Personal Information, Anonymity, and Security

Discussion in 'Et Cetera, Et Cetera' started by snoozan, Jul 9, 2007.

  1. snoozan

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    I'm stealing this idea for a thread from something Duality posted in the "Family Secrets" thread. Here's a link to the post for your reading pleasure:

    http://www.lpsg.org/902056-post28.html

    At any rate, it does raise a lot of interesting questions. We have a thread on first names now, too, and some concern for privacy has been raised there. The internet is a good place to be both personal and anonymous, which is part of the allure of online communities like this. It's a lot easier to be yourself, or in some cases, another person entirely, than it is in real life. We reveal things here that we would never reveal to strangers elsewhere, and a lot of things we don't reveal to even our parent, spouses, siblings and close friends. However, there is a point where you can share too much, trust too many people, and get hurt by your candor. It happened to me on another site when a very jealous and angry friend found me posting personal stories and used them to get revenge on me for slighting her.

    So how much is too much? How easy it is for other members to find us using information we provide-- location, name, school, photos, personal websites, MySpace, and other things in posts and PMs?

    Also, how much more do you reveal in PM than you do on the boards at large? Has anyone had trouble being stalked or located by other members here or at another site?

    Does asking these questions bring up another privacy issue for some?

    What do y'all think?
     
  2. whatireallywant

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    I am very careful about this. I did post to the "Real Name" thread, but used my nickname, which if Googled, would get lots of hits, none having to do with me except this one and maybe one other. If my actual name was Googled, it would point ONLY at me, so there's no way I'd post that here. The only one who knows it here is SensualGoth, and I know hers too (because we are actual real-life friends).
     
  3. DaveyR

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    It's not something I've had a problem with Snoozan but your post is certainly food for thought.
     
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    Two things I would not reveal are my phone number and my e mail address so someone doesn't blow it up with calls and messages. It wouldn't bother me too much if someone knew my address unless they are planning on screwing up my property or something. But the chances of them coming to my house are slim. Basically any information they could use against me from their own house is something I would not want to reveal. My first name or a picture of my house isn't really a big deal to me.
     
  5. Mr. Snakey

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    For me this like a personal diary. Nothing here that my wife isnt aware of. So its no big deal. yes at times i've given too much personal information out. So i watch myself in that area. I think this is like a personal diary for many. Other family and friends no i wouldnt want them to see my thoughts. You raise a good question on how far one should go in the exchange of phone#'s etc. So its up to the individual...........
     
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    Most of the people here know my whole story, so I won't go into it. It did open my eyes though to how much I really do say on here. It is sort of like therapy in a way, and even though shit has happened to me here, I still can't refrain from being honest and open when posting. It has to do with my relationship with so many of the members, the comfort I feel here. I just can't help it. I just really wish that this site wasn't so googleable. It fucking sucks.
     
  7. naughty

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    Hi,

    Well I tend not to share most information here on the board. The people who I communicate with I have been doing so for years so we have talked and know pretty much each other's bidness. I am not however going to put it up on the board. This isnt to be aloof but I do not know who is looking at this board and not everyone has any of our best interests at heart.
     
  8. D_alex8

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    One of the main personal security issues at LPSG occurs when people post links to content that they've hosted elsewhere on the internet.

    On numerous occasions, people have linked to an image hosted at their own personal webspace, without realizing that all it takes in many cases is a couple of clicks, and one has their full name (and often, their full street address and telephone number as well) in one's possession. I always PM the person and suggest that they re-host their image elsewhere, and in all but one instance, this advice was taken.

    Photobucket poses a similar problem, and I've lost count of the amount of times that I've sent out the PM below after discovering people's personal pics, family pics, private nude pics, or even their full name and/or address, after they've posted a Photobucket image here:

     
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    Easy, Deborah Snoozanski from Dallas Texas.:rolleyes:
     
  10. DaveyR

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    Alex. Thanks for sharing that. To be honest it was something that I was unaware of regarding photobucket.

    *skips off to alter settings*
     
  11. DC_DEEP

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    I have shared some of my personal information with people whom I interacted with for a period of time (over two years before Zora and I exchanged phone numbers; over two years before Lex and I met in person, unexpectedly, at a club in Baltimore.) Lex, MercurialBliss, and NineInchCock160IQ have all been guests in my home, but I had reason to trust them before I invited them. If I did post photos of my home, that wouldn't do anyone much good; it is indistinguishable from thousands of others like it in this area, literally. I do have a picture, including my face, in my gallery, but if the only specific thing you know about someone is what they look like, you aren't likely to be able to track them down.

    I do not post much personally identifiable information on the boards, for the reasons outlined above and other places. There are just a very few really good liars out there who put on a good show, but they eventually out themselves over the course of a couple of years.
     
  12. lemont77

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    Well, this is a concern almost anywhere, these days. You can't take anything for granted. I've had an ex tell our friends things about me that were half-truth, half-lies, and all-hurt. I can't look any of them in the eye ever again. And I found out about it when she called me and told me she'd done it. I did the classy thing and kept my mouth shut about her personal fuckupery, but I still got shafted (which I feel is negative...no offense to those who enjoy getting shafted).

    There is a very simple rule when it comes to internet...do not put up ANYTHING that you don't want the whole world to know about. I know I'm trustworthy, but you don't know that yet. And I trust exactly ONE person in this place...I'm getting to know more of you a little better, but it'll be a while before I start telling all about myself.

    Just be careful out there.
     
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    Excellent point, Alex. I work in IT security in a manner of speaking, so I'm always vigilant of personal information being released into the wild.

    A few weeks back, one of my cousins who just graduated high school posted a photo of her first corporate paycheck onto her Myspace page...and proceeded to make it her avatar or profile pic or whateverthefuck they're calling it these days. This picture had her full legal name, home address, employer, and business address on it. After I picked my jaw off the floor, I politely informed her that she had just provided any potential stalkers with all the information they'd ever need to locate her, and most of what they'd need to assume her identity.

    I love her parents to death, but this is an area that is simply outside their generation's scope of experience, so I can't fault them. I think the mantra of "never take candy from strangers" that so pervaded my generation growing up could use some updating: "never tell online strangers anything about your real life."
     
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    I'm very careful about whom I choose to share information with. There is only one person i've regretted sharing my email address with and i've blocked him.
     
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    *checks and it's still working*

    Whew!!
     
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    No worries. You'd have known before now. The asshole in question apparently gets his rocks off by filling my inbox with spam. Shows highly intelligent individuals are often emotionally infantile. Right, Stronzo?
     
  17. No_Strings

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    My interests, hobbies and some work involve me spending a lot of time online - I'm sure you can all imagine how most of my internet-savvy peers would react to discovering me on here(considering my age). :rolleyes:

    I'm risking enough just by being here. I try not to reveal too much about myself, other than through the occasional PM.

    Edt: This thread has acted as a catalyst for my paranoia, bye-bye profile! :tongue:
     
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    Mine didn't bounce back yet either :wink:
     
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  20. snoozan

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    Him. Okay, whew. *wipes brow* Unless you think I'm a boy, though you have seen the tatas up close and personal, I don't know how you could mistake me for a boy with those puppies. :biggrin1:

    So that means you're not going to give me your address so I can show up at your house with some restraints, lube, and a full set of studio gear to take some photos? Waahhhhhh!!!!! You're so..... hot... and innocent.... C'mon, I'll shoot you all day and you can uh, shoot me all day. :biggrin1:
     
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