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  1. BirdinMo

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    So I was at the fabric store today in another town with my brother and sister in law, my brother would not go in the store with us so it was just my sister in law and I.
    We are looking around talking just minding our own business when I said, *Oh my gowd! Look at this beautiful quilt kit!* Because well, it was beautiful! We then herd 1 of 2 older ladies, I would say late 40's early 50's say, *Great, the last thing this town need's is another faggot* then the other responded with *Yeah, AIDS is already everywhere, all we need now is one that has it in our fabric shop.* I was so upset I started to cry in the middle of the store. I can accept the fact that they do not like gay's, But am I so wrong to think they need to keep there voice's down?
     
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    I'm sorry that happened to you. You can't make people be more than they are...but somtimes a reply as simple as F**K off really does pay off rather than shedding tears.
     
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    That is so bad. I would have fronted right up to them and said " Fab!!! the last thing this town needs is two malicious, frustrated, nasty, old ignorant cows. Why don't you fuck off and get a life."

    Honestly though until people like this are called out on their behaviour they will continue to get away with it.
     
  4. Mandee

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    Wow! That is horrible. I am so sorry that they were so rude like that. I really don't know what to say....

    :hug:
     
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    Yikes. Sorry to hear that.

    But you shoulda touch'ed them... and run up and planted a kiss on them or glaze your gayness over their swatches. F that. Errr F that. Frugen that. Fork that. Fudge that. You get it.

    If they are going to go public on your shit... you need to either swing back, or compound their fears.
     
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    The price you pay for living in a diverse society (ie: one that accepts you as you are) is that everyone's entitled to be as big an asshole as they'd like. You get to be you, they get to be them.

    FWIW, I came out in High School in 1977, and I've been living with HIV for more than half of my adult life. I didn't make it this far by being easily offended. I'd suggest you grow some skin, baby.
     
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    What good is being gay if you can't keep a pile of scathing witty replies in your manbag? Learn a few and how to throw them with class.

    "If either of you two remotely represent the choice of women in this town, it's a wonder all the men aren't gay."

    "Not to worry girls! We gays won't stop you lesbians from having fun."
     
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    it's freakin' missouri. i wonder if those women even know what a light switch is.
     
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    I am so sorry you had to experience that! :frown1: I can understand why you cried. You were blindsided by a major case of haterade. :mad: Ignorant people are always inappropriately loud. Next time, and trust me in a town like that, there will be a next time; tell them where to go and how to get there. :cool: And do it with panache!. :wink:

    Agreed. :cool: Then again I'm one of those people who thinks of the perfect comeback three days later. :redface:


    Excellent retorts! Perhaps while you are laid up you should write a book of them. :biggrin1: I'm sure it would be much appreciated and purchased by gay men the world over. :cool:
     
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    Most of the time I can accept it when I hear people talking about gay's, after all it is there right to do so just as it is mine to talk about supporting gay marriage. But for some reason it just got me today, no clue why it just hurt. My sister in law was stunned and tryed to get me to calm down about it but no such luck, I was still crying at the check out. I often think of the perfect comeback like a week later.
     
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    Buck up guy. Be careful out there ...and then call the manager and report them for stealing (right after you placed clearance spools in there bags). Try to let it go. You are strong. You are Superman. You are better than them and make the world a better place. You got brothers here so lean on us. We support you.
     
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    now that I have to remember!!!
     
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    I'm sitting here laughing my ass off about those two ignorant old cunts. I'm wearing - guess what - a FUCKING KILT!!! I'm as hetero as they come, and I could give two shits about what some backward, misinformed she-trog thinks of it. I've been told that I'm going to get stared at in France when I wear my kilt, but I plan to just stare back.

    I am really sorry to read that people were that rude to/about you. Prejudice is everywhere, but that's no excuse. Just remember that they don't diminish you when they treat you that way; they're just showing their own true colors, and in so doing they make themselves less than. It's sad that some people don't get it, but don't believe it's because of their age. I'm in the same age group as those two women, and I don't share their beliefs. I find that one needs to just not make assumptions about anyone because of their age, skin color, wardrobe, religion, are of their birth... Everybody's different in many ways, but we're all the same in all the ways that count. God wouldn't have made all this diversity unless He wanted us to enjoy it.
     
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    Unfortunately old people are like that.

    Mind you.... late 40s you say?
     
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    Last thing this town needs is a pair of ignorant cunts...

    That should do it.

    But dare I say that late 40's early 50's is far to young to have that sort of uninformed view. They were young enough when they lived through the eighties, and nineties, and now the 21st century to know better if they read, opened a news paper, or even watched a learned news channel and educated themselves about homosexuals, hetereosexuals, HIV and AIDS. They were, in the truest sense of the word, ignorant pigs and guilty of hate crime while they were at it!?!?

    But sorry you had to experience that first hand. Never a pleasant experience no matter how thick skinned you are.
     
  16. AM_092

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    That's just so upsetting. I really dislike discriminatory people. I just don't understand what the point is. The world already has so many problems. I've come in contact with many homophobic people, and I just think they are really (and I mean really) thick. I try to explain to them what it actually is to be 'gay' or 'bi' and they think it's a disease.

    For example, I was talking to some people in my class (getting to know new people), and this one guy suddenly says that he has a 'great fear' of homosexuals. It was so stupid and ignorant of him to make such a statement, and it was totally uncalled for.
    He also said that he hated gays because they're gonna rape him... (yes, what a dickhead).
    The topic went on and this other chick (who I believe has mental issues), said that gay people are gay because we have mental problems... I tried to explain/defend, but it didn't seem to get through to their thick heads. I've stopped talking to those people.

    But honestly I think nowadays, the number of 'straight' people who are 'fine' with homosexuals/bisexuals are actually greater than the number of those who are homophobes.

    It's truly ignorance.
     
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    Dave....DAMN RIGHT!!! As for the OP, if this ever happens again take note!! Don't let the haters, no matter how old they may be, get away with it!!
     
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    Yeah, I'm sort of in that age group too (in my case, mid-40s...) and I don't share their beliefs either. In fact, I have borne the brunt of some similar beliefs about me, only in my case I wasn't gay, just people thought I was because I have traditionally opposite-gender interests. In fact, I think I am accepting of gays BECAUSE of this. I wasn't taught acceptance of gays. I grew up around a bunch of homophobes, although my parents did become more accepting as they got older, interestingly enough!

    Hey, watch it with those "Old" comments! :biggrin1:

    (Those women had old ATTITUDES though... I'm in that age group but do not have those kinds of attitudes...)

    Actually, my age group seems to be THE most intolerant age group, even moreso than older people. Nearly everyone I knew in my age group have been sexist, racist and homophobic. I had to get older friends (in the "hippie" generation) to have a bit more tolerant friends. I didn't know that many younger people but it seems that younger people are more tolerant even than the older... the younger people seem (with some exceptions) to be more like me, whereas people in my age group (again, with some exceptions) seem to be MORE intolerant and narrow minded than any other age group except maybe the very old.

    And no, I'm not intolerant based on age! I have friends in all age groups these days - even in my own age group! I'm basing my opinion on my limited experience with people my age from back when I was in school and was around mostly people around my own age.
     
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    QFT!

    C.B.:saevil:
     
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    Not that I'm gay, but I would've said to the one that most resembled Newt Gingrich in appearance,

    "Oh my God, who would've thought Newt Gingrich would be in the store today in our little town ? May I take a picture with you and have your autograph, I just loved your last book."

    Or even,

    "Look it's Jimmy Johnson, should I get a picture with my cell phone ? Nobody will ever believe it ?"

    Or still yet,

    "Wow, It's true what they say, ultimately that menopausal women turn into angry and frustrated penis-less men. I mean, inevitably you wind up with a man anyway ? Look, is that a hint of a 5 o'clock shadow on her face ?"

    And as final suggestions, just comment amongst yourselves, something like these.

    "Wow, I really can't believe she wore that outfit, it's just beyond her to pull it off. She should've just stayed home in her trailer. Anyone can look in the mirror and make that call before coming out looking like that."

    or

    "How terrible, can you believe that hairstyle ?, there's no way even her salon stylist could've ever done that and pulled it off with her hair."

    And my John Candy, "Uncle Buck" movie favorite for the old bag(s) with a growth on their faces:

    "Take this quarter, go downtown, and have a rat gnaw that thing off your face! Good day to you, madam. "
     
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