Photos from old relationships

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The OP said his boyfriend let him use his computer, no worry. Letting you use his computer definitely does not entitle you to delete or alter anything. Neither does it allow you to invade his privacy. Going into personal files, like photo galleries, unless expressly allowed, is breaking a trust in my opinion.

If a friend deleted files on my computer, I'd immediately pare my social list down by one. That's unforgivable.

My wife and I both have total, unrestricted access to each other's computers, but I avoid going into her personal stuff simply because I'd feel uncomfortable to do so. I'd never delete a file of hers.

Re: @Sexyguy's original question: There are lot of reasons a person keeps files. Yeah, maybe he just forgot about them. Or maybe they bring back nice memories. Maybe they turn him on.

My first wife keeps nude and intimate photos of us in her bedside table, along with ones of her and her new hubby. . . I suppose for the same reason we kept them: they turned us on.
You know well have pasts and that were they should stay in the past.
 

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Thanks guys. I mentioned to him last night I came across the photos and videos and asked him why he’d kept them. He said because he thought they were hot and that sometimes he watches them to jerk off to. Said he just uses it as porn basically. But said if I wanted him to delete them he would. I said I’d think about it. Do you think what he said is weird?
no he is being honest with you mate and that key to successful long term loving relationship. Sorry cant help on comment on this thread.
 

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In my opinion theirs a big difference between old vids or photos of an ex and porn. Porn is unrealistic and you don’t have any connection to the people in it, but obv with the photos he has connection to the other person in them. If my bf did this I’d just be worried that he misses his ex, or that his ex gave him something I couldn’t, or his ex still has some power/control over him. But just to be 100% clear I am the jealous type, very very paranoid and I overthink everything. So if it doesn’t bother you than whatever.
I love you honesty mate.