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i'm bad with PMs.
i answer most straight away but i do get snowed under from time to time.
sometimes i accidentally delete unread messages.
sometimes i read with the intention of answering later but forget to.

it's endearing damnit!
 

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Years ago, when I first joined, I really appreciated getting welcoming PM's from some of the members here. I can, to this day, tell you who they are. This was the profound effect it had on me. A positive one. It made me feel at home and eased my shyness about being here to some extent. THank you, Monstro and Geo 6x8. You guys rock!

Aww that's so sweet. Thanks, darling!

I send a lot fewer pm's these days, but I always try to respond to the ones I receive, even if it's only to say, "I'm sorry, I have no idea what a Flying Flaming Trapezoid is, but if I did, I doubt I would want to perform one with you. Regards."
 

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I PM'd someone yesterday about a post they'd made. In this post they'd quite openly spoken about something which despite having a deep desire for, I've never told anyone apart from my husband. I PM'd them to thank them for being so open about it because until the stronger of us speak out without worrying about the reaction of others, people like me will always feel the need to keep it to ourselves.

Now I'm not so much bothered about not getting a reply to random PMs I send, but it took a lot for me to open up about it and now I worry that they think badly of me because of what I've admitted to finally, and that the post of theirs which prompted it was some form of joke or something :confused:

I've been PM'ing Kotch my life story for the past few months and I'm not sure if she's enjoying it. I'm 300 pages deep and I haven't even gotten out of diapers yet. Mind you I did wear them until I was 17.
 

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I dunno..
when some new people join the group, and become active, I will typically message and say something like.
"welcome to the group, nice to see you here, My name is Danny."
ect..

and 99% of the time people will right back, and be nice..
but sometimes people never write back..

that really grinds my gears.

If you're actually receiving replies from 99% of these new members I'd say that you are blessed, indeed, considering that probably less than 10% of first-time posters ever post again.

Don't feel bad about it, deej. On the contrary. Feel good about getting a few wallflowers to come out of the darkness and join the fun.

It was just such a PM that got me started at LPSG (God bless you, FineDessert) and I haven't run out of things to say, yet.
 

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I love your PMs, especially the ones starting with things like...

"You remember last night? Well, erm, I got carried away :redface: could you check for my car keys please? I think I might have left them there"

You said that you offered "Drive-Thru Service" and I took you literally.

When does the cast come off?:biggrin1:
 

arliss

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Of course if by "ect" you mean "Holy shit you're so fucking hot. God, what I would do to bend you over my 1991 Honda Civic. I am currently masturbating compulsively over your photos and plan on moving to your city soon in order to be nearer to you. Kisses (and pearl necklaces)" then it's not hard to see why they don't write back. You should content yourself with merely not getting a restraining order... :wink:

an unabashed stalker...beware
 

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I answer my PM's! I 've only told one person here not to PM me again ever!
But sometimes...Like for the next two weeks. I'm going to be away and will not be on the LPSG Boards. (Don't cry everyone)
But I will return PM's upon return!
 

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I have about 30 pending PMs that I just haven't bothered with. After reading DJG's post, I feel kinda guilty now.

I'm a digital packrat and I can't delete anything. I guess I should message some of them back. I still don't plan on responding to the "you're so hot" ones. They make me feel awkward.
 

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I have about 30 pending PMs that I just haven't bothered with. After reading DJG's post, I feel kinda guilty now.

I'm a digital packrat and I can't delete anything. I guess I should message some of them back. I still don't plan on responding to the "you're so hot" ones. They make me feel awkward.
I almost sent you a PM! But posted instead. I've learn to dread the ones that the Subject title is "Hey Man"
But a polite no thank you but thanks for the compliment does the trick in most cases!

 

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I tend to send them if someone has said something that is either well written, or intriguing to me. I also send the occasional PM to people I am friends with ONLINE, in order to catch up.

As for PM's sent to me, I can honestly say I have responded to 99.3 % of them. Nice, cruel, idiotic or troll, I will usually toss a comment back because someone took the time to write. Do I respond to all the follow up PMs? Depends :)
 

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I don't send an uninvited PM very often myself, but I read them all and try to respond to all that warrant it(and some that don't).

Even if no reply from me is expected, I'll try and make something out of it, just so they know I've read their original message. :redface:
 

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Of course if by "ect" you mean "Holy shit you're so fucking hot. God, what I would do to bend you over my 1991 Honda Civic. I am currently masturbating compulsively over your photos and plan on moving to your city soon in order to be nearer to you. Kisses (and pearl necklaces)" then it's not hard to see why they don't write back. ...

On the contrary, I always reply to those messages.:wink:
 

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It was just such a PM that got me started at LPSG (God bless you, FineDessert) and I haven't run out of things to say, yet.

I'll join you in a toast to Fine Dessert, Pecker.

And you're the LPSG energizer bunny--still going! And going! And I'm glad you are :smile: