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BUT I can't let it effect my life online. If you check my post history I get very verbal when people don't agree with me, no one has started anything huge with me yet, I've been lucky. I'm pretty easy to get along with. *bitch mode* You don't know anything about me, so don't bother trying to see anything in me, kthx...


I'm aware of some of your posts. Avoidance is not the word that comes to mind.
 

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She said that she can only get therapy over a web cam.

At least that is something but it is so much less than what anyone diagnosed with any sort of personality disorder needs. Until she is able to move to a more populated area or at least one with better mental health care she is kinda screwed. :redface: :mad:

As previously stated I'm a consumer who has learned to be very proactive in advocating on my own behalf for care and treatment. Since you are in the field you may want to familiarize your self with some of the latest data and treatments available. I have found these books to be very helpful. I have actually gave a copy to a therapist as a gift.

  1. New Hope for People with Borderline Personality Disorder
  2. Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified: An Essential Guide for Understanding and Living with BPD
  3. The Angry Heart: Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders : An Interactive Self-Help Guide
 

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I'm aware of some of your posts. Avoidance is not the word that comes to mind.
You must suck as a whatever you do then.. because 3 people have pegged me with it.. again my life online is far different from that is in normal life... It seems you are unable to distinguish someone who pulls away from reality enough online that only certain coping mechanisms come out here. I post pictures to get positive feedback that I do not get in real life... I yeah whatever... maybe you need to brush up on some things. They say the mental health field is one full of constant refreshing.
 

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NJ I wasn't saying that personality disorders don't exist or saying that they weren't difficult to cope with, maybe I wasn't too clear in what I wrote but what I meant was that there seems to be a tendency in society now to allow wider ranges of sexual behaviour but narrower ranges of social behaviour and if you don't fit into a certain set of criteria you're labelled. You turn on the tv and you get non professionals like Sally Jessy, Ricki, Oprah et al offering advice on psychiatric problems and therapy seems to be something of a fashion, what I think is that people often jump in too quickly when a kid is behaving badly, and by doing so it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, that kid might have started out as an over active kid who just needed firmer guidelines and boundaries but because of being given the label he/she acts up to the label. If you ever watch Jo Frost Super Nanny she often goes out to families whose kids would be labelled as attention deficit or hyperactive or whatever and within a couple of days she has those kids behaving like text book good kids (unfortunately when she goes the parents often lapse in the lessons she's given them), without decent parenting kids who basically have no problems are labelled as having a disorder simply because their parents reinforce their bad behaviour by rewarding them for it and it becomes their ingrained way of life. I think too many people are given a label because for society it's easier to give them that than to admit that we've failed in our normal responsibilities as parents.
 

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I think too many people are given a label because for society it's easier to give them that than to admit that we've failed in our normal responsibilities as parents.

As that old woman in the Matrix may add..."Bingo!"

I am not taking away any power form TK at all. In fact in other circumstances I would be going "Awwww..ain't that sad". If I wasn't almost exactly like her but with a lot more body fat and testosterone.

As the OP asks, how do people cope? I mean really? I know I don't..I am unemployed and the number of interviews were people just make me look like I'm a waste of life is distressing. Of course, sadly, job applications seem based more on the ability to talk bullshit and look sexy than any "practical" applications of knowledge or skills. *Wah*

The pet Salamander is starting to act too much like me.

I don't even know about the people with real issues (Like TK) that are more than just cosmetic.

Earllogjam, you make a very valid point. I never really thought in great detail about the minds of psychiatrists. I think one of the problems we have is elevating professionals to the levels of shaman-priests or some other ilk in that they can "do no wrong". Ultimately, I do believe that WE ALL have a place in society, just that society is becoming bland and flat.

Oh yes, that Cannibalism comment reminds me of the "teleportaion phobia" idea of genetics I thought up. :tongue:

Lafever, I'm just an 'old' man who tries to find purpose. Money and pussy would be nice too!
 

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I was diagnosed 4 yrs ago with Disociative Identity Disorder and have been in continuous therapy since. The therapy/my therapist and my need and willingness to do the hard work gets me closer and closer to peace.
 

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I was digagnosed manic depressive bi polar last year. at my age it is strange to go this long with out knowing that I hadd it for many years. The Phyco dr & counsler say that I am doing good now but with 1500 mg of depacote a nite I should be along with the transadone.
 

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. The problem was my parents were never around without getting into my life story, my brother and I were overly overindulged children, my parents bought up lots of stuff to keep up happy. It is probably the reason I have 5 animals, plus the family cat. . My brother lived in an unstable home where we never knew rules or what was actually happening cause we were threatened back and forth over things. I'll explain further later I'm going to get my hair done.
I have the number for my local one ;) Thanks.

As far as parents go, they all make mistakes. If they love you, they do the best that they know. I can recall that my parents have made me so embarrassed by things that they have done to me, that it drove me to tears as a teenager. (just 2 specific examples I can think of) Things that I would never do.

I know that my father was beaten by his parents as a kid. He never hit us, but he would yell and scream at us. (until the point of tears, and them he would come and apologize a half hour later.)

My mother grew up VERY poor. She never eevn had a toy as a child. She was lucky to have food to eat.

We grew up Middle Class. We never went hungry. We often went without a toy we wanted, but in retrospect that was okay.

They both turned out to be Great Parents and I love them very much.

Thanks God I do not have any of the issues you are going thru.

I am a relatively happy person. I tend to be shy (although the older you get, the bolder you get) I tend to be a loner. I love myslef.

I have a slight case of Social Anxiety Disorder. But nothing that needs meds.

I wish you luck Think Kink, and hope you get the help that you need.
 

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Originally Posted by BurningVenus [URL]http://www.lpsg.org/images36/buttons/viewpost.gif[/URL]
TK


As far as borderline personality disorder, IMO you are too young to be assessed with something so serious. BULLSHIT! I know someone whose daughter was diagnosed with it at 13. That is the old way of thinking; the new school and training shows that one doesn't have to be a victim of physical or sexual abuse to be diagnosed nor do you have to wait until you have fuckedup for half a lifetime to get the appropriate diagnosis and treatment. As you get older and have more life experience, the patterns in your work and personal life will emerge and that would be a part of assessing something like BPD.


:rolleyes:


I would appreciate it if you would not yell and curse at me. Not everything is so black and white, there are shades of gray, and 100% consensus in psychology is nonexistent.

You seem to have jumped to the conclusion that I'm saying children should suffer. Nonsense. I'm all for treating troubled children, it's the stigmatizing and shaming effect of saddling them with very serious labels that concerns me greatly.



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I have a relative with Borderline Personality Disorder. She cant be in therapy since she argues & walks out on psychiatrists. She told her employer that "if they dont do xyz, she will commit suicide".

As you can guess she is permanently unemployed.
 

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I was diagnosed 4 yrs ago with Dissociative Identity Disorder and have been in continuous therapy since. The therapy/my therapist and my need and willingness to do the hard work gets me closer and closer to peace.


That's really rough, I'm sorry. I'm glad you have a good therapist and excellent motivation. <<<HUGS>>>>
 

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I have a number mental problems according to the doctors I've seen, but most seem to directly stem from depression and schizophrenia. Luckily, I've had supportive parents and friends who look out for me and warn me if either starts to get out of control.
 

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"Personality Disorders," "Anxiety Disorders," "Depressive Disorders," even "Schizophrenic Disorders" are all a crock of shit. Yes, all people have certain insecurities and neuroses that stem from experiences in our fucked up culture. Many have it so bad that it's debilitating for them in our fucked-up culture. But the problem is not the person, it is with our culture. All these labels were invented by the pharmaceutical companies and psychiatrists to hook people on their overpriced drugs. The more people who have these "disorders," the more money they make. Most people will admit this is true for the scam of "ADD/ADHD." It is not a huge stretch to extrapolate this to the entire DSM.

There is not a single "disorder" that cannot be cured with a proper diet, proper physical activity, a healthy relationship with nature and other people (and ultimately oneself), a healthy dose of meditation and yoga, and, in extreme cases, possibly some good cognitive therapy with a SANE therapist. The modern lifestyle is completely antithetical to human nature. Some people are able to adapt well. Many others aren't. Unfortunately, this latter group is labeled "sick." It is time to label our culture as sick and these people as normal.

I was diagnosed 4 yrs ago with Disociative Identity Disorder and have been in continuous therapy since. The therapy/my therapist and my need and willingness to do the hard work gets me closer and closer to peace.

Roses are red
Violets are blue
I have Dissociative Identity Disorder
And so do I.
 

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I would appreciate it if you would not yell and curse at me. Not everything is so black and white, there are shades of gray, You weren't paying attention. It is black and white for me! I have little to nothing in the way of shades of grey especially on this topic. Go back and read my other posts in this thread. I have what 3 different psychiatrists, 2 L.C.S.W.'s and 3 psychologists have diagnosed as a text book case of Borderline Personality Disorder. and 100% consensus in psychology is nonexistent. True, but you were way off base in what you said to Think_Kink. There is a lot of new and valid research finally being done on personality disorders.

You seem to have jumped to the conclusion that I'm saying children should suffer. Nonsense. I'm all for treating troubled children, it's the stigmatizing and shaming effect of saddling them with very serious labels that concerns me greatly. Understood but that doesn't apply here. That IMHO applys more to children diagnosed with ADD, ADHD, or more often and annoyingly both.


Would you be so kind as to bump your posts up to a size 3 or 4? A two is simply too small to read even with my glasses. :redface:


Originally Posted by BurningVenus [URL]http://www.lpsg.org/images36/buttons/viewpost.gif[/URL] <---Link didn't work:redface:

As far as borderline personality disorder, IMO you are too young to be assessed with something so serious. *curse word deleted* I know someone whose daughter was diagnosed with it at 13. That is the old way of thinking; the new school and training shows that one doesn't have to be a victim of physical or sexual abuse to be diagnosed nor do you have to wait until you have fuckedup for half a lifetime to get the appropriate diagnosis and treatment. As you get older and have more life experience, the patterns in your work and personal life will emerge and that would be a part of assessing something like BPD.
:rolleyes:




At least that is something but it is so much less than what anyone diagnosed with any sort of personality disorder needs. Until she is able to move to a more populated area or at least one with better mental health care she is kinda screwed. :redface: :mad:

As previously stated I'm a consumer who has learned to be very proactive in advocating on my own behalf for care and treatment. Since you are in the field you may want to familiarize your self with some of the latest data and treatments available. I have found these books to be very helpful. I have actually given a copy to a therapist as a gift.
  1. New Hope for People with Borderline Personality Disorder
  2. Borderline Personality Disorder Demystified: An Essential Guide for Understanding and Living with BPD
  3. The Angry Heart: Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders : An Interactive Self-Help Guide


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Besides the tragedy of people who actually do have some of these disorders, another sad factor is that, for every person who legitimately has BPD or DID or various others (especially those that are difficult to diagnose), there are 10 or so who use the label to get attention or to deflect responsibility for bad behavior. The posers really make it difficult for those who truly suffer, for several reasons.

TK, you are in my thoughts.

Cyrus, just because you call it bullshit, that doesn't make it bullshit.
 

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"Personality Disorders," "Anxiety Disorders," "Depressive Disorders," even "Schizophrenic Disorders" are all a crock of shit. Yes, all people have certain insecurities and neuroses that stem from experiences in our fucked up culture. Many have it so bad that it's debilitating for them in our fucked-up culture. But the problem is not the person, it is with our culture. All these labels were invented by the pharmaceutical companies and psychiatrists to hook people on their overpriced drugs. The more people who have these "disorders," the more money they make. Most people will admit this is true for the scam of "ADD/ADHD." It is not a huge stretch to extrapolate this to the entire DSM.

There is not a single "disorder" that cannot be cured with a proper diet, proper physical activity, a healthy relationship with nature and other people (and ultimately oneself), a healthy dose of meditation and yoga, and, in extreme cases, possibly some good cognitive therapy with a SANE therapist. The modern lifestyle is completely antithetical to human nature. Some people are able to adapt well. Many others aren't. Unfortunately, this latter group is labeled "sick." It is time to label our culture as sick and these people as normal.



Roses are red
Violets are blue
I have Dissociative Identity Disorder
And so do I.
This thread is not about whether ("Personality Disorders," "Anxiety Disorders," "Depressive Disorders," even "Schizophrenic Disorders" are all a crock of shit.) is or is not true. The OP started this thread for people who have been diagnosed with this to share. If you wish to discuss whether or not these disorders are or are not a "crock of shit," please start you own thread. You post is way of topic.

Thanks,
Freddie
 

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This thread is not about whether ("Personality Disorders," "Anxiety Disorders," "Depressive Disorders," even "Schizophrenic Disorders" are all a crock of shit.) is or is not true. The OP started this thread for people who have been diagnosed with this to share. If you wish to discuss whether or not these disorders are or are not a "crock of shit," please start you own thread. You post is way of topic.

Thanks,
Freddie

Thanks Freddie! I really had not posted because I haven't had any, but I know friends who have. It took courage to post this and to make a mockery of the original posters sharing is just downright rude and disrespectful.

OK, I'm off my soapbox. I'll leave you all to it then.
 

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I was diagnosed 4 yrs ago with Disociative Identity Disorder and have been in continuous therapy since. The therapy/my therapist and my need and willingness to do the hard work gets me closer and closer to peace.
God bless you babe, I have no idea what life is like for you; but I am so glad you are able to get the help you need. :hug: Hugs to you and many positive thoughts for continued wellness.


I have a relative with Borderline Personality Disorder. She cant be in therapy since she argues & walks out on psychiatrists. She told her employer that "if they dont do xyz, she will commit suicide". As you can guess she is permanently unemployed.
YIKES! That is my worst fear. :redface: I have been unable to work for over a year due to a physical disability, but it has also wrecked havoc with my mental health. Work was always the one thing I could do to appear normal. :redface: :rolleyes:

I have learned in the 3 years since my diagnosis to become very pro-active in advocating for my own care. As a matter of fact I stat a new PHP program next week, so we shall see.

 

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Originally Posted by cyrus

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Roses are red
Violets are blue

*snipped*

Cyrus,

Posting your 'rhyme' after someone made this disclosure here, is one of the most vile and abusive things I've ever seen.:mad: Your behavior is truly appalling. I'm sickened by your cruelty.

I didnt see it until it was in Freddie's message because you are on my ignore list.


 

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burningvenus said:
burningvenus said:
Posting your 'rhyme' after someone made this disclosure here, is one of the most vile and abusive things I've ever seen.:mad: Your behavior is truly appalling. I'm sickened by your cruelty.

I didnt see it until it was in Freddie's message because you are on my ignore list.
Venus, I agree with you, but please please please post in a font larger than "1". The microscopic font, plus the italics, is really really really difficult for some of us to read.