Phone sex

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  1. Kassokilleri2ff

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    I fail miserably at it. What kind of things do you like to hear? I want some tips lol. Its a womens issue because if I don't know how to do it women will be sad and dissapointed lolz.

    Edit: Like do you want to be told what to do to yourself, or what i want to do to you or what? What kind of things...
     
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    Attention to detail. Also importantly, let her know you're enjoying yourself just as much as she feels she is. If you're like me and spend most of the time talking and telling her what to do, then she'll want to know she's turning you on.

    Don't worry about getting everything word perfect, you arn't doing public speaking - you just want to get across the raw desire you have for her and what you want to do with her body. Be descriptive, enjoy pronouncing the words as much as what the words mean themselves and she'll have her cream running down her leg in no time. Don't mumble, don't be embarassed, don't apologise. Just tell her how to be your naughty young woman - take away her inhibitions by taking the lead.

    No doubt the ladies have their own view on what works for each of them, though.
     
  3. D_Jurgen Klitgaard

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    I was terrible my first time, it was so embarassing. :redface: Just spend time talking to her normally on the phone and get comfortable with her. Then, as you continue to try phone sex with her, the act will become more comfortable and easier to say the right things.

    I sucked at first, but with practice I feel I've become decent at it. :tongue:
     
  4. Mr Ed in Mass

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    I tried phone sex once,I found it cold and sort of plastic.
     
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    Whereas, I am very good at it.

    I do like hardcock's idea. I find that starting out with simple conversation tends to work, then flirt a little, make a few jokes, say something suggestive about how her laugh makes you smile, and turns you on.. and then go from there.
     
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    Phone sex is easy.

    Press "1" for deeper, "2" for doggie, and don't forget to # # #

    :biggrin:
     
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    ROFL. Best answer yet.

    This is funny to me, because I was just discussing this topic with a guy I'm interested in that lives entirely too far away from me...

    Personally, I like it more when a guy talks to me about what he wants to do to me. I don't require any previous description of where we'd be or anything during the act... let's just pretend we're together and take it from there. :tongue: I also don't mind taking turns. I don't think it's necessarily fair for one person to be "in charge" during the whole conversation. After getting her going, maybe you should ask her what she'd like done to her? Then you don't have to guess. And you don't have to do all the work! lol.

    Phone sex can be very awkward and uncomfortable at first because you feel a bit like a phone sex operator. :tongue: Seems so personal and impersonal at the same time. But practice makes perfect. :wink: So don't give up.
     
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    lmao...love not punny's answer
     
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    haha, i've never participated in phone sex so i don't know... i much prefer the real thing.

    same with cyber sex. i mean come on, it's not like we can't find actual sex right guys?!?!?
     
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    It helps to have an actual rapport with the other person...

    If this is someone you know in the real world, it should be easier.
     
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    I find phone sex to be very easy. I used to be a phone sex operator.

    To the OP - I found I was getting off with the men as much as they were getting off with me. I love to role play so I would get off if there was a little scenario. At the grocery store, movie theater, stuff like that.

    I have this guy I met off the phone lines almost 2 years ago. We have phone sex about twice a week. He has a great imagination, is very descriptive. I have another I've been talking to for the same amount of time, he is very raunchy. So even on the phone, there has to be a connection.

    You have to open up because there is no body language. I don't know if this helped...
     
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    Obviously individual tastes differ, but for me I want the other person to tell me genuine fantasies of their own, and then possibly personalise it to me. I'm not so concerned that they try and turn me on as such. I get most turned on by hearing the other person becoming more aroused. Just be as real about what you are into as you can. Use your own language that you would to yourself if you were thinking sexually. You can always ask what she is into and what turns her on as a jumping off point. I also like to hear about the best sexual experiences people have had. Because there is no real life relationship there isn't much jealousy, so it can be hot to hear what made the other person horny.

    Possibly some women would be offended by swearing, but I like quite like the use of it for changing up the conversation. So that you will need to feel out with the individual. I like the other person to get as dirty as possible without being fake. For me I also really like someone to be fairly vocal when they cum, unless that is not their style at all, then I would prefer that they didn't ham it up.

    I usually need a glass or two of wine before I am relaxed enough to be uninhibited (not sure this is good advice though). You will find that as you get more into it you will judge each thing you say less and less. Once lust takes hold it begins to flow better :wink:
     
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    it's easy. just say what you want to do to the other person in the nastiest and filthiest way possible. then reverse.
     
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    Can you believe I've never tried phone sex?
     
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    Wanna? :naughty: :tongue:

    I have, not that good at it, but I give my best 5 minute effort before changing the subject. :biggrin1: Oh, and I love lots of feedback and moaning--so give some of that, OP.
     
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    Maaaybe. :wink:
     
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