Phone Sex: Cheating or harmless fun?

[deleted213967]

Hardly harmless at USD 3.99 per minute.

 

[D_Kaye Throttlebottom]

He's one step closer to completing a fully fleshed out act of cheating.
He has a girl that he could have phone sex with yet he chooses to get it from you because he wants something on the side.

Uhm. He can want in one hand...and ____ in the other.

The bottom line is that I was never interested in having actual intercourse any physical sex. I was not interested in the phone sex either. It happened once. I think of Aerosmith's video "sweet emotion" where some white collar piece of trash is dialing a phone sex operator and thinks he's talking to young woman. At the end of the video, old girl hangs up the phone while she's ironing in a mumu.

Granted I'm not wearing a mumu but yeah - I was faking the phone sex. I liked the attention of him liking me, but I was not vetted in pursuing anything with him.

My question was this - do his actions indicate that he is cheating on his girlfriend and intends to cheat on her? Everyone seems to agree it is cheating. Not my issue, b/c I'm not interested in being that conduit for him. While I like his attention, I'm not interested in consummating a sexual relationship with him -- in another city no less.

Though I agree with everyone else, it's very apparent that he's not likely to commit to anyone, including his gf of 1.5 years. Poor girl.

He's been a good friend to me otherwise - aside of the attention we have good conversation about work, school and career ambitions and ofcourse racing. It is what it is.

If he tries this with me again, after I've made it clear I'm not interested in doing this - then I know to cut ties, cause he's not respecting my boundaries.

Thanks everyone.

 

[Victoria]

You're obviously very fond of this guy as a platonic acquaintance and are still reeling to some extent from what that phone call decended into.



Regardless of how much you like him as just someone to chat with , remember he's in a relationship and by trying to draw you into that kind of interaction reluctantly is being disrespectful to you and his partner..and in turn not much of a friend .


If there isn't full disclosure it's cheating.

 

[WolvesInTheThroneRoom]

Your friend has no idea his foray into phone sex has become a multi-page topic on a large penis forum haha.
Next time Zoe, since it was obviously bothersome to you and you have written quite passionately about it, just stop him as soon as the conversation starts to go that way.
I've done it with female friends and it was mutual at the time but they had a boyfriend and were more embarrassed than anything after, but they never put the blame on me, they owned up to participating, maybe you didn't do as much on your end but how was he to know? I'm sure he was thinking it was mutual at the time. To turn disgusted on him as soon as it was over is hardly fair to the poor guy.
De-friending him over something you allowed to happen- on the phone- is kinda harsh don't you think? It takes two to tango.
I'm surprised it's such a big deal to people.

 

[D_Kaye Throttlebottom]

Your friend has no idea his foray into phone sex has become a multi-page topic on a large penis forum haha.
Next time Zoe, since it was obviously bothersome to you and you have written quite passionately about it, just stop him as soon as the conversation starts to go that way.
I've done it with female friends and it was mutual at the time but they had a boyfriend and were more embarrassed than anything after, but they never put the blame on me, they owned up to participating, maybe you didn't do as much on your end but how was he to know? I'm sure he was thinking it was mutual at the time. To turn disgusted on him as soon as it was over is hardly fair to the poor guy.
De-friending him over something you allowed to happen- on the phone- is kinda harsh don't you think? It takes two to tango.
I'm surprised it's such a big deal to people.

No offense Tarzan - but apparently your reading comprehension sucks. It's obvious you have not read my posts and just precluded that I'm blaming him. If anything I've done the opposite and stated upfront that I could stop it at any time.

If you don't want to read through my posts, that's fine, but you're summarizing that I'm playing a victim, when clearly I just asked if phone sex is considered cheating.

Read the fucking post before you start projecting your junk about what you do with women as though I'm whining it's all his fault.

 

[Symphonic]

You guys hang out with the most shady people...