Player girls, playing the field

[ClaireTalon]

Do you know (or are you) a player girl? Someone who does the dating on her terms, and handles sex and affairs like usually only men are allowed to without attracting the frowning? And what'd you say are the reactions to that behavior?

 

[AMikkell]

I thought most girls were players; I just believed that they had different ways of playing.

 

[B_NineInchCock_160IQ]

I certainly know plenty that are. They just typically don't brag about it the same way certain guys do.

 

[Chuck64]

If it seems like I've got a story for everything, you should know my friends are all crazy (in a good way) and a cloud of drama follows me wherever I go...

My best girlfriend does porn professionally... just for fun! She gets paid for her performances, but the day job easily pays all the bills. She also has several regular guys who show up at a moment's notice. One doesn't even know her first name. They just call each other pool boy and pool girl.

 

[naughtynymph]

There's a saying in England, "What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander" if men can do it why shouldn't women.

 

[Dorset]

There's a saying in England, "What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander" if men can do it why shouldn't women.

WTF???

That's definitely not in common use in the UK, a real hick town saying for all the US readers

 

[climber]

it's been my experience that us guys will brag about the 6 women we've ever been with as a virtual army of conquests....in my case 4.....trillion......

whereas girls will have been with many more men then they claim to have been with.


that's just my experience.....don't get all snappy!!!

i'll break out the boot.....don't you think that i won't!

 

[RideRocket]

My best girlfriend does porn professionally... just for fun! She gets paid for her performances, but the day job easily pays all the bills. She also has several regular guys who show up at a moment's notice. One doesn't even know her first name. They just call each other pool boy and pool girl.

I want to be your friend and meet this girl...
:smile:

I agree with Climber though. Men tend to brag more about their 'conquests' whereas women tend to downplay theirs.

 

[D_Elijah_MorganWood]

I want to be your friend and meet this girl...
:smile:

I agree with Climber though. Men tend to brag more about their 'conquests' whereas women tend to downplay theirs.

I've met plenty of women that brag but as a rule, men do it more than women.

Yes, there is a double standard and I don't know why. Personally I love a sexy, confident woman who has as much sex as she wants with no apologies.

 

[Bill UK]

I seem to date a lot of girls like this, I don't have a problem with it. What guys need to remember is that girls like sex too! These women who like to fuck around tend to easier to get on with, there aren't all the crappy issues of "If I sleep with you on the first date you'll think less of me".

Increasingly girls seem to be be more confident, more voracious....and to be honest guys don't we prefer women with a little experience to the stereotypical virgin who doesn't know a blow job from a pineapple?

I know women talk to other women about sex more than we do.

One downside to promiscuous behaviour (in men and women) is that they will find it harder to form a long term monogamous relatioship...think about it, if a girl tells you she's also sleeping with xy and Z you're not going to see it as long term.

Promiscuous people tend to be less trusting or emotionally shallower.....I know I'm one of them!

 

[RideRocket]

Yes, there is a double standard and I don't know why. Personally I love a sexy, confident woman who has as much sex as she wants with no apologies.

Too bad there's the double standard of "guys being studs" and "gals being sluts." I like women who know what they want and get it without all the drama or stigma being attached.

I also think attitudes towards women and sex are changing though (for the better). More women are gaining confidence regarding their sexuality and debunking the stud/slut bias.
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Girl Power Rocks!

 

[wellhungcamboy]

Most of the women I've been with have had voracious sexual appetites. (Thank god) :tongue:

 

[BobLeeSwagger]

I make a distinction between women who take charge of their own sex lives and don't let others judge them, and women who just sleep around a lot for the hell of it. Even a relative nympho knows that a lot of partners are just lousy in bed and not worth the time. To me her confidence and enjoyment of sex isn't necessarily related to how often or how many peope she's done it with.

 

[Stursberg]

Do you know...(s)omeone who does the dating on her terms, and handles sex and affairs like usually only men are allowed to?

I know a married woman who has gone out on her husband for many years who has an agenda that any lover she takes must adhere to, pertaining to the times and places they get together, what priorities that she has that would override a time they were supposed to get together, etc... She also has requirements as to her needs for a lover who is both well hung and able to satisfy her. Like most men who you say set their terms, she is a caring and kind person who is not into putting anybody down. She just knows what she wants and can 9and will) only participate in a liason when it fits into her broader life. As in most things in life, it is not what you do, but how you do it. She sets her terms to make it a win-win for both herself and any lover she finds to fit her needs.

 

[SurferGirlCA]

The key to the question for me is "does the dating on her own terms" and I am all for that. I think it's great that women now have a more level playing field in the sexual arena, in that female sexual desire is more widely acknowledged and even celebrated. However, my sexuality is a very intense, very personal aspect of who I am. Personally, I'm not interested in emulating male sexual behavior (or the behavior of some guys, at least). I hear stories about 15 year-old girls giving guys blowjobs instead of a good-night kiss at the end of a date - no reciprocation - on a first date - because in some circles there's now "peer pressure" for girls to do that. I don't think that's any advancement, except for horny teen males. Beyond that, I think every adult has to decide for him/herself how they use or experience their sexuality.

 

[D_Sir Dancealot]

There's a saying in England, "What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander" if men can do it why shouldn't women.

I agree!!

 

[naughtynymph]

WTF???

That's definitely not in common use in the UK, a real hick town saying for all the US readers

That's a load of BS, it's in common use all over the UK, and does that mean you think that all the US readers are hicks.

 

[windtalkerways]

I have always lived life on my own terms
with regard to satisfying my sexual appetite.

Yes, the double standard is slowly beginning
to diminish but many still look askance at
females who aren't afraid to say they have a
very healthy sexual appetite and are going
to pursue liasons to enjoy it.

For the most part, the males I have
encountered are more than happy to have
me share my passion, as most of them have
been sorely short-changed at home by
women who will only have sex with them a
few times a month.

It is a veritable smorgasbord for adventurous
females, they just have to learn discrimination
in their...um....dining habits, shall we say?

 

[D_Trumbell Trickledick]

Hmm .. I have been married for 20 years - My husband is great with most things but has no interest in sex with me .. I find mine elsewhere and not too many guys complain about it .. lol.. I can tell him I need some space or some time and he can cover for me with my kids or whatever - I can be the ultimate dark horse ..
I think its a great way to live if you can pull it off ..

Samantha

Looking at your profile pics, I can see why they never complain!