Picture, or just a message?

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This is talking about with a boyfriend or husband, not random people online.

I was just wondering if you would prefer to get a picture of some kind (nude? clothed? underwear?) or a simple message letting you know that he is thinking of you. I know as a guy that a sexy picture is the most effective way of showing that she is into me and is thinking of me... but I wonder if this is the case for women too.

So, which do you prefer getting? If you prefer a picture is there a certain kind of picture you look forward to most?
 

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Established relationship, and I am regularly seeing and playing with his junk, yes I love a tease. But check your timing. If you know she is in that big meeting at work, or having tea with Aunt Sally, don't send pic. Sexy little texts can be fun too.
 

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If not a phone call to say he's thinking of me then a text is fine. I'm not into the pic thing anymore. That would simply send a message that he's thinking about me in a sexual way only and not in a mind/heart thinking of me kind of way. Does that last part make sense? LOL
 

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I don't do sexual relationships that aren't also emotional relationships. So I just assume if he's thinking of me sexually, it encompasses all the good stuff too.
 

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A well timed image or text are both equally desirable to me. The specific content of either is not largely subject to my own preferences, because I believe that the content of either medium should reflect the intent of the sender (i.e., lets fuck vs. thinking of you). I would say, however, that a simple dick pic (AKA boner-groaner) would not be my most appreciated type of image to receive.
 

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Established relationship, and I am regularly seeing and playing with his junk, yes I love a tease. But check your timing. If you know she is in that big meeting at work, or having tea with Aunt Sally, don't send pic. Sexy little texts can be fun too.
Haha, that would be quite embarrassing.
If not a phone call to say he's thinking of me then a text is fine. I'm not into the pic thing anymore. That would simply send a message that he's thinking about me in a sexual way only and not in a mind/heart thinking of me kind of way. Does that last part make sense? LOL
Yea, I think I understand what you mean. I can see how that would be true for some (if not many) guys too. Personally I hope my relationships would be about more (and that she would know this and feel the same way) but I get where you are coming from there.
A well timed image or text are both equally desirable to me. The specific content of either is not largely subject to my own preferences, because I believe that the content of either medium should reflect the intent of the sender (i.e., lets fuck vs. thinking of you). I would say, however, that a simple dick pic (AKA boner-groaner) would not be my most appreciated type of image to receive.
haha, I have never been too fond of dick pics. They always feel kind of pointless. I don't get the message that would be conveyed with a dick pic... it's just like, "hey, here is my penis. And uhh... yea I guess that's it... just my penis."

Thanks for the responses so far. Seems like either is generally good at this point but being aware of what she might be doing is important. Which makes sense.
 

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Thanks for the responses so far. Seems like either is generally good at this point but being aware of what she might be doing is important. Which makes sense.

Exactly. A message that is badly timed will not be received the way you wanted it to. Showing knowledge and sensitivity to what's going on in her day will get you bonus points.
 

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We talk on the phone as often as we can when he's in some exotic location, but he never gets to see anything but the performance venue. So, when he does get a chance to see something or meet someone interesting he'll snap a pic and send it to me. Sometimes he remembers to include himself in it. He texts me all the time, too, just to let me know where he is. I tell him he doesn't need to tell me when he's going to get dinner. LOL!
 

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Me and my boyfriend sext all the time. Although we have sent pics it's rare for us to do so. Certainly nothing obscene. I've gone as far as pics of me hiking up my skirt and taking a photo of my butt and typing, "yours, later, our place." I'd never include my face in them for fear our phones being hacked or stolen. Just anonymous stuff. But teasing each other all day with dirty talk certainly gets things going until we're finally together again.
 
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I prefer just a message. Pics just don't really do it for me, I'm not sure why but I've already seen it so it's not like I need to be reassured that it's still there or anything ;)
I do need to be reassured how he feels about me sometimes though.