of my male cousins', I don't know that having seen them, helped or hindered my understanding of them. I think, at least for me, the real inkling of what was "normal" was in the showers, in grade 7. I was surprised to see that everyone was basically the same, and even more surprised that two of the biggest guys (one, just very tall, and the other, of a good height, but a big SOLID body), actually had the smallest ones of any of us (although the stocky guy had disproportionately huge eggs hanging, making his penis look even smaller).

    I didn't really grow up with my father involved in my everyday life, so it's hard for me to make a call on this, but I think that while he potentially could've reassured me with a, "You know, guys talk a big story, but most really are right around 6", give or take," I think it could've just as easily creeped me out, or scarred/scared me. :wink: But I do agree, that however the sex ed is gotten, that "average" size, should at least be mentioned, especially if they're not sporting a "10x7 porn dick". :rolleyes:
     
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    I saw my father's cock many times, soft, hard and semi... Saw him fucking, also.
    He had very simillar cock to mine, though I would say he was thicker than me.
    MY bro is hung also, but not as big as me or my dad.
    One my cousin, that is very close with me, is also well hung, but his dick is pretty curved...
    S much about family and cocks :)
     
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    I recall seeing my father soft a few times when growing up, but no later than about age 8. I have no specific recollection of what I saw, but at that age, ANY adult man would've looked enormous to me, so I'm sure any memories of it would skew considerably larger than he actually is.

    My uncles were close to 50 by the time I was born (they are 20 years older than my mom), and my male cousins are anywhere from 15 to 25 years older than me. I've never been very close with any of these people, but even if I were, the age difference would've made "sharing" unlikely.

    My brother is five years younger than me and learning disabled ... again, hardly the likeliest candidate for any sort of "comparison."

    I try not to scope out relatives' bulges (ewww!) so I really have no idea of the size of ANY of my closest male relatives.

    And y'know what? I'm perfectly fine with that. :smile:

    Steve
     
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    with 3 bros (one older 2 younger) and a dad around the house i had no shortage of male bodies to satisfy any curiosity i had growing up. my dad is career military (and grew up in italy) so he never ascribed to any prudish modesty nonsense when it came to him or his boys. from the beginning i never felt inhibited about being naked doing any normal things where you tend to be naked. and with 3 bros communal nudity was common when bathing, getting dressed, sports, lockeroom, swimming in the backyard.

    my feelin is parents transfer their own messed up ideas about body/nudity to thier kids, glad i escaped that.
     
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    saw nothing or heard nothing. i was the only male in the family.
     
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    I think if I had seen my father or uncles nude, let alone having sex like some of you claim, i would be in therapy,,,lol,,,,,the whole idea is gross, I mean really this is wrong on so many levels,
     
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    i've seen my dad and brother nude several times. never any shame in it. my dad even commented when i was a teen about our similar size when he caught me hard in my room one day.
     
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    I think we have moved the direction of being way too prudish. In my younger years urinals were often troughs and men saw each other often. I had two older brothers and saw them nude in our creek in the swimming hole. Neighbor boys used to swim there also. I recall when I was in grade school seeing a high school boy jacking and I remember that he looked huge. Also, some slightly older boys used to come to our barn and three or four of us jacked off together when my tool was the size of my little finger.
    The men in my family went outside for morning pees and I saw my dad several time,,, his foreskin covered his glans. I never liked the looks of that. I have always kept mine pulled back.
     
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    Oh , yes , I worked in a factory in High School and the urinals were troughs. I remember hearing men say,,, "if you shake it more than three times you're playing with it." lol
     
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    Sometimes up until around 8 yrs old, I used to shower with my father after playing or doing some activity together on weekends. At home he would be just in boxers many times, so I have a recollection of his penis, although a good 20 years have passed since the last time I saw it (glad about it, too). But what i remember, if i compare it mine right now (i could be way off) I think he had a similar if not bigger penis length than me, tubular shape but not nearly as big headed as me.

    A couple of years back, my father was with some of his best youth friends, drinking and one of them said: "so, *****(name), you still as hung as then?..."
    he was telling a story about a game they played on some of their female friends...etc.
    That phrase caught me, because it pointed me toward his friends thinking he was very hung.

    Only family member i have seen his penis was him.
     
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