Personality versus body

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Typically, how much of your attraction to someone is based upon their body and how much is really personality? I find myself constantly in the company of (objectively) beautiful women, but quite frequently don't feel a strong attraction to them. Conversely, I can find myself feeling attracted to someone who has few, if any, physical charms, but has something really going with her personality. This is not to say that I haven't been attracted to beautiful women, actually almost all of my long-term relationships were with women who would be thought of as being quite "attractive," but it was their personalities which really fueled my sexual desires.

How many of you find that appearance might initially catch your eye, but it takes something interesting behind the pretty face to really get your libido going with someone? Or is a killer body (or body part) all that is needed for you?

I'm speaking from the perspective of a straight male, but I'm sure this applies equally to all human beings across the spectrum of sexual preferences and genders.
 

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Of course, physical beauty or attractiveness, is nice....but rates very low on the scale of what turns me on about a person. There has to be a beauty that radiates from the inside to get my attention and get me going.
 
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Typically, how much of your attraction to someone is based upon their body and how much is really personality? I find myself constantly in the company of (objectively) beautiful women, but quite frequently don't feel a strong attraction to them. Conversely, I can find myself feeling attracted to someone who has few, if any, physical charms, but has something really going with her personality. This is not to say that I haven't been attracted to beautiful women, actually almost all of my long-term relationships were with women who would be thought of as being quite "attractive," but it was their personalities which really fueled my sexual desires.

It is 50/50 with me. I have had some great nights out meeting whoever on the street. Aesthetics are usually the first thing you notice, noticing character takes continued observation.

Character is a must for any kind of ongoing relationship. However, to this day one of the nicest bodies I had the pleasure of seeing belonged to a girl with messed up teeth. I will stop there.

If I have left a person feeling better than when I met them, I am fulfilled.
 

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Both. IMO, it's PC to say looks never matter. they just don't IMO ABSOLUTELY. Human neurology/evolution shouldn't be discarded to meet the PC agenda.

For me at the least, i need both looks AND personality. Looks alone is bull and for dopes, as it personality.

Also, I don't go for classic 9s and 10s, but a woman must meet my own standard of looks. screw what soceity thinks lol..
 
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Personality has always been the charm for me, I'm definitely not one to say looks don't matter, I've always been a fussy man but the personality can always trump looks for me. I've dated both types (people who have looks but a rubbish personality and also the opposite) but my longest relationships have always been with those who have a killer personality.
 

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Typically, how much of your attraction to someone is based upon their body and how much is really personality? I find myself constantly in the company of (objectively) beautiful women, but quite frequently don't feel a strong attraction to them. Conversely, I can find myself feeling attracted to someone who has few, if any, physical charms, but has something really going with her personality. This is not to say that I haven't been attracted to beautiful women, actually almost all of my long-term relationships were with women who would be thought of as being quite "attractive," but it was their personalities which really fueled my sexual desires.

How many of you find that appearance might initially catch your eye, but it takes something interesting behind the pretty face to really get your libido going with someone? Or is a killer body (or body part) all that is needed for you?

I'm speaking from the perspective of a straight male, but I'm sure this applies equally to all human beings across the spectrum of sexual preferences and genders.

I find that for me, libido is purely based on looks. But a relationship IMO needs a deeper connection, so there has to be looks and character/personality. Dating a woman solely for her looks is kind of like having a fuck buddy, there no point IMO.
 

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in your question there is your answer..
everything is important, your personality without your body (or part of it) make you a good friend, viceversa your body without your personality ake you just someone to have fun and not much more
 

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There's limits to this and I'm surprised no one has said it. An obese person is going to be overlooked almost no matter how much personality they have. I've NEVER gotten an advance yet people always say I have such a great personality. I'm positive it's because of my body type, which is obese. Sure there may be other factors why not but I strongly feel although people may say its not about body/attractivenes; if they don't even have the right body, you wont even try to find out about their personality.
 

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60% personality. Specifically, shared interests and perspectives on things like art, science and nature, politics and religion, sense of humour, compatible approaches to communication and spending time together, similar or complementary tastes in things like music, TV and film, sport, clothing, restaurants ... ...

20-25% face and smile.

15-20% body.

:smile:
 

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Depends on how much time I spend with them. In the very beginning, body matters a lot, and personality matters little, because there has not been enough time for me to assess his personality. Over time, as I learn about someone's personality, if it is good enough, I grow to like them more and more, regardless of how attracted to them I was at the beginning.

That being said, I do have a body "floor" like a "price floor" in economics; if someone is obese or doesn't look at least moderately average, then it just won't happen for me, regardless of how good the personality is. I have a similar personality floor too.
 

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There's limits to this and I'm surprised no one has said it. An obese person is going to be overlooked almost no matter how much personality they have. I've NEVER gotten an advance yet people always say I have such a great personality. I'm positive it's because of my body type, which is obese. Sure there may be other factors why not but I strongly feel although people may say its not about body/attractivenes; if they don't even have the right body, you wont even try to find out about their personality.

Depends on how big. people over 300 pounds perhaps not, but then plenty of fat people get dates.
 

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Physical appearance is the first thing I notice about almost anyone. Rarely do I have a conversation with someone before seeing him. But without a winning personality, interest fades fast. On many occasions I have found myself attracted to a guy after getting to know him, where his appearance might not be "all that." Someone who doesn't share easy laughter & corny humor is entirely unappealing to me. Appearance is important, though. I find people who don't try to keep their appearance up tend to lack a confident and positive personality. I am not someone needs to be pretty, far from it. But health and hygiene are important to me. When people are physically sad sacks, in my experience, it reflects their mental state.