physical 'flaws' you can't move past in a potential partner.

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Reading this thread almost makes me wish I had gotten braces as a teenager. My teeth are jacked. haha
 

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Aspert syndrome? Do you mean Asperger Syndrome? That's not a physical abnormality in the strictest sense, and as someone who has been concomitantly diagnosed with AS along with other neurological disorders I take exception to this statement. At least, I take exception to AS being pegged as a physical flaw. Nothing wrong with you not desiring that in a partner -- naturally.

I prefer to think of myself as not flawed, butneurodivergent. I think and communicate a bit differently than other folks. This is the way I choose to see my neurological differences.
Given that AS is diagnosed on a gradient it seems rather odd to even consider it a divergence. I have a few friends who are diagnosed as having high-functioning aspergers, and my circle of friends is largely comprised of introverts.

In retrospect, perhaps, it seems obvious to call it a difference, and yet the thought has never occurred to me. The groups of people that I've been around in the STEM field have a substantial rate of displaying symptoms of AS through social interaction, so maybe I just internalized it as a character trait rather than as an issue or identity element?

I think I've been staring at my screen for ten minutes trying to understand why that characterization feels so weird. Oh well. Sometime else to keep me up at night.
 

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I've been thinking about this more and more....and the physical flaws I couldn't move past on a first date might be something that wouldn't deter me from staying with the one I love until the day he or I dies. I would slather cream on him from head to toe for oozing boils or extreme psoriasis. I would brush his dentures, change his diapers, hand feed him. Help him in any way possible through whatever. But it wouldn't be something I could look past on the first date if this is what I had to deal with from that point on.

There is nothing, I mean absolutely nothing, that could make me leave my husband that might be a total turn off in dating scene. I have so much invested in him and him in me that we are together for better or for worse, through thick and thin, sickness and health, that includes ugliness and smells and ailments that aren't going to be pleasant.

He is my everything and he has gotten much more than he is bargained for in my health problems he has had to help me with and experience in close proximity. The least I can do is give it back to him when it is time. He cares for me while I am young so I can care for him while he is old.
 

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There is nothing, I mean absolutely nothing, that could make me leave my husband that might be a total turn off in dating scene. I have so much invested in him and him in me that we are together for better or for worse, through thick and thin, sickness and health, that includes ugliness and smells and ailments that aren't going to be pleasant.
truth. like with your kids, once you love them you love them pretty much whatever.
 

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If the person doesn't take care of their teeth and has bad breath I am outta there! The same goes for if the person doesn't keep themselves clean, it is not that hard to take a shower and clean yourself up!
 

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Reading this thread almost makes me wish I had gotten braces as a teenager. My teeth are jacked. haha

Depends on how jacked they are. Plenty of adults get braces nowadays anyway. They are pretty reasonably priced in comparison to the old days. I had braces and my husband had braces as teenagers, my teeth weren't bad at all but I placed a huge emphasis on straight teeth. My husband's teeth were pretty bad and one actually hung out of his mouth with his mouth closed. Now he has the most beautiful set of teeth even most dentists envy. So braces can do wonders!

But if your teeth are a little crooked or not bright white (I know mine aren't) that isn't a huge deal for me anyway. I think Americans especially put too much stock in perfect teeth. Regis Philbin for example. I don't want someone to look like they have dentures.

I hate seeing a perfectly normal looking person on TV get veneers and have that cookie cutter cheap denture look. Like Hilary Duff. Totally messed up her face. I watched the latest Three Musketeers in 3d (shitty movie BTW) and Mila Jovavich has fucked up her hole face as far as I'm concerned with her new teeth. She can't even speak the same. Ugh.
 
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Mine are fairly crooked, but I've never been handicapped by them (other than cosmetically, perhaps) so I never bothered to have them "fixed." Hygiene-wise, I take good care of my mouth. No cavities or fillings so far. :biggrin1:
 

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Going back to my single days:

Males that have zero body hair as a whole are a turn off for me. I can and did make an exception if the person for example were heavily into bodybuilding because it would have given me something else to focus on. Though I don't like it shaved, I am referring to those individuals who simply have via genetics zero hair follicles to grow facial or otherwise.

Smoking and the smell of cigarette or cigar smoke on the breath of the other individual is a physical thing to me. I can't stand it.

Bodies that are a mass of cellulite and are soft and squishy were when I was active a major turn off. Fat was not a problem if the person was healthy and the fat was solid.

There are probably some other things but in my lifetime I have never encountered the items combined with sexual opportunity so I would not know.

I was once asked if I would have sex with a double leg amputee. Not having done this or having had the opportunity I don't know. To me there might be some logistical problems because I am a top who loves to fuck, but if I could figure out a way to do it and satisfy both of us it would come to the satisfaction issue more than the appearance.