Performance Anexity, Sexual Issues, The Hard Soft problem

[Justiceforall]

So last night was pretty much on ...had the girl begging for me to fuck her "you have no idea how bad I want you"... and it was pretty much she did everything under the sun....but when it was time to screw I encountered the same problem I've been having with the last three girls I was with...(even t hough this is the first chick I actually did want to have sex with) ..but same problem with the hard soft issue..

One minute I'm hard as a rock but as soon as I try to put a condom on (emphasis on try because...it's very difficult to put those things on me ..even with trustex extra large) it kills my erection and I have to start over... (even with the last three encounters where I didn't even bother with a condom I still get the hard soft thing...I start off solid as a rock and even stay that way for a while but eventually I go soft usually when i start kissing on a girl...

I notice that I can usually get it up enough (either by me just kissing on the girl or the girl giving me head) but eventually when its condom time I go soft..manly because the physical sensation that was making me hard is no longer there (well that is not true she was tounging my balls when I was trying to put it on) but still what is the deal?

I know its not biologocial since when she went to the bathroom to "clean up" before we fucked I was hard as a rock but I guess performance anexity got the best of me...


My current solution to this problem is practice healthy masturbation with a condom...kill the fantasy sexual bullshit (I stopped watching pornbeing with a woman and watching a woman get pounded on tv is TOTALLY different reality)...

but I'm wondering maybe if it is my diet...I mean I eat pretty healthy and I work out 5-6 days a week...but I don't know what's the deal...oh well thought I'd throw that out there to see what you guys could offer advice on.


Oh and I know this is yet another painful admission of my "sexual anatomical problems" but she said the problem is I'm too big and I need a bigger condom (It was a bitch trying to get the damn thing down my shit) and she was willing to use a "vaginal condom" the next time we get together so we can fuck.... also ...even when I was semi erect and had put the condom on I barely could fit in this woman this chick was tighter then a ziplock bag....*sigh*... oh well t houghts are welcomed if you feel the desire to reply...

Justice

P.S. I don't know if this may be contributing to my problem but I am a virgin. Although I've done so many things with girls I know exactly what to do to fuck a woman...and the last time I tried 1. too big 2. not hard enough...*yawn*

 

[game]

same problem help us

 

[arthurdent]

I have this problem too. I get erect at the drop of a hat, even when I'm not aroused (eg. just watching TV) but as soon as I try to put a condom on it, it starts to go soft. I get the condom on ok, but then it's like stuffing a marshmallow into a keyhole! I've given up claiming to be versatile; now I identify as a bottom.

 

[xljames91]

The condoms.. are a big turn off. and When you make too much of an effort, your blood gets circulated to your brain and your arms trying to stuff you cock in it. I have that problem too sometimes.. Get bigger condoms are as she said use the vaginal condom.

 

[D_Martin van Burden]

I will soften up if a condom is too tight and restricting. The only tight spaces my dick likes to get into is between a woman's legs. I don't need vice grips before that! I knew that I had a big cock when squeezing into regular sized condoms was too painful and they would often break no matter how careful I tried to be. Just try larger sized condoms and lube up your dick well so that they come on better, and that should work.

 

[The Legend]

wow i have the same deal, i tried magnum xls though and they still did that too me, what else is there? and it was also that i just couldnt feel it. I did notice a change when i didnt masterbate for a few days prior to sex though, for the better

 

[hoggindaz]

for me i start to get soft when putting the condom on, however once its on i actually like the tightness feeling, as long as its not painful. maybe because my base girth is 6 and my mid shaft is over 6.5 so the unrolled part feels like a very tight cock ring.

 

[game]

for me its not the actual condom its just right before inserstion...maybe i have anxiety im just looking 4 advice

 

[Justiceforall]

good replies everyone bump