This thread is not about unsure or experimenting men, or those who (like me) consider themselves bisexual. This is an inquiry about those who comfortably self-identify as str8, yet have had homosexual sex, or those who solidly identify themselves as gay and yet still have had heterosexual relations. In other words, I am interested in those who don't exactly bat for the other team, but occasionally pinch hit. Research seems pretty firm that the number of men who have sex with men (MSM) far outnumbers those who identify as gay or bi combined. Apparently, a lot of str8 men sometimes have gay sex without questioning their orientation. Surprisingly, the reverse is also true. In a recent survey over 75% of both men and women who identified themselves as unambiguously gay still revealed that they had had heterosexual sex within the last five years. My interest is in better understanding this phenomenon. I'd like to hear from anyone who identifies clearly as gay or str8, yet has had sex in the opposite orientation. Specifically, what happened? (Handjob, oral sex, penetrative sex) What motivated it? (Boredom, curiosity, inebriation???) Were you the aggressor/seducer or were you pursued? Thanks for any insight you might offer.