people who don't have sex.

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  1. dolfette

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    i've had sex once in the last 2-3 years.
    while i like sex when i'm in a relationship, it doesn't bother me at all to not have sex.
    it's not the same thing as a dry spell. it's just a case of not meeting anyone who inspires any excitement.
     
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    If I were to be celibate for 2 to 3 years, this person would not exist.
     
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    Im right beside ya. ive had sex three times in the past 3.5 years and its been 2 years since the last time..
     
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    I trust that by not having sex you are talking about insertive activity.

    I was a virgin when I married at age 25. That does not mean that I did not self pleasure my self very often prior to that marriage.

    Admittedly, insertive sexual encounters are very much fun, I can also report that I still self pleasure myself very often.

    Life is what you make of it and I still enjoy sexual pleasure as well as self pleasuring my self. I hope that is also your situation.

    Warm regards,
     
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    i laughed :biggrin1:
    nope, i mean that i've not had sex, snuggled, groped, snogged, held hands or even hugged a guy for years.

    i do seem to spend a lot of money on batteries though...
     
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    I'm glad. :smile:
    Few people can make batteries sexy ... but you did.:wink:
     
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    I ass-ume you mean romantic hug? Or else you have very cold male friends!
     
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    I'm still a virgin, 19 years of it... lol makes it hard not to touch yourself!
     
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    I am so terrible at being single, when I was single I had one helluva sex drive and toys didn't cut the mustard. I need that warm body, adoration, kissing, breathing. In a relationship, it seems I take it for granted and don't require as much sex as I do when single. I don't have that desperate need for companionship. Kind of sucks.
     
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    i'm not a huggy person. it's not cold to respect that.
    awww! funny how not being able to have something often makes you want it more.
     
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    It has been a month for me, I sure do miss it though but I wouldn't look for meaningless sex. Although I like sex, I think it is much more enjoyable to lay around and cuddle, hug, an kiss.
     
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    Fair 'nuf. That I can understand.

    For me, laying around cuddling, hugging, kissing... When I'm passionately involved with someone and I love and am attracted to them, doing these things just fires up my sex drive for them. Then one thing leads to another. I can handle being turned down once in awhile in this case, but when I get refused for 1-2 weeks straight, it causes lots of issues for me. Unless there's a medical reason.
     
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    I too have been celibate for many years...

    I am 25 and a half (to the day) and have not had sex in 7.5 years (last time was on my 18th BDay)

    If I am completely honest, I'm just not a sexual person. I masturbate 3 times a week, but only because I have some medical training, and know that if a man doesn't ejaculate a minimum of 3 times a week, it can increase the chances of certain genital problems.
    And only rarely do I feel what most people would call an 'orgasm' when I do.

    I also believe that I am what I call 'Sex Blind'. Other people seem to be able to see others as sexually attractive, but for some reason I can't. Often, I couldn't even tell you what gender someone was, even after say having had a long conversation with them. (Not to say that I can't distinguish between the genders, just that its not something that registers as relevant information, somehow)...
     
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    I'd help you out with that if you lived closer :biggrin1: (i'm sure i'm not the first to say that too)
     
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    I am celibate, and probably will continue on that route indefinitely. Sex, to me, is prison in most cases; no sex is liberating and free. Unless you're really in love in someone, I think it is pointless (just masturbate and watch porn LOL).
     
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    a wank a day keeps prostate cancer at bay!

    you're not mildly aspergers are you?
     
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    Wow, I'm really surprised at how many people here are celibate or have gone without for so long. I really have to work at getting turned on in my relationship. Sometimes I wish he was asexual. Am I interpreting asexual incorrectly? Someone who doesn't want/need sex regularly?
     
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    HA, that made me laugh... lol... I wasn't particularly talking about the Big C (I don't know if rate of masturbation has any effect on Prostate Cancer, personally)... Just that certain pipes are designed to be flushed, as it were...

    I did a few years ago get myself tested to see if Aspergers was what was wrong with me Dolfette, and had it repeated a few years later, but both times the questionnaires came back negative.

    I've always put it down to the way I was raised. Both of my parents were, as I was growing up, rather against the concept of Gender. I was raised to believe that you should treat people as equals, regardless of gender, and that is what I do.
    So because of that, coupled with the fact that I am not 'looking for it', I tend to notice that someone has changed there hair style but not that they have boobies... :)

    -LUM-

    Btw, I am glad that you have changed your avatar... the Knife was a bit worrying... :)
     
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    Well in Biology, A-Sexual being reproduce by mating with themselves and then 'splitting' to form two identical copies... (I.E. bacteria)
    But when referring to humans, it usually means a man or woman who has none or little need for sexual stimuli without having experienced something that may have caused psyco-sexual damage (Sexual abuse, rape etc)

    Hope that wasn't too much like a Biology lesson... lol
     
  20. dolfette

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    it seems nobody loved the knife...
    i mean, it's nice that everyone likes my back,
    but i'm still a bit upset for mr stabby.
     
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