Originally posted by madame_zora+May 6 2005, 01:53 AM--><div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(madame_zora @ May 6 2005, 01:53 AM)</div><div class='quotemain'><!--QuoteBegin-coolioc@May 5 2005, 07:58 AM
I have a few questions about communication on LPSG. I have posted a couple of times before, and I have been reading posts on this site for many months now. I know, I know, if I wanted to communicate how come I didn't post more? You need to give to receive, etc. Okay, so here's what I would love to know:
How do people usually start the personal communication part of LPSG? What I'm getting at is, some people just don't like to be approached via PM. Take M.Zora for instance. Her profile basically says don't even bother. Even though she's a very cool lady as evidenced in her many posts and I would love to chat with her on a personal level, I would obey her wishes and not PM her. (Hint: Zora chat with me! :lol:
Are people generally open to PMs, and I have just not experimented enough yet?
As a secondary question, does anybody know of any good chat sites where you can meet people who just want to chat and/or are looking for friends and are not just posting "31yo CA bi 9.5" and stuff like that?
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Sigh, this is why I hesitated to post in this thread. I have no interest now or ever with "chatting" with non-posting members of the board. I get frustrated by this because I bitch about it constantly, but the ones who only drop by conventiently miss all my rants about lurker messages. So I put it in my tag line, but I still get this shit.
Coolioc, the only reason you're intersted in chatting with me is because you've had the opportunity to see me and read my words. I have NO interest in YOU because I have no information on you to be intersted in! Duh! Why is this so confusing? Don't join the site just to be my friend, I can't have 12,000 personal friends. Being interested in the site's biggest poster doesn't make you unique in any way. Post if you want to be considered a member, lurk if you don't want to expose yourself. I hate shy people, so chances are if you're too shy to post, we wouldn't get along anyway. Ask anyone- I'm a flaming bitch and you're not missing out on a thing. Hope that clears it up.
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I know this reply is sorta untimely, but bear with me as I am just getting back from a weekend in Mexico. I feel I need to explain my post a little more since what I intended was far from the result the post achieved.
Madame Zora, I
really didn't mean to offend you when I wrote my post. I was simply trying to use your tagline as an example of how I feel most people would feel about being PM'd by people who have not interacted with them publicly (people much like myself). I believe if I had become somewhat of a "celebrity" on the site like you and was so passionate about keeping the site clean that I would also not relish getting a million posts about stupid shit from people that haven't taken the time to get to know me either.
More than anything else, I was trying to ask two things as generalities, 1) Do most people like PM's from people they don't know? and 2) Does anyone know of any "clean" chat sites where you have the opportunity to make friends? (although these questions probably would have been more appropriate as a new thread)
In retrospect reading what I wrote I think I was partly trying to be playful, but in writing such an unintelligent post, I truly lost my intent and started a fire where I didn't want to with Madame Zora. For that I do apologize.
In my own defense, yes I have been lurking since last October, but by reading through most of the posts on this site daily since the beginning I honestly feel like I've gotten to know what most of the regular posters are about. And what Dee had spoken of regarding newbies and where to start is very true in my case.
I hope in time that people will get to know me as well as I feel I have started to know them.